It's my 1st time posting here, so a bit nervous. Hello!
Been married 8 years, have a DS who has just turned 4, and a DD who is nearly 2. DS is a complete chatterbox, talks & asks question from the second he wakes up to the second he goes to sleep DD is going through a clingy phase and will grab my legs and shout if I try to leave the room. I promise this is relevant info!
DH is an amazing husband, is lovely, kind, funny, great dad, helps with housework, works hard etc.. but lately he's seemed really dependant on me, or at least my opinion. I know this sounds like a strange thing to complain about, and I feel like I'm being a bit of a bitch for this winding me up
This morning, for eg, in the space between waking up and leaving for work (about an hour) he had asked me in quick succession, "What's the weather like?" (completely normal question, I hadn't been outside so told him to stick his head out of the window to check) followed by (and here's the problematic bit) "Do you think it's cold? Should I wear an extra jumper? Is my black coat better, or the grey one?" etc etc. then "I feel ill. When I do x it feels y and z. Do you think I should take some medicine? Which medicine is best? What do you think? Where should I buy it? Is it expensive?"
Now all this sounds really innocent, but on his day off it's pretty constant. "I hate my job. Should I change my job? What should I do? What should I have done about that meeting? What can I do about that phone call I have to make? Do you think my colleagues are pissed off with me? How can I study for my exam? Will you help me? I can't do it, can I. What would you do?!" Or, "Did you hear that story on the news? Why would that happen? Does that usually happen? Where did it happen" I don't know if I'm explaining, it very well, but it's not like discussing things, it feels like he wants my opinion on everything he says or does or might do in the future, and I don't know why but it's exhausting!
Am I being a selfish bitch? I really love it that he values my opinions, and believes I have the brains and energy to help him, but after a day of being talked at and questioned by a very talkative DS, followed around and clung to by DD, then hit with a barrage of questions and problems I have to solve, I just want to hide and cry and shout there's not enough of me to go around!
He really is lovely, so I feel terrible for feeling like this. I do love talking to him in general, it's just being followed around when I'm busy and asked loads of questions that is making me a bit twitchy. Oh, and he's started calling me "Mummy", it is freaking me out!
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ThatsNotMySock · 05/01/2013 23:15
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