Would you judge us as parents if your child got a crap birthday present at a party?

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M0naLisa Fri 18-Jan-13 10:06:12

Me and DH are skint. Our two boys have a party invitation each for Sunday. Only handed out on Monday this week.
6yr old Is going to a day out with birthday boys parents on the morning with other kids in ds class.
4yr old is going to a local scout hut in the afternoon

We are skint. Would you judge us as parents if we gave a box of Maltesers as presents?

It's all we can afford at the moment. I just don't want the parents thinking were cheap skates :-(

M0naLisa Fri 18-Jan-13 10:07:30

Forgot its Aibu. So

Am I being unreasonable to send Maltesers as presents? hmm

elizaregina Fri 18-Jan-13 10:08:07

no not at all its a credit crunch people would do well to keep reminding themselves of this sometimes!

HOwever I have noticed in some pound shops - colouring books and the like - just incase , for i imagine the same price...

cakebar Fri 18-Jan-13 10:08:14

No. I wouldn't.

It might be better to get something in the pound shop though rather than Malteasers, they have quite a few things like annuals, craft kits that any kid would like.

I would think "thank god its not another cheap plastic toy" based on my experiences with parties! I dont think most parents really care about the presents tbh so just give the malteasers and dont worry about it smile

cakebar Fri 18-Jan-13 10:08:57

x posts, great minds grin

Personally I wouldnt. If I could tell parents not to bring presents I would.

However, not all parents are the same.

elizaregina Fri 18-Jan-13 10:09:18

yeah wh smith sale 75% off can pick stuff up for a pound...which I guess is the budget?

iseenodust Fri 18-Jan-13 10:09:47

No. Your DC are invited as friends. Value of present doesn't come into it.

LovesBeingWokenEveryNight Fri 18-Jan-13 10:09:58

I would eat love it grin

elizaregina Fri 18-Jan-13 10:10:03

indeed! wink

Bramshott Fri 18-Jan-13 10:10:18

My DDs would be DELIGHTED with Maltesers and I wouldn't think twice about it!

stubbornstains Fri 18-Jan-13 10:10:26

No. Because I am skint too. Conversely, any presents that are too expensive would make me cringe, as I know I wouldn't be able to reciprocate.

(YY to the pound shop- you may well be able to get something that looks like it might have cost a fiver somewhere else!)

SundaysGirl Fri 18-Jan-13 10:10:45

No not at all.

I would be pleased your child had come and honestly? 30-odd gifts is kind of obscene anyway with these big parties, on top of what they already get for their birthdays.

NotMostPeople Fri 18-Jan-13 10:11:21

No.

DD had her birthday recently, one of her friends didn't bring a present DD said she'd forgotten it. I know the parents enough to know that money is tight so I suspect that they couldn't afford one. I have no problem with that at all and DD isn't bothered either. Her main priority was that her friends were with her at her birthday party.

Geordieminx Fri 18-Jan-13 10:11:33

No I wouldn't judge either.

fromparistoberlin Fri 18-Jan-13 10:11:38

pound shop crayons and colouring book

bless you, its shite these kids parties cost a damm fortune

RuleBritannia Fri 18-Jan-13 10:11:51

Any gift should be welcomed and the giver thanked. If you must give something, by all means give Maltesers.

If anyone suggests an alternative, just don't give vouchers attached to a particular shop!

M0naLisa Fri 18-Jan-13 10:11:59

We don't have a pound shop sad we have a pound stretcher so could have a muse in there.

I know my boys would be overjoyed with Maltesers but they do like there chocolate. so does mummy blush

AThingInYourLife Fri 18-Jan-13 10:12:08

I would so, so much prefer that your son came to the party than didn't because of worries about buying presents.

Also, a box of Maltesers is not a crap present. smile

5inabed Fri 18-Jan-13 10:12:33

Who cares what the parents think? My lot would be delighted with malteasers even my 7 year old. Although they would need to be quick or they might just become mine!

pinkandred Fri 18-Jan-13 10:13:23

YANBU and I would also get your dc to make a homemade card. Doesnt have to be all crafty, just a piece of A4 doubled over and a nice picture on the front and the birthday message in the middle.

Its not about how much you spend on a present, as long as your child has a gift to give to the birthday child (as its all about the giving and receiving in a child's eyes) then it doesnt really matter what it is.

You can get some good bits and bobs in the pound shop though if you dont really want to get maltesers. (having said that my dc would like a box of maltesers).

Arcticwaffle Fri 18-Jan-13 10:13:45

My dc still love sweets and chocolates above all other things, dd2 got given a box of sweets once for her 6th birthday and I'm sure it was her favourite present.

RuleBritannia Fri 18-Jan-13 10:13:55

You could try your local 99p shop. they have a range of packaged confectionery for 99p so there might be something 'foreign' and therefore unfamiliar there.

cloudpuff Fri 18-Jan-13 10:14:31

I wouldn't judge.

I remember my 8th bday party and recieving a load of box maltesers or quality streets, since when did birthday gifts become so expensive?

I didnt expect gifts for my DD when she had her party, she invited her friends because she wanted them there, not beacuse of what they could giver her. In in full truthfulness my DD tends to favour little poundland bits than more expensive gifts anyway.

YANBU

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