To tell them to find their own way to the airport in a foreign country

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EspressoMonkey Sun 20-Jan-13 09:30:27

First of all, sorry, long story and first world problem.

DH, DCs and i live abroad for DH's job. We live in a rented house close to DH's work as it is not really easy for foreigners to buy property where he works. I miss England and our lovely home there, so last year DH bought me a Ski Chalet as a birthday present / thank you for leaving your family and job in England to follow me around the world, present. He insisted it was my chalet, i could decorate it how i wanted etc, do what i wanted with it.

The chalet is in a fabulous ski resort and to me it is very much our home. We spend most weekends there, we do not rent it out as a holiday chalet.

Last year MIL asked whether HSIL and her uni flat mates could visit for a weeks snowboarding holiday. I was reluctant to agree. DH's does not really know his HSis and when she has visited us in other homes she has been very messy (straightens hair over sink leaving behind lots of hair etc etc) and she never helps out at all. Reluctantly i agreed, MIL insisted her friends were nice and they would help out and babysit DCs in exchange for free board.

HSIL and her friends booked plane tickets which meant they landed late at night with no way of getting to the chalet so DH drove a 6 hour round trip to collect them from the airport.

They have been here all week and as i guessed, have been hard work. They have done nothing to help out around the house, not bothered to help with dinner or clean away afterwards, not helped with DCs or bothed to even buy me a bunch if flowers or some chocs to say thank you for having them. We all eat together but they talk amongst themselves and make little conversation.

On Wednesday DH was called back to work with a crisis, leaving DCs, myself and HSIL and her friends. Since then they have been worse, going out at night and getting drunk and returning at 2/3am and waking DCs and i with their noise. Last night things worsened. DCs and i were woken at 3am, i could hear male voices and smelt cigarette smoke. Our house is strictly non smoking, especially as we have a baby. I went into the lounge and interrupted the party. I asked the young men to stop smoking in my home and to please leave as i didn't know who they were. The young men were local lads and were very apologetic for smoking and waking us and explained they didn't know it was a private home. As they left one of HSIL's friends, under her breath, called me a snotty cow. I turned around and politely challeneged her on her comment. She repeated it and called me an old hag too (34 BTW, she is 20).

I went back to bed fuming and in tears. This morning i woke them all up at 8.00am. They are due to fly back home tonight and i assume were expecting DH or me to take them to the airport. I explained that because DH was not here and because we had had a lot of snow lately and the minibus was snowed in, they could make their own way back to the airport via public transport. I was not driving them 6 hours round trip. They had 12 hours to get back to the airport themselves. The journey is a bus and two train rides and takes a total of 3.5 / 4 hours. An hour later i heard the door bang and went to their rooms. They have left and take all their stuff. They have not said good bye. The room where the two girls were sleeping has been trashed. Make up; lipstick, foundation and other stuff has been smeared into my beautiful new White Company bed sheets. It doesn't look like an accident as it is on all the pillows, duvet and sheet.

I phoned DH at work and told him what had happened. It was a broken line and DH was v. busy at work so i know he wasn't really aware of the whole story as it was hardto talk. But he questioned whether i had checked they had money to get to the airport and whether the trains were running. I hadn't. I have checked since and the trains are running. But have i done the right thing? AIBU?

BlueberryHill Fri 25-Jan-13 12:26:36

Please OP an update? Please send a photo of the sheets to your MIL to prove it wasn't an accident.

EspressoMonkey Fri 25-Jan-13 12:38:52

UPDATE: err, not much of an update.

DH still not back, two business trips have rolled into one, he is back on the weekend though.

Have spoken to DH in detail though and he is angry and blush about his family now. Feel quite sorry for him so have agreed to leave it all up to him to deal with as he see fit.

Bumped into the ski instructors twice since the weekend. Nice chaps.

diddl Fri 25-Jan-13 12:59:00

Never mind a pic of the sheets-I´m hankering after a pic of the Chalet!!

