aibu or is my house mate?

[raspberrypeachtea]

There was 5 of us that live in one house. We decided to go for drinks last night and when we got house we ordered pizza.

I then remembered that I had left a bag of food shopping in my car, I ran out to get it came back in and quickly put the things that needed to go in the fridge away. They'd already started eating the pizza so I left the rest of the shopping by the sofa and quickly grabbed a slice whilst there was actually some left.

I of course forgot about the one bag of shopping. Woke up this morning ridiculously late for work, literally don't even have time for a quick coffee.

I come home and see that the shopping bag of food has been moved and placed on the floor right next to the bin.

We had a house meeting tonight to discuss a bill, and then it was said does anyone else have anything they want to say - I mentioned that I'd come home and found my bag of food left next to the bin and could whoever did it just not touch my things and especially place them next to a bin.

The girl who it was has since fallen out with me.

She comes storming into my room to tell me how angry she is. Because I shouldn't have brought it up in front of everyone as I knew it was her that did it. (Yes I had my suspicions that it was her but I wasn't 100% sure)

And that everyone else unpacks their shopping straight away and I was making the place look untidy and cluttered.

Seriously it was one bag left next to the sofa by mistake which hadn't even been there for a day and would have been unpacked as soon as I got home from work. Where as she's acting as if I've just done a months shop and left all the bags littered around the living room for weeks.


I know it's petty but it's pissed me off and I can hear her slagging me off the minute I left the room.

Aibu or is she?

[rubyslippers]

you're both being really petty

[thebody]

Well why didn't she unpack it for you.. She sounds a bit nasty.

[Tee2072]

Sounds like you both need to grow up. Why didn't you just ask her if she'd moved it rather than bringing it up in front of everyone?

[scurryfunge]

Is it a boarding house for 12year olds?

[raspberrypeachtea]

Believe me ruby I know I'm being petty. But in a house share things do get realllllly petty.

[msrisotto]

You're both being petty. In a shared house, there's always one bag of shopping, pair of shoes, this that the other cluttering the place up and making it hard to keep clean so if I was her, i'd be irritated by it too.

[raspberrypeachtea]

Tee I hadn't seen her to ask her.

I didn't know for sure if it was her and could have been one of the other three, seemed like a good time to bring it up as we were all at home at the same time (which is very rare)

[ImperialSantaKnickers]

I thought this was Mumsnet not NotVeryGoodEpisodeOfSomeSitcomNet?

[kinkyfuckery]

YAbothBU. Grow up.

[raspberrypeachtea]

Can I ask how I'm being unreasonable?

[JazzAnnNonMouse]

Both petty. If you can't handle living in a shared house (I don't blame you, other people would piss me off too) why don't you try and move out?

[EllenParsons]

You are both being U and petty. This is a non issue! I don't even get why you are fighting about it. I have lived in plenty of house shares and I don't think it's normal to argue about stuff this trivial tbh!

[exoticfruits]

If you are going to share houses you have to let go of the trivial stuff! Both are equally unreasonable-on a scale of 1-10 it is off the bottom.

[Tee2072]

So it was next to the bin? So what?

[AnnoyingOrange]

At least it wasn't in the bin

[Aspiemum2]

Not sure why you brought it up at the meeting tbh? Your shopping was still in the bag, just moved to (I assume) a place your housemate considered to be less in the way?
I agree with her that it wasn't really a point you needed to make at that time and as you had your suspicions it was her you could have had a quiet word. Not sure you needed to though, she only moved a bag at the end of the day.

That said she seems to be overreacting now too - mountain out of a molehill on both sides I would say.

[EuroShagmore]

I predict this houseshare will not last long....

[somedayma]

YABU but so was she. However I have lived in many places where even the slightest grievance makes me want to murder my flatmate/ flatmates. therefore you are both NBU. House sharing can be incredibly grim and tense

[Gumby]

Perhaps if you ask on the student board?

[CommunistLegoBloc]

She moved your bag? So what?!

You asked her not to move your stuff - petty. She got annoyed at you because your stuff was creating clutter. Petty, but more understandable than you going off on one because she dared to move your bag.

[JustAHolyFool]

Both being petty. Who cares if she moved the bag? Who cares if it was next to the sofa? Who cares if it was next to the bin?

This is the reason I couldn't houseshare any more. I just don't care enough.

[mrscog]

She is being U if you've explained the situationl that you forgot about it for less than a day.

To be honest it just all sounds really petty - I think what you need to say to her is

'sorry I forgot to unpack my shopping because we ate pizza, I don't think I normally leave stuff lying around and agree we all need to be tidy, in light of this, stop being shitty with me.'

End of story.

[OkayHazel]

HAHAHAAAAA.

[MrsPotato]

I used to live with my 5 best friends.

A row over washing up resulted in someone writing a message on the fridge with colourful magnetic letters accusing one of the others of being a Nazi.

Everything's fine now we don't live together any more