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AIBU?

To want to be offered a fucking cup of tea

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SpoonyFuckersWife · 08/12/2012 08:43

without asking for one, just once. I'm referring to the weekend here only as dp works all week. I make us lovely dinners/puddings 5/7 times a week.

My dp will just lie there playing on his effing iPhone until I get up and make us tea. Just once it would be nice to be offered. My father always makes my sm a cup of coffee every morning without fail, same as my mum and sd. So I seem to have found a bloke who never thinks to offer something so little for his partner :(

I maybe be a teensy bit hormonal due to being 38 WEEKS FUCKING PREGNANT and never being offered a cup of tea. In the morning my back and ribs are killing me.

Rant over

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mrskeithrichards · 08/12/2012 08:44

Don't make him one!

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BunnyLebowski · 08/12/2012 08:46

Don't bloody make him one!

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poshfrock · 08/12/2012 08:46

Just get up and make one or yourself. If he says anything just say " Oh I thought we only did things for ourselves now?"

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HoHoHokeyCokeyPigInAPokey · 08/12/2012 08:48

Leave the bastard Xmas Grin

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SpoonyFuckersWife · 08/12/2012 08:49

But I'm not like that posh, I would find it hard to do but maybe it's what's needed. He's good in other ways like helping with cleaning etc. This just really winds me up!

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bigsista00 · 08/12/2012 08:50

My dp is still in bed... Im 22 weeks pg and up with 3yo ds. AND dp has been off work for 2 days. Iv done all the h/w and just made my breakfast. No tea for me either Sad

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SpoonyFuckersWife · 08/12/2012 08:50

Plus when he does make one, he puts the milk in first making it very weak I'm a bitch aren't I? Xmas Grin

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TheNebulousBoojum · 08/12/2012 08:50

Tell him that at the weekend it is his turn to make tea.

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Bluestocking · 08/12/2012 08:51

Hi there SpoonyFuckersWife! How about just asking him to bring you a cup of tea in the morning? Especially now you are more or less immobilised by HIS CHILD. Who you are selflessly creating, molecule by molecule.

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TheNebulousBoojum · 08/12/2012 08:51

Does he know how pissed off you are about it, or are you relying on telepathy and his awareness of your needs?

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HoHoHokeyCokeyPigInAPokey · 08/12/2012 08:52

He puts the milk in first...you're drip feeding now.

That's the best way to make tea!

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Bluestocking · 08/12/2012 08:52

Oh no, he's a Milkinfirstfucker as well. You're going to have to sort that out, it's just not right, is it?

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BunnyLebowski · 08/12/2012 08:52

He puts the milk in first???

LEAVE THE BASTARD

Xmas Grin

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PessaryPam · 08/12/2012 08:52

I've just ordered more tea from my DH a I have a 'head' from last nights partying. He is an angel Xmas Grin

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Schlock · 08/12/2012 08:53

Oh god, I'm with you with the major error of putting the milk in first. It doesn't matter how many times I tell dh that the milk must be put in last he still insists on putting it in when the tea bag is still in the cup. Grrr.

Have you ever told him that you would like him to make you a cuppa without having to ask, cos I daresay he isn't a mind reader Xmas Wink

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HoHoHokeyCokeyPigInAPokey · 08/12/2012 08:53

Watch it Blue Xmas Angry

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YouSeveredHead · 08/12/2012 08:54

Sort it now of you will still be doing it in a couple of weeks time

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Fakebook · 08/12/2012 08:54

Here's an idea. Why don't you tell HIM all if this instead. Telepathy obviously isn't working for him.

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SpoonyFuckersWife · 08/12/2012 08:54

No, I have said to him plenty of times that I would really appreciate if he offered me tea on weekends as my back and rib pain is so much worse, plus I do a lot of little nice gestures for him so it would be nice to have some reciprocation. He agrees and by the next weekend all is forgotten. I guess I just have to admit defeat that he is a selfish arse at times.

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OneHandFlapping · 08/12/2012 08:54

Kick him out of be and tell him to make you one. This is no time for subtlety. He should be showing you a lot more consideration if you are 38 weeks pregnant.

In our house whoever is up first makes tea for the other one.

Atm that's me on a weekday, and usually him at the weekend.

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HECTheHallsWithRowsAndFolly · 08/12/2012 08:55

Have you told him how you feel?

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lottiegarbanzo · 08/12/2012 08:55

Just tell him what you want.

What's this 'helping' with cleaning? Do you make all the mess and dirt, or does he live there too?

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Schlock · 08/12/2012 08:56

We have a running joke in our house, many years ago on New Year's Day I asked dh to make me a cup of tea when we woke up in the morning with stonking hangovers. It took him the entire duration of Urban Commando to actually get out of bed and do it. So now we have Urban Commando delays in tea production.

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HECTheHallsWithRowsAndFolly · 08/12/2012 08:56

sorry. x post.

Then he's being selfish and I suggest you start 'forgetting' all the nice little gestures too.

'nice little gestures' is either a two way street or there's a massive No Entry sign blocking the whole bloody road!

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twofingerstoGideon · 08/12/2012 08:57

Hmm, I noticed the 'help' with the cleaning too.
Leave the Bastard!

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