HintofBream Fri 25-Jan-13 13:06:41

And a pic of the ski instructors!

Gigondas Fri 25-Jan-13 13:48:02

grin At bream.

I feel a bit for your dh as horrid for him.

TeamEdward Fri 25-Jan-13 18:58:00

Oh yes, ski instructors pics very welcome...
<dons cougar ski outfit>

oohlaalaa Fri 25-Jan-13 20:50:53

espressomonkey - can I just say that HSIL must have been very poorly brought up. Her age is no excuse. She sounds a very entitled spoilt person.

I had a friend from uni who's parents had a holiday home, on the welsh coast. When we stayed, we brought all our own food and drink, there were only three of us incl friend for weekend, and afterwards cleaned and tidied the house. Leaving it as we found it. The only thing we didn't do, was our friends parents did not have a tumble drier, so we left all the bedding in laundry basket, but made the beds with fresh bedding.

We also left a bottle of wine, and hand written note for her parents, thanking them. This was a three night break. We would have left a nicer present, but we were poor students at the time.

I'm sorry for what they put you through.

Willabywallaby Sat 26-Jan-13 07:19:01

Oh to be 17 again and pull the ski instructor...

DontmindifIdo Sat 26-Jan-13 09:07:59

Willabywallaby - glad it's not just me who thought that...

Willabywallaby Sat 26-Jan-13 12:45:36

grin

ConferencePear Mon 28-Jan-13 09:49:38

I'd love an update Expresso.

RuleBritannia Mon 28-Jan-13 18:22:06

Update Espresso?

ConferencePear Mon 28-Jan-13 19:55:38

Please accept my profuse and deep apologies for typing Expresso when I should have typed Espresso.
I only offer this apology in order to 'bump' the thread.

Update OP ?
'bump'

BlueberryHill Tue 29-Jan-13 16:53:43

I need closure, I need to know the bad have seen the error of their ways and what the good (ski instructors) look like.

Please update, has HSIL learnt her lesson (I really doubt but you never know).

oohlaalaa Wed 30-Jan-13 19:24:47

I'm afraid I need closure too, so another bump.

DeafLeopard Wed 30-Jan-13 19:43:55

Saw this in active convos and got all excited about an update <<bitterly let down>>

YesIamYourSisterInLaw Wed 30-Jan-13 19:50:27

Op don't keep us all in suspense

Camwombat Thu 31-Jan-13 14:11:45

Espresso whats happened?! We all need want to know what happened when your DH returned... please

oohlaalaa Fri 01-Feb-13 21:52:09

Bumpity bump. I still need closure lovely OP.

5Foot5 Fri 01-Feb-13 23:17:29

Oh I saw this thread get back on page one and got all hopeful for an update....

countingdown Wed 06-Feb-13 09:52:04

Hopeful bump!

EspressoMonkey Wed 06-Feb-13 15:19:28

Apologies, i have been a rather poor Mumsnetter lately. Well UPDATE! DH returned from his business trip. He was v. annoyed with HSIL and agreed she wouldn't be returning. He was somewhat defensive of MIL, but i know he knows she was wrong (incidently i am still waiting for her email with HSIL's email address).

Decided to forget the whole thing.

Then, on Monday DH came home to tell me MIL had been on the phone. She has a new boyfriend who likes to ski and thought it would be nice if we could meet him. She was hankering after an invitation to visit. So i quickly booked a weekend back in Blighty for two weeks time. We are going over there to visit them instead so there is no need for them to trek all the way over here. MIL is perhaps secretly seething, i feel very happy with the outcome. Wonder if HSIL will be at MIL's the weekend we are? Could be interesting...

HintofBream Wed 06-Feb-13 15:23:09

Well you know what to do with MIL's sheets. Don't forget your make up bag.

DeepRedBetty Wed 06-Feb-13 15:24:19

Breathtaking! We can see where sil gets her free-loading gene from!

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