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to think DH is wrong to be irritated with me

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grugelite Sat 05-Jan-13 21:41:51

My brother is in his final year at university and is currently applying for graduate schemes/jobs. He's been rejected from quite a few but is still in contention for some. I was talking to him today and he is really worried about being not getting a job, he seems to think he's going to end up homeless and that "the world doesn't need him and the world doesn't want him". Its obvious that he isn't sleeping very well and he looks dreadful.

Anyway I told him not to worry because if he graduates and can't find work then he can always stay with me (our parents are a no go in this regard) and that he's my little brothers and there's no way I'd abandon him etc. After he left DH has had a massive go at me for as he must have overheard the conversation saying that I have no right to start making agreements to let anyone come and stay in our home without consulting him and that I was "totally wrong" to make cast-iron promises about future support and obligations that he may have to contribute towards without asking him and now he's gone off to his study sulking.

addictedismoving Sun 06-Jan-13 15:29:06

I currently have a 19yo borother, a 5yo brothier and a 2yo sister (as well as 2 other siblings, but as they have families of their own, its a diffrent situation)

i would without a doubt do exactly what you have just done, and I would know dh would be behind me. I would mention it to him after they had left, but I wouldnt run it by him first because I know I wouldnt need to. He would say yes, no matter what it ment.

I personally think your dh is being very unreasonable and acting very childish

BoneyBackJefferson Sun 06-Jan-13 15:54:49

What I am saying tho is that she has time to ask her DH and if he then says no He IBU

millanator Sun 06-Jan-13 21:19:46

I don't understand why posters seem to think she should of broken him off mid-sentence when he is clearly expressing his feelings to go and ask her husband if it was ok to provide him with some degree of re-assurance. The husband has maorly overreacted considering that there is a good chance this may never happen anyway.

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