Would you have eaten this dinner?

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SurroundedByBlue Sat 05-Jan-13 11:08:32

Thursday P comes home with ingredients to cook dinner, including mince to make meatballs. He leaves it on the side in the kitchen and we forgot about it and ended up having chippy tea.

I didn't realise he hadn't put the mince in the fridge so it stayed there until the middle of the next morning when I noticed it and put it in the fridge.

5pm last night he decides to make his meatballs. Rolls them into balls and leaves them on ghe side for 4 hours whilst he went out for a drink. Cooks them about 9pm and serves them. Cutting into one it was very pink in the middle and I asked him if he thought they were cooked. He says yes, definitely cooked. Not wanting to offend him I say I prefer mine well done (as I was sure they weren't cooked properly but didn't want to labour the point) and pop them back on the griddle for a bit. He puts his back on to cook more and then reserves. I still didn't think they were cooked so pushed them around my plate and ate around them. He ate all his, and mine.

I was probably being a bit fussy but didn't want to risk it at 36 weeks pregnant.

He was up all night with diarreah and is in bed with a stomach ache today. I suggested that maybe the meatballs weren't cooked after all, or had gone off from being out off the fridge. He was unimpressed and took offended saying that I was critical and should have eaten them etc.

Led to a stupid argument about how I'm ungrateful that he'd cooked etc with me pointing out how much I actually do at home (the usual type argument people have, it will be forgotten about in no time) We are both over tired, him after being up with his stomach and me after being up alot with our young child.

But, I still don't think that the meat was ediable.

Would you have eaten them?

hopeful92 Tue 15-Jan-13 11:06:07

You were definately right not to eat them. People saying there is too much angst around this are wrong. You have to be so so careful when pregnant with food being undercooked. Even if something doesn't affect you, or make you sick, it can have affected your baby. The baby in your tummy does not have an immune system that is able to fight off the bacteria harboured in undercooked meat. I would not have eaten it, and your DH had a bad tummy after eating it as well so definately a good job you never ate it!!

purrpurr Fri 11-Jan-13 18:39:05

What an amazing thread. All the very best for you OP.

LoopsInHoops Fri 11-Jan-13 14:01:43

Amazing thread. Well done OP! smile

My highlights: "he can feel free to poison himself all he likes"
"I've been meaning to declutter for ages."
"Is the thread about something other than preppin meatballs, possibly with off meat and the ensuing row about it then?"

How are you now? smile

Yes you did get the better deal, don't you forget it. grin

Feelingood Mon 07-Jan-13 01:15:07

It's one way to get nesting I suppose smile I'm amazed at how upbeat you are and the strength of your perspective.

I put that down to a mothers instinct. Best wishes x

SurroundedByBlue Sun 06-Jan-13 23:14:33

I agree, his tantrum will come at some point but I am trying to head him off a little by making formal arrangements such as the CSA - he won't be able to argue with their evaluation and it takes away his control of whether I deserve the money and what I should be spending it on. Also with seeing dc, I will get something put in writing and stand by it. It's also why I wanted his stuff out as soon as possible, it shows him that this is real and hopefully gets the message across that its not up for discussion. He can be very nasty at times but it will only be words, which I can ignore. His mum is pleased to have him home I think.

I am quite reassured that I am doing the right thing as he mentioned he was tired as he hadn't gotten home until 4am this morning. I think I was meant to be jealous that he'd had a good time or that he could've pulled or something hmm but what I actually thought was what a saddo. So I don't think there are any under lying feeling that will suddenly rush to the surface. Which is good. When I think of him with someone else I only pity her.

I have my babies, new opportunities, and he has his mother who drinks more than he does and liver disease to look forward too. I think I get the better deal smile

TWinklyLittleStar Sun 06-Jan-13 22:41:53

I am still genuinely amazed by how strong you are being.

Little word of warning, without wanting to piss on your chips - he's being formal and polite now, he may well change when it finally sinks in that this isn't a hormonal temper tantrum and you won't be having him home again - watch your back. (Sincerely hope this doesn't happen.)

SurroundedByBlue Sun 06-Jan-13 22:37:16

Thanks everyone.

