to go to america alone for 4 weeks

[whyisthepathsounclear]

So, my husband left me a few months ago, after only 5 months of marriage. Horrible situation.

Anyway, I am trying hard to move on and am coping very well duringbthe working week. The weekends are pretty sad and lonely though. I am atteacher and the school hols are the hardest time. Xmas was horrid. 2 whole weeks alone with my sadness! So, even though it is a while away I am already dreading the summer. 6 weeks is an awful lot of time to fill.

I have been thinking of going over to the states for 4 weeks, maybe travelling around a bit and doing something I would never have donew if we were together. However, when I told my parents and some friends my plan they were horrified. They think I am being rash. I am preferring to think of it as being impulsive and enjoying my youth now I am free of cheating ex.

Is it really a stupid idea? Anyone else done this that can offer advice?

[whyisthepathsounclear]

Sorry for mistakes, am on iPad.

[RandomMess]

Sounds like a great idea!

[Bunbaker]

Go for it. Sorry you have had such a rough time.

[MushroomSoup]

What a fab plan! Totally agree with you. If you don't like it, or feel lonely or vulnerable, you can just come home early. Go for it!

[Nancy66]

Go!!

There's a website for holiday buddies - if you don't fancy going alone - but can't remember what it's called.

If you're not fussed about going on your own then you should def do it.

I travelled alone through Australia in my 20s and had a great time - you always meet people en route that you can hang out with

[iusedtobefun2]

Go! You will have a fab time....

Warning - you may not want to come back!

[ILikeBirds]

I think it sounds great, I'd love to be able to do another long trip to the states.

[financialwizard]

Definitely go. You will love it, and it will probably help to heal you too.

[Shakey1500]

Abso-bloody-lutely go!

[roughtyping]

Go. A girl I went to school with is currently cycling the east coast of America down to Mexico (not sure if any further). Looks amazing!

[littlewhitebag]

Sounds fab. I love going to the states! My DD is planning to work there for the entire summer and i am so jealous!

[Ragwort]

Sounds a fantastic idea, go for it. I am sure there are Youth Hostels, or the equivlent, which would be fun and cheap. Have you any contacts at all in the USA, ie: teaching organisation or similar (if you want) - or just enjoy your own company [smile.

[mummytime]

Go! If you can't do it now as a young child-free parent, then when can you?
Do plan well and make sure you don't go into dodger areas of cities, or the desert without water, but have fun.

[badguider]

sounds great... you could even think about working on a summer camp, with your profession you'd get a great senior role.

[TaggieCampbellBlack]

Don't go alone.








TAKE ME WITH YOU!!!!!!!!!!!

[Ragwort]

I travelled around the States for 6 months (admitedly with my DH) but we found Americans incredibly friendly and got lots of invitations to stay with people/use their second home etc etc.

[TheApprentice]

I don't know what age you are but it may be worth checking out TrekAmerica - I think they cater for 18 - 38 year olds. They do lots of road trips in various parts of US and lots of people of different nationalities go, and often on their own.

I went on a month's trip around Alaska with them about 15 years ago and it really was great. Not cheap though.

PS I'm a teacher too and before I settled down with my now DH (I married quite late) I found the holidays really hard so I do sympathise.

[LadyBeagleEyes]

Of course you should go.
Stay in youth hostels, it's an amazing way to meet people. Whereabouts are you planning?
Oh and go out tomorrow and buy a Rough Guide or a Lonely Planet and start planning.
Lucky you.

[nonpractisingVirgin]

Why on earth don't they want you to go? Can't think of a better way to spend your summer holiday, I'm really jealous! Sorry to hear you've had a rough time with exH though

[whyisthepathsounclear]

thanks guys. I am suddenly feeling so much more confident and excited about it. Ido like my own company but I have never travelled alone before and I am quite shy about talking to new people. I just want to be out of my comfort zone a little I think.
The summer camp idea is a great idea, I hadn't thought of that. Something to look forward to and focus on if I could do it. I am fed upmof feeling sensory for myself!