To want to scream my head off at my Nanny for putting my gorgeous new wool jumper in teh dryer!?

(162 Posts)
happywith3 Wed 12-Dec-12 21:29:09

Aaargh! It wasn't cheap and I lusted after it and have only worn it once. It was gorgeous and now it is shrunk! I found it hanging next to the dryer where we put the stuff to dry that's not to go in the dryer but obviusly it went into the dryer because there is pink/red (colour of the jumper) in the thing that catches the fluff. It looks like she realised she shouldn't have put it in the dryer and then hung it there to make it look like it had not gone in or half dried it in the dryer and then hung it. I feel like screaming! How will I tell her calmly in the morning....

Goldenbear, just out of curiosity, in your ideal world, how many other "service" jobs do you consider degrading that people should do themselves? Basic beauty treatments, waxing body hair, waitressing, bar work, chefs? Where does it stop and how do the people that would otherwise have done these jobs earn a living?

PessaryPam Fri 14-Dec-12 07:36:47

Goldenbear I don't have a Masters, am I less than you?

diddl Fri 14-Dec-12 08:30:20

If the nanny has agreed to do the washing, I´d be really pissed off if they couldn´t take the trouble to read the care label or ask if not sure.

BegoniaBampot Fri 14-Dec-12 09:09:57

'I would not do a job that uses none of the skills and knowledge I have acquired just because my choices are very limited as a SAHP.'

You are very lucky then. You obviously feel that many jobs are way beneath you, seems you are the one here with a superiority complex, not necessarily those who might employ cleaners and such.

Goldenbear Fri 14-Dec-12 09:48:03

Absolutely not - I said it wasn't 'Jackshit' for me as it enabled me to get my last job per-DC. I am not making any comments that eluded to me being more 'important' as a result.

sleep, I'm not going to repeat everything I said up thread. I am arguing that those who employ cleaners play the role of the domestic cleaner down by saying things like, 'she is part of the family' and feel more comfortable equating the work with those who work in the service industry. They don't dare imply any power relations between them and their staff, when in reality the paid employee probably never refers to their employer as 'part of the family'. I said up thread why it quite clearly is not like other services. I'm not going to repeat myself.

whois, I don't have a clue what you're on about as I am 35 and my last job wasn't after 'Uni', I am afraid you definitely did need to be educated to Masters level to be considered for my last post. When I went to University people didn't go for the sole aim of getting 'Internships' on graduation- students were not consumers like they are today. A Masters degree wasn't seen as the drifter's choice, indeed post graduate qualifications set you apart from graduates with 1 degree because it demonstrated you were capable of producing work that was a lot more intellectually demanding.

Goldenbear Fri 14-Dec-12 10:01:20

Begonia, no I don't see why I should do so whilst my DP continues to further his career as an Architect. I happened to have the womb so post DC I have to get a low paid job that doesn't use any of the skills I have acquired so that I can contribute financially. It is the antiquated working practices that didn't facilitate any suitable flexibility for me to return to the job I had. That is the problem not my desire to not work as a cleaner to fit around the children. I worked as a cleaner, in factories, as a waitress, as a bar person, in a supermarket to fund my degrees so all my efforts would've been a bit futile if I'm back working as a cleaner.

AlienRefucksLooksLikeSnow Fri 14-Dec-12 10:03:00

Can I just say, my Mum has a cleaner, she works 6 days a week, 12 hours a day as a butcher and fish monger at Tesco. She gets one day a week off, and she's 62.
so, I suggested getting someone in to clean for 2 hours a week, so she didn't have to spend her one day off fucking cleaning!

The girl lived round the corner and was over the moon to have a bit of cash in her pocket. what is wrong with that?

Goldenbear Fri 14-Dec-12 10:14:52

Yes but she is a 'girl', she has a number of options in life, it is a bit of extra cash, not her whole life. It's all very well people posting biased anecdotes about their cleaners loving the work but that is not backed up by the statistics that demonstrate what few employment rights they often have, the lack of 'choice' they have in doing the work when you look at the demographic of a lot of cleaners. It is delusional to say most are living the life of Riley! A cleaner has posted on this thread saying how she is treated - that is the reality for most. Not this 'part of the family' nonsense!

AlienRefucksLooksLikeSnow Fri 14-Dec-12 10:21:18

Well, she has a baby, not sure about her whole circumstances.

I don't disagree with you though GB, I cleaned for a while, private houses, and I hated it, massive houses they were, and one woman in particular seemed to get great pleasure out of saying 'toilets first' soon as I walked in. I did feel degraded, but that's just me, I don't suppose everyone feels like that, and it's a job that's a life line to many.

Kytti Fri 14-Dec-12 10:43:51

*EMS23 Really? Oh I had no idea. lol So glad you noticed though. smile Thanks for caring.

EMS23 Fri 14-Dec-12 11:44:05

Rude, sarcastic AND witty. Nice.

Animation Fri 14-Dec-12 12:13:29

It sounds very posh when you can refer to 'the nanny.' The nanny did this this and the nanny did that .. Very nice. smile

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