To be fair, marriedinwhite is totally right, it does give me horrendous indigestion but I get it anyway no matter what I eat or avoid. Worst part of being pregnant I think. It wakes me up of a night and makes me sick, sometimes I think if I'm going to suffer with it anyway it might as well be for something I enjoy.

Today has been good, ex had dc from 12-4 and I had a long soak in the bath with a book and straightened my hair - unheard of, its normally a quick shower and the frizz takes over. Then I decluttered grin a fair few black bags worth and he took them with him when he dropped dc off. All very formal and polite.

I've got the midwife tomorrow and will let her know the situation, I am coping fine at the moment but in the newborn exhausted phase I might need a helping hand and would rather have any information in advance to what support is out there.

I should have done this ages ago! I think sometimes you have to really reach the end of your teather before finally doing something about it though, I would probably have been talked round or worn down before but not a chance this time. Thanks again for all your support.

Top decluttering Op!
Now you need to add "poor meat hygiene" on the red flag thread. The nation needs to know wink

simplesusan Sun 06-Jan-13 20:50:47

Well done Blue. You will probably feel less stressed out and able to relax now. Who needs an arsehole like that.

KenLeeeeeee Sun 06-Jan-13 20:41:02

OP, I am in awe of you. Well done for getting rid of that terrible oxygen thief. All the very best for a fresh start with your dc!

EnjoyResponsibly Sun 06-Jan-13 19:41:53

TBH a chippy dinner used to give me galloping heartburn during late pregnancy.

Blue I applaud you. I bloody love a woman who has the courage of her convictions.

CaptainVonTrapp Sun 06-Jan-13 18:35:51

grin I wonder if 'ltb' will now be replaced by 'time to declutter'?

diddl Sun 06-Jan-13 17:43:48

Wow!

Have to laugh at the odd "no I wouldn´t have eaten it..." still coming up!

"I've been meaning to declutter for ages."
grin

pigletmania Sun 06-Jan-13 16:54:18

Wow just read the rest of your replies surrounded by, yes your well shy of him he sounds dreadful. Good on you smile

pigletmania Sun 06-Jan-13 16:49:14

No I wouldn't after it was stating around for all that time

hermioneweasley Sun 06-Jan-13 16:44:08

Blue - you are awesome!

Pandemoniaa Sun 06-Jan-13 16:36:36

When there are fresh ingredients for a healthy meal, I wouldn't have a chippy tea

I'm quite impressed with the height of your horse and how comfortably you are sat upon it.

But I really, really, really applaud Blue and the stand she has taken. She's got rid of a lazy, entitled cocklodger and I'd say she was entitled to as many chippy teas as she wants. Whenever she wants.

FellatioNelson Sun 06-Jan-13 16:29:45

It doesn't sound ideal, but with mince it usually starts to turn very grey/brown and not red (even before cooking) if it's less than fresh, and can have a very distinctive gamey taste to it once it goes on the turn a bit, so if your meatball was still pink inside and tasted fine, chances are it would not have done you any harm.

But I don't think you are being unreasonable to have concerns.

marriedinwhite Sun 06-Jan-13 16:22:00

Chippy tea at 36 wks pg, well I had heartburn, constipation and gen bloatedness by then and the last thing I cd have faced would have been something from the chipshop. If there is good food that can be cooked then I think trhat shd have been soeted for the op. We're only talking mince here not boeuf wellington. And I bet the op hjad to go to the chippy too.

Findingmyself Sun 06-Jan-13 15:59:19

Marriedinwhite, what is wrong with a chippy tea at 36 weeks pregnant? The op has only mentioned having the one, not having it for 3 meals a day 7 days a week....

TWinklyLittleStar Sun 06-Jan-13 15:27:38

Wow Blue! I did not see this coming. You sound so decisive and strong, I am incredibly impressed. Well done you.

FunnysInLaJardin Sun 06-Jan-13 13:46:40

and now having RTT I would like to say congratulations OP for getting rid. Well done!

marriedinwhite Sun 06-Jan-13 13:38:31

Woah. OK not just about meatballs. I tried to be polite OP and not say what sort of filthy git would cook with meat he'd left out all night and then some when he went down the pub. Have only gone up to this page - good luck and well done. And actually if he had been looking after you he'd have made a nice dinner on day one rather than you ending up down the chippy.

Sorry more going on than I realised.

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