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AIBU?

To be pissed off with school over this? Nativity show related.

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bunchamunchycrunchycarrots · 13/12/2012 14:40

DD is 7 and in P3. P1-P3 are the groups who are all involved in the nativity show, with P1 in main roles. P2/P3 usually do the narration or backing choir. P3 is split over 2 composite classes - P3/2 and P4/3. DD is in P4/3. News letter was in DD's bag on friday last week to confirm P1-P3 are involved in the nativity show, and this is a ticketed event. No note in DD's bag with option of a ticket on Friday, nor Mon/Tues/Wed. I work Tues/Wed so couldn't get into speak to office staff or teacher as I drop DD off early and then she goes to after school care. I went to the office this morning to ask about tickets as I hadn't had anything in DD's bag, and wanted to attend (DD wants me or her gran to attend, as she always wants someone to make an effort and see her, no matter how tiny her involvement is). I was told by office staff that only parents of classes 1/2/3 were offered tickets, and P4/3 were not as 'they are only in the choir'. DD is gutted. I'm pissed off - basically P3 kids, as long as they are in P3/2, get the option of having their parent attend, but parents of kids in P4/3 don't get given the choice, yet have the same role to play as P3/2.

So, AIBU to be really pissed off at this? DD was clearly upset at the thought I won't be there to see her, nor will he gran tomorrow (I wasn't even looking for 2 tickets, just one to let one of us 'show face' for DD's sake).

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BuggerLumpsAnnoyed · 13/12/2012 14:45

eh? Too many P' s. YANBU?

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Hobbitation · 13/12/2012 14:53

Hasn't DD had a bigger role in previous years and you have then been able to watch? DD1 is in Y3 and only Year R - 2 do the nativity at all at her school.

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bunchamunchycrunchycarrots · 13/12/2012 15:03

She was an angel in P1, part of the choir/backing percussion in P2, and is in the choir in P3. I'm not suggesting she's got a major part and that I should have a ticket for that reason - I'm pissed off that P3's parents (part of P3/2) have been given the chance of a ticket (like P3 parents have every other year) yet this year, they have excluded the parents of P3 who are part of the P4/3 class, even though both composite P3 classes are doing the same thing. Apologies for the number of 'P's. Can't really explain it without all those 'P's!

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dishwashervodkaanddietirnbru · 13/12/2012 15:03

Y2 is the equivalent of P3. Its a bit crap if your dd is in P3 but the parents of the P3 in the P3/4 composite class are not allowed to attend. I would complain (and see if you can get other parents from her class to complain too)

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Festivedidi · 13/12/2012 15:03

If she is in the play then somebody should be allowed to come and watch. Dd1's primary school always made sure that each family had the chance of 2 tickets if they wanted them. That meant putting on more shows but they did it anyway.

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YDdraigGoch · 13/12/2012 15:04

what a confusing post! Xmas Smile
I guess that the school has a limited capacity for the audience, so they have to draw the line somewhere - I'm sure you'll get your turn another year, if you haven't had one in previous years.

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bunchamunchycrunchycarrots · 13/12/2012 15:04

Some parents of those in the choir have been given the chance of a ticket - those whose kids are in P3/2 (DD was in P2 last year i.e. the whole class was together, they were only split up for P3).

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bunchamunchycrunchycarrots · 13/12/2012 15:07

Yes, I know it's confusing, but I can't really explain it any other way! It's my DD who was expecting me or her gran to see her in the choir as she's been practising for weeks, and she's gutted that neither of us can now attend as I wasn't given the option to have a ticket.

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MonaLotte · 13/12/2012 15:07

I understand what you mean and I think it is unfair!

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dishwashervodkaanddietirnbru · 13/12/2012 15:08

she wont get a chance next year though as her dd will then be in P4 and not part of the nativity at all. It should be all of P3 or none of them rather than dividing them up depending on whether they are a composite class with P2 or P4 - not fair

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bunchamunchycrunchycarrots · 13/12/2012 15:13

dish, that's right, and I think that's why I'm more pissed off as this is the last year she'll be part of the show. It's 2 shows over 2 days, so 2 chances for either myself or my mum to attend, just to 'show face' for DD's sake as she wanted one of us to see her singing. She's gutted. I'm pissed off.

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Hobbitation · 13/12/2012 15:14

I agree it's unfair then.

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urbanturban · 13/12/2012 15:37

YANBU!

As you say, if ALL P3 pupils are performing in the Nativity play, then ALL P3 parents should be offered the chance to attend - NOT just the P3s who have been split into the composite class with the younger pupils..........I would definitely be complaining to the school - I don't understand why they thought they could get away with it! Confused

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Groovee · 13/12/2012 15:40

In our school P1 act the nativity, P2 narrate and P3 are choir and due to numbers P3 partake in the carol concert and so Parents only come to the Carol Concert.

It should be all or none with regards to P3.

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Poledra · 13/12/2012 15:42

Definitely unfair. It's either all of the Yr3 children can get tickets or none of them, not some can and some can't.

Your pore ol' DD - my DD would be just like yours, wanting someone from the family to be there to smile at her.

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ChaoticforlifenotjustChristmas · 13/12/2012 15:46

I understand what you mean and YANBU

If the parents of P3 children who are in the P3/P2 composite class can attend the the parents of P3 children who are in the P4/P3 composite class should also be able to attend. Complain to the school, why should your DD and the other children in her class miss out on having their parents attend.

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BerryChristmas · 13/12/2012 15:52

I got lost in the first 2 sentences!

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cloutiedumpling · 13/12/2012 15:53

I understand what you mean and you are not unreasonable. It should be all or nothing as far as the P3s are concerned. All too often kids in composite classes seem to miss out because they are neither one year nor the other.

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ENormaSnob · 13/12/2012 15:55

I get what you mean. Year 3 is split the same in my school.

Yanbu

It's not fair at all.

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thefirstmrsrochester · 13/12/2012 15:58

I'd be pissed off too. All the kids participating should be offered tickets. I appreciate that there may indeed be issues with capacity but surely there would have been other ways of resolving the issue than excluding the composited p3 kids ie limiting the number of tickets per child or having an extra performance.
I would certainly complain.

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ProtegeMoi · 13/12/2012 16:00

Sounds disappointing and perhaps not the fairest way to do things. If numbers / space is limited they may have no other option however.

Have the school explained why it has changed this year?

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bunchamunchycrunchycarrots · 13/12/2012 16:04

The only explanation given was that DD was 'only in the choir' completely ignoring previous years arrangements, and the fact that the other P3s 'only in the choir' were given the option of having someone attend over one of the 2 days. I sent an email earlier asking why the decision was made to exclude P4/3 parents from having the chance to attend, and so far not had a reply. I sent it early, on the off chance they'd realise how unfair this was, and that if there was a chance of a spare ticket either today or tomorrow, then I'd have time to collect it, and get it to my mum. It's too late now, so I doubt my email will even be acknowledged. No doubt I've got myself the label of 'difficult' now. Hmm

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sleepyhead · 13/12/2012 16:05

What a stupid rule. If the P3s from one class get tickets for parents then the P3s from the other should too.

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GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 13/12/2012 16:06

Yes if the P3s are in it their parents should all be offered tickets not just some. It's unfair otherwise. I'd ring school and say how disappointed your DD is and see if you can wrangle a single ticket.

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