6mo meal (part 2)

[forbiddenfruit85]

Sorry for starting another thread on the subject, but there was a comment I wanted to reply to and as it reached 1000 posts I wasn't able to do so.

Also I would have wanted to update the thread/start a new one for when the meal actually happened for people that wanted to know how it went.

[forbiddenfruit85]

Janeatthebarre, I would hope that a bunch of good friends would choose a restaurant on the basis of being welcoming to babies, given that it seems common knowledge to the group that this one member brings her baby with her due to the EBF thing, and that they would also do their utmost to get their meal in before the witching hour (and if that is not possible before Christmas then the get together would be held afterwards when restaurants are not so jammed and a lot of women could use a break from turkey leftovers and the company of their nearest and dearest). That has been my experience of Irish life (and life in other parts).

Firstly math

We should do our utmost to get our meal in before witching hour?
There are 10 of us. 8 out of the 10 work, and then have to travel home in rush hour traffic and get changed, so wouldn't be able to make the meal until 7/8. But yes 80% of us should leave work early to accommodate 10% of us. (Other 10% has the day off work)

And again what is the point of having a Christmas meal after Christmas? Why should we cancel what the majority want in order to again accommodate one person?

As a mother you make sacrifices and you shouldn't expect others to have to sacrifice their lives too.

[forbiddenfruit85]

anyway now I've got that off my chest.

Feel free to let this thread drop and I'll update it after the meal has taken place.

[Alisvolatpropiis]

Are you the original OP?

It all went mad I couldn't be bothered making comment 879 on the original thread. I just didn't think it was so terrible you not wanting her to bring her baby.

I don't think there's anything wrong with bringing babies to restuarants per se,it depends on the kind of meal planned rather than the time. As a Christmas meal,it'll be a booze flowing type,being in the festive season everyone else there will be having a booze flowing kind of meal. That's not an ideal atmosphere to have a baby in. Not least because it would put a dampner on the evening for everyone else.

But for general evening meals I see nothing wrong with it. It's pretty normal in mainland Europe to see babies and young children in restuarants behaving well or sleeping depending on their respective ages. I hate the idea that babies aren't welcome anywhere and couple with children must leave them at home or forgo a meal out until the children are 18. But that isn't what you're saying. I agree with you.

[Elkieb]

This happened to me last week, when our girls night out nearly changed to afternoon out with a baby. I stood my corner (and I have a baby too but wanted a beer and a rare night out!). I think adults need adult time and we had a great night out. My friend came out without her baby and said afterwards she really enjoyed herself. All worked well in the end.

[MrsKeithRichards]

I was the first in my group to have a baby I was 22. I've went on countless nights out, hen weekends etc and loved them. Now 2 others have babies, our 30th is coming up and we've always talked about a weekend away. But now there are others with babies it's all 'oh I couldn't' which leaves me a bit

[miamibeach]

I personally don't see anything wrong with the father looking after the child whilst the mother has a girls night.

I love my baby, she is my world, but I enjoy having some free time and also think having that bit of time to just focus on me makes me a better mother.

[TeentheBean]

Jeez, this still going on??? Surely, OP, if you are waiting for someone to agree with you (is this what you really want), this thread will run and run on until NEXT Christmas.... can you not just let it lie????

[PessaryPam]

Teen I agree with forbiddenfruit85 because she is right.

[EggNogRules]

I think a lot of people agreed with forbiddenfruit85 - I absolutely do.

At 1000 posts and new thread, a loty of people feel very strongly about this.

[silvercup]

I think I must be lucky to have nice friends - I'm the only one out of my group who has a baby, but they are always very accommodating towards my DD and whenever somebody arranges lunch or dinner, they make a point of saying little ones welcome even though I have the only little one.

[forbiddenfruit85]

TeentheBean

People did agree with me on the previous thread? (and of course some disagreed) so no it's not what I '"really want"

I felt I had to reply to one of the comments stated on the old thread, but when it reaches 1000 posts you are not allowed to post on it again (something I only found out today)

I would have done another thread anyway because a couple of people asked for an update.

If you don't like it then just don't read it, because the old one will not resurface and I cannot see this one dropping off the front page quickly.

So quit moaning and just stop reading it.

[LadyBeagleBaublesandBells]

Teen, the vast majority of posters on that thread agreed with forbiddenfruit.
I for one am glad she's started a new thread, as I hate it when I get to the end of a long thread and never hear the outcome.

Hope you update us after the meal Op

[GrimAndHumourlessAndEven]

Most updates happen when events have happened

Jus' saying, like

[forbiddenfruit85]

Yes silvercup we as a group of friends are accommodating too.

Partners are always invited and children/babies if the parents want/need to bring them.

We are talking about one specific dinner which I don't think is suitable to bring a baby too.

[forbiddenfruit85]

Yes GrimAndHumourlessAndEven but I was making the point that as you can no longer post on the old thread I would have done a new one anyway.

I wanted to reply to a comment posted but was unable to do so in the old thread.

So shoot me

[forbiddenfruit85]

LadyBeagleBaublesandBells

[andapartridgeinaRowantree]

I had a baby five weeks ago. DH and I have already had one night out to the cinema and for a couple of drinks. Mostly because DM was desperate to have alone time with her first grandchild!


But one of my friends has acted like I left my child with Hitler. There were four "I just don't know how you could do that" in one conversation.

My baby is wonderful. All babies are wonderful. But you are definitely not being unreasonable to want some grown up time with your mates!

[forbiddenfruit85]

andapartridgeinaRowantree my husband took me for a spa day for my birthday, my dd was just under 2 months then.

When I told my friend (who the op was about) she looked absolutely horrified that I had dared to leave my baby with my mother.

Me and you are obviously terrible mothers

[andapartridgeinaRowantree]

I know. I honestly don't know how I live with myself.

I dread to tell her that when DD is six months we're going to Barcelona for two nights.

[andapartridgeinaRowantree]

Actually I'm still a bit worried about that one too. Meh!

[forbiddenfruit85]

two whole nights?!

I'm gonna call SS on you.

[PervyMuskrat]

andapartridgeinarowantree, I left DS for 4 nights when he was 7m old to go to a festival [proper piss poor mother emoticon]

[TeentheBean]

Yeah I'll leave this thread and stop being bored quit mumsnet and get on with my life

[PessaryPam]

Bye then.

[whoneedssleepanyway]

I agree with ff85 but for me it would be selfish reasons of changing dynamic of night out not whether a restaurant is suitable environment for a baby.

I have a friend who has little childcare support. We went for lunch with mutual friends a while back and she brought her baby and it was a nightmare he was fractious she was distracted up and down from table and in and out and she didn't enjoy herself.

Same friend is bringing her baby to our New Year's Eve party he will sleep upstairs but my heart did sink a little but it was that or her not coming.

I know where you are coming from OP.

I went to Vegas without DD1 for 5 nights when she was 8 months...so will join u in bad mother corner.