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Xmas dilemma ....would it be rude?help

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Drywhiteplease · 08/12/2012 16:16

Ok MN I'm feeling strong, but do need honest advice.....yes or no will do as I know you're all busy.

Every other Christmas my parents pay for my whole family to stay in a self catering place so we can all be together as we live far away from each other. It's great...we all love it. They book it 2yrs in advance.
This year the booking is from 22-27 dec. my kids break up 21st. My DH and DS have been offered some big deal footie tickets for Sat 22 which would mean going 23rd which would suit me in a way as it would be a bit tight getting everything ready (food etc) on Sat, but I could do it. My DH has to work 24. If we were paying for ourselves (and we offer every year) and we hadn't known about the date so far in advance I wouldn't worry.

Would it be rude to say we're coming a day late?

Hit me with it....Xmas Smile

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MissLToeishavingsantasbabyboo · 08/12/2012 16:18

No, not rude at all, just tell them!

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twinklesparkles · 08/12/2012 16:18

Better to be a day late than not go at all :)

Talk to your family, am sure they'll understand

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MrsChristmasBungle · 08/12/2012 16:19

Not rude in the slightest.

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Monty27 · 08/12/2012 16:19

I would say not at all.

Don't understand the bit about dh working 24. On the 24th? When is he going to be able to get there?

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Merrycuckingfistmas · 08/12/2012 16:19

I don't think your being rude, if you explain to your parents why you will be a day late I'm sure they would understand maybe you could offer to pay them what it would be for the night your not there iyswim.

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grovel · 08/12/2012 16:21

Most males prefer football to family. Your parents will understand.

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CarlingBlackMabel · 08/12/2012 16:22

No, it's fine.

Use the extra time to pack and be ready to set of early on the 23rd.

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SantaFrontPaws · 08/12/2012 16:28

No but please be honest. Porkies always get found out!

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OldBagWantsNewBag · 08/12/2012 16:34

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catgirl1976geesealaying · 08/12/2012 17:41

No. Not at all - perfectly fine

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Schmoozer · 08/12/2012 17:43

I agree, u should go day late

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Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 08/12/2012 17:44

YANBU. I agree with PP saying that you should tell the truth!

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TheSecondComing · 08/12/2012 17:49

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BluelightsAndSirens · 08/12/2012 17:51

Just speak to them, explain the dilemma and see how they feel about it.

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LRDtheFeministDude · 08/12/2012 18:04

My parents would go through the roof and think you were being really rude. I would a bit, to be honest. Who'll pay for the booking if you cancel?

I do think staying for that long a period is probably pretty hard work and I don't think it'd have been rude at all to say that - it's just once they've made the booking and it's such a short time away, it seems a bit off.

If it's self catering, will they not already have put in food orders and reckoned on you coming?

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deleted203 · 08/12/2012 18:07

I don't think it's rude at all. I would simply tell them that you are really looking forward to coming but will be arriving a day late as you already have plans for the 22nd. Explain that DH has to work on 24 and will therefore be joining the rest of you on Christmas Eve after he's finished work. Can't see what the problem would be. Have a lovely time!

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Rudolphstolemycarrots · 08/12/2012 18:42

it would be a problem for my parents and thy are lovely.

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Greythorne · 08/12/2012 18:46

LRD
She's not cancelling, just rocking up a day later than planned.

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HeadfirstForAMistletoeKiss · 08/12/2012 18:50

I don't think it would be nice to go late. You've already made the plans so shouldn't change them.

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PerryCombover · 08/12/2012 18:51

To be honest. I would think it rude.
It's once every two years and you know the dates.
It's obviously v important to your parents that you are together as a family.
If you don't value the time spent together as much as they do or would rather spend less time as a group you have had two years to break it to them.
Curtailing two weeks before the event is a pretty poor show and I think they will be upset.

The football tickets are only an offer..so a little spur of the moment, neither longed for nor life changing.
Watch the football on the television

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LRDtheFeministDude · 08/12/2012 18:51

Is she not coming later than that? I thought she was saying her DH is working the 24th so they won't be there until that evening/Christmas day. If my family had paid for me to stay somewhere for a week, turning up for the last three days would come across a bit off, I think.

If she just means coming on the 23rd maybe that isn't so bad, but I know my parents would still find it really rude.

I'm not sure they should, but I know they would.

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HeadfirstForAMistletoeKiss · 08/12/2012 18:53

If you lived closer I could understand it more, but you all live apart and it's only for 6 days.

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TheMonster · 08/12/2012 18:53

Not rude. I don't see a problem.

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AcidTurkishBath · 08/12/2012 18:55

If your DH is working on the 24th, then surely staying at home for an extra day gives you more time with him at Christmas. That most definitely is not unreasonable. One day won't make a difference.

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DontmindifIdo · 08/12/2012 18:58

Not unreasonable to arrive on the Sunday rather than the Saturday when your DCs break up on the Friday. I'm sure your parents wouldn't mind.

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