for flouting hospital 'no sibling' rule for ebf baby?

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DS had an operation yesterday. He needed me to be there. Breastfed baby also needed me.

I took my Aunt to look after my ds and we were sent initially to a waiting room. The plan was for her to keep him there and for me to pop out of the ward to feed him.

However, we were there for half an hour and my ds started to ask for a feed, so I started to bf. Literally 2 sucks in, we were called. I pulled him off and he screamed so I jigged him about (which quietens him as a distraction) and moved towards the ward with him in tow.

The nurse told me he wasn't allowed. I told her that I needed to finish his feed and then I would take him back to my aunt. I offered to vrubg ds ub 10 mins but she got arsey saying that ds would have to have his operation cancelled if he missed his slpt. Nurse started tutting about him disturbing the other patients and that there was a strict no-sibling rule that I knew about as it was in the letter (it was).

so WIBU?

Chunderella Sat 09-Feb-13 16:25:36

Sock I wasn't asking you whether you thought you'd phrased it that way, I was telling you that you had. While I can believe that it was unintentional and you weren't actually offering advice, especially given that you obviously failed to understand what I actually said, your second sentence walks dangerously close to a personal attack. I'd hate to think you were breaching MN guidelines.

Uppermid I think if you insist on citing Staffordshire again, it would be sensitive to indicate that you realise the two situations are totally different.

IneedAsockamnesty Sat 09-Feb-13 17:21:45

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Uppermid Sat 09-Feb-13 19:16:44

I never said the situations were the same, (but why let facts get in the way of you twisting things to your advantage) I used it as an example to say whilst the NHS is great its no where near perfect and the original nurse in the instance was wrong for all the reasons set out several times by star and several others who bothered to actually read the post and not set out to prove star a liar

StillSlightlyCrumpled Sat 09-Feb-13 20:22:12

In all fairness we don't known what scene greeted the nurse. The waiting rooms on daycase are very busy. She probably took in the feeding baby, buggy, changing bag etc and was met with the OP' insistence at taking the baby through and thought 'here we go again, someone else who wants to change the rules.' When it was explained star was able to take the baby and all was well. I really don't think it warrants a phone call, email or a letter but it is the OP' right to do so if she wishes.

As a parent I have always gone into the anaesthetic room whilst my son is put to sleep. I've never gone into the theatre as he is already under GA. Not in a million years would I expect to take a bf baby into there. Highly, highly sterile area. The nurse probably thought that the OP was planning to have the baby with her the whole time but just needed it explaining.

As an aside, we have had cause to make two very serious complaints to the NHS regarding our child. I wouldn't find the op' complaint comparable in the slightest. Hers isn't a sign of a failing NHS (like the Stafford report) but of a patients representative that hadn't called ahead to confirm taking the baby was ok.

A proper storm in a teacup!

Chunderella Sat 09-Feb-13 21:59:31

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MarthasHarbour Sun 10-Feb-13 18:08:30

Eloquently pu crumpled

MarthasHarbour Sun 10-Feb-13 18:14:56

put bliddy DS nicking my phone!

Anyway I agree with crumpled, this was a non issue in the grand scheme of things. If the baby was indeed ebf then there was room for discussion, but not a patient complaint.

And if we insist on bringing Staffordshire into it, well that should put it into perspective, that is a different league altogether.

Uppermid Sun 10-Feb-13 19:09:39

Of course Staffordshire is in a different league, I said that at the time. I used it to illustrate that the NHS isn't perfect, there are many examples I could have used but that was the first that came to mind as its what's happening in the news now, apologies if that has offended.

The op hasn't written to complain about the nurse but to comment on their supposed baby friendly policy, in order to help future mums and babies.

Totally agree this is a non issue, my problem with this thread has been the attitude shown to star based on who she is rather than the initial query. If anyone else had posted this, they would have received support.

MarthasHarbour Mon 11-Feb-13 12:26:55

I am afraid i disagree uppermid it is nothing to do with who star 'is'. (she has made me giggle on a recent thread so i have no beef with her - i didnt know who she 'was' before that). I know (and have seen) that any poster who had revealed themselves as not being completely open about the situation to make a point would have been called on. It is defensive to suggest otherwise.

Uppermid Mon 11-Feb-13 15:30:29

Maybe you didn't Martha but others have admitted they did

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