I'm a childminder so work from home usually 8-6pm and DH is also self-employed doesn't have set hours and pops in & out most days. I'm beginning to get really pissed off as he always needs to be nagged to get up in the morning and often disappears around tea/bedtime (sometimes work sometimes to the pub but in truth I don't always know which) and it feels like he's very conveniently busy when I or the children need him. This morning for example I had 2 babies to feed, 2 packed lunches to make & 4 children (2 DC 2 mindees) to give breakfast before doing the school run & DH is in bed on his laptop despite me asking for help at least twice. I get that he isn't involved with minded children but is it too much to ask that he helps with dressing, teeth cleaning etc his own kids? And yesterday he's home doing paperwork all afternoon but at 4pm went out & despite asking that he's home for 6 to help with DC he rocks in at 8pm then goes into DC who I've just put to bed & plays fun dad for half an hour before going to the pub. Tell me I'm not unreasonable to suggest he's opting out of day-to-day family life & needs to organise his day better and pitch in when the kids are here . He always used to be so hands-on & share everything but since I've stopped going out to work and started CMing he seems to think I'm sat twiddling my fingers all day and therefore his share of parenting/chores is redundant.
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