To ask why do people 'loud parent'

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ElevenCent Fri 01-Feb-13 18:24:01

This woman from my NCT group does it all the time with her DS when we all meet for coffee and it's just ridiculous. She literally verbalises every thing they do with a question at the end and some sort of lesson. Eg mummy can't find her phone in her handbag can she James? Phone, James, PHONE. We ring daddy on the phone don't we? / Mummy is going to get you a rice cake, isn't she James? But we only have three left don't we, till we get to the shops. One, two, three. Shops. SHOPS.

I do engage with DD, naturally, but nowhere near on this level!

Sorry, I know this isn't a new topic, but it is so ridiculous. A couple of times I've echoed it with "what is mummy going to do tonight DD, drink gin, that's right, GIN. What does mummy like with her gin? Tonic, that's
right isn't it DD? But she might need to have it neat tonight, isn't that right?" however she is usually too absorbed in explaining to him why coffee is hot, HOT, and why it is sometimes in a mug MUG, sometimes in a cup CUP and why only mummies MUM-MIES drink coffee and not babies BABIES and why and why and why and why and why

emilywq Sat 09-Feb-13 13:09:12

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Boomerwang Wed 06-Feb-13 07:32:05

Now I'm worried I don't talk to my kid enough. I never do any of that singing. I felt a prize prat when I went through some of the moves at baby group singing yesterday. I pull faces and kiss her but don't yak away about stuff in public, only at home and that's mostly to myself anyway.

I made up my own songs. "Seeee the peeeeeezzza, count the olives! One, two threeeee......."
Sad Sad Sad

AudrinaAdare Tue 05-Feb-13 21:54:37

I was an over-talkative parent for about 48 hours. I even gave newborn --DD a guided tour of our house as soon as I brought her home <cringe> blush XH thought I was mad and DD couldn't have given a shit, obviously.

But she did what babies do, cried, fed, got colic and she'd beaten it out of me by the end of the week, and is punishing me further by being twelve and un-shutupable.

scottishmummy Tue 05-Feb-13 21:49:04

I fear twas me go wrong end stick, I was clearly perturbed as thought you preferred maths to pizza

nickelbabe Tue 05-Feb-13 21:46:40

actually, dh and I probably look like pps a lot. we sing religious and classical music to dd all the time.

mainly because we spend all our frigging lives performing the stuff for real and it's ingrained onto our poor brains.

scottishmummy Tue 05-Feb-13 21:43:10

indeed pop a stuffed crust in his yap if he interrupts the pizza

nickelbabe Tue 05-Feb-13 21:41:49

nothing wrong with singing the periodic table if you do it like this

LaQueen Tue 05-Feb-13 21:40:37

No, I meant the hmm face was for my DH...at faffying about with maths, when pizza was on the table...

scottishmummy Tue 05-Feb-13 21:34:33

are you getting wrong end stick?what's humphyhmmface for
I would rather eat pizza, peruse dips than do maths
the yum was a clue that I like pizza

LaQueen Tue 05-Feb-13 21:29:22

Well, quite scottish ...there is a time and a place for boring maths drivel, and frankly I for one, don't want to hear it hmm

scottishmummy Tue 05-Feb-13 21:15:21

pizza hut, yum
to hell with maths, yay pizza hut ESP the dips and jalapeños

LaQueen Tue 05-Feb-13 21:11:37

Must admit, DH (who was a sad Maths geek at grammar school, always winning the maths prize, I'm afraid...) was caught explaining the difference between a denominator/nominator (are they the right terms) to the DDs when we were in Pizza Hut last weekend.

In his defence he'd just collected DD1 from her 11+ tutor, who'd been taking her through her paces at fractions - but I gave him this look hmm nonetheless.

scottishmummy Tue 05-Feb-13 20:13:52

singing not a problem,jiggling,regular rapport not a problem
we've all been there the jiggled who needed a song...or else
the performance parent would have song periodic table,loudly with accompanying explanation of noble gases to glassy eyed baby and onlookers

drmummmsy Tue 05-Feb-13 20:08:04

oh me too Katie only because my dc was a howler, at everything, the second you put her down - i was a nervous wreck! if i wasn't singing at her i was throwing constant snacks at her! just so she wouldn't erupt confused

was a nightmare

yes that's right, 'hi, my name's drmummmsy, and i sang 'the wheels on the bus' whilst on the sodding bus '

plus i was about 20 and very insecure in my new role

Not only did I talk, I sang too.
Yes, I was THAT mother confused

Glittertwins Tue 05-Feb-13 19:10:03

I can't take myself seriously with some of the things I've said to them!

exoticfruits Tue 05-Feb-13 19:00:28

The first rule of good parenting 'never take yourself too seriously'!

nickelbabe Tue 05-Feb-13 12:38:39

exotic - i was doing it to my DH, not to my DD wink

and possibly blush

LaQueen Tue 05-Feb-13 10:27:04

Pag me too. I always laugh at myself far more (because there's so much opportunity) than I ever really laugh at anyone else.

Life is too short to take yourself so bleddy seriously all the time.

aldiwhore Tue 05-Feb-13 10:21:28

On the flip side to the children of loud parents being unable to entertain themselves or think for themselves without stimulation.... both my children couldn't WAIT to get to school, probably for peace and quiet. grin

Pagwatch Tue 05-Feb-13 10:16:26

The good thing about being able to laugh at yourself is that,if you are anything like me, there are literally hours of amusement. I am such an arse. I'm still quite nice with it though. A lots of my best friends are arses
grin

ChestyLeRoux Tue 05-Feb-13 09:55:30

You would all hate me I talk and do mannerisms like the cbeebies presenters.I cant help it I just find myself doing it! wink

LaQueen Tue 05-Feb-13 09:51:19

Pag I think some people are born without the ability to gently laugh at themselves...I very much suspect it's (sadly) the very same people who speak very loudly and continously at their children, all the time...

Joshing aside...I genuinely think it's to do with, I don't really know what to call it, Social Sensitivity, maybe? These people just seem to bludgeon their way through life, trailing a Humourless Void in their wake.

They're just oblivious to the 1001 tiny social indicators which would allow them to slot much more smoothly into life, and that would make others warm towards them.

Such is life.

LaQueen Tue 05-Feb-13 09:44:26

Hands up who thinks that eliza is getting very suspiciously defensive and hissy hmm

[raises hand]

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