What's the most rude thing anyone has ever said/done to you?

(285 Posts)
gail734 Fri 07-Dec-12 15:08:32

OK, I know it's not really an AIBU, but it features people being definitely U! I was just putting on some eyeshadow (as you do) and I remembered this: a) years ago, I was in a noisy pub and drunk man said to his wife, "Look at this girl, isn't she lovely?" His wife looked right at me and said, "She would be if she'd learn to do her eye makeup right." Still no idea what was wrong with my eye makeup, so presumably am still making the same terrible mistake!

b) I once went on a very short taxi journey and the fare was £5. I gave the taxi driver £5.50, ie a 10% tip. He looked down at it and said, (I kid you not) "That's not much of a tip." I just went, "Thanks! Bye!"

c) My boyfriend gave me a pair of earrings for my birthday. I said to my friend, "Oh, I see you're looking at my earrings. DP gave me them for my birthday." "Is that ALL he gave you?" "Yes. They ARE real." (They were pearls.) She then said, "Oh. They don't LOOK real."

d) I was once flashed at. A proper, open-up-your-brown-raincoat flash. I was about 23, and it was right in the centre of the city, in broad daylight. The thing was, the flasher was a bit of an amateur and got the timing wrong. He let me get too close to him before opening up the raincoat. I didn't look down, so I didn't see anything. Still rude though. Or am I being over-sensitive?

Gooeyhead Mon 10-Dec-12 19:53:37

I've got one, I've got one... A very charming lady utter cow said to my Ex (this was about 10 years ago) "your scraping the bottom of the barrel going out with her aren't you"

I wouldn't mind but she only knew who i was coz she drank in the pub where I worked at the time. I didn't even know she disliked me until this comment!!!

theluckiest Mon 10-Dec-12 21:40:40

Jesus, wtf are some people thinking? Clearly the brain and mouth are not connected....

When DS was about 5 weeks old I was in a supermarket queue. Woman behind till cooed and aahed over my tiny boy. Then the woman in front of me packing her shopping (smart, 50-ish)peered into the pram and said, "How old is he then?"
"5 weeks!" says I proudly.
"Ah yes" says strange smart lady. "Same age as someone on our road. That baby died. Cot death y'know."

She said it with such glee & relish like it was the juiciest tidbit of gossip. Me and checkout lady just stared. I then replied and stammered that that was absolutely awful but as a new mother, I really didn't want to hear more and thought she was being inappropriate.

Silly cow then carried wittering on regardless about this other poor mother who had lost her baby in a terribly tragic way. Wtf was smart woman thinking????!!! Why would you say that to a new mum of all people? And the enjoyment she seemed to have telling me this dreadful story was sickening. She then marched off as if we had been talking about the weather.

Roseformeplease Mon 10-Dec-12 21:45:09

Posted on Friends Reunited about my job (teacher) business and children. A girl from my year at school responded with surprise, saying she had expected me to make something of my life.

Roseformeplease Mon 10-Dec-12 21:46:18

Oh and she had reached the dizzying heights of a job in an electronics shop - not Prime Minister or a Brain Surgeon.

maximusminimus Mon 10-Dec-12 22:08:40

When I told someone I was pregnant again after gynae surgery and chemo treatment the year before: "Wow. I didn't expect you to be able to get pregnant, considering the state your body must be in".

Cheers. How to make someone feel like a mutilated freak, part 1.

Viewofthehills Mon 10-Dec-12 22:15:05

On meeting my pfb- nice baby, shame about the nose. My Dad. Not forgiven yet.

SahmOldSameOld Mon 10-Dec-12 22:21:27

Whenever anyone compliments my DD on her good looks, my Dsis always pipes up with "Yes, she's beautiful...just like her Aunty!"

I acknowledge Dsis is more attractive than me so I don't need reminders.

SahmOldSameOld Mon 10-Dec-12 22:23:43

My mum was comparing her DDs and said of my sister, "she's the most beautiful, but the least fortunate."

I think there is a compliment for me in there somewhere.

scripsi Mon 10-Dec-12 22:33:39

Oh I have one too, but it's more a backhanded compliment. On the way out on a rare dinner with DH, bent down to say goodnight to DS who said "Your hair looks nice, I like the bottom yellow and the top black" should point out that it had been a while since I'd had my roots done.

mammyof5 Mon 10-Dec-12 23:03:42

my worst one was when i was expecting my first dd. i was working in a take away. it was packed a drunk woman pushed her way to the front and wanted me to give her an order i had in my hand. i didn't because i knew who's it was and that she hadn't ordered anything.
she said to me are you pg
i said yes
she looked me straight in the eye and said i hope your baby dies

and that was because i wouldn't give her someone else s food i was completely shocked to say the least

littlemissmagic Mon 10-Dec-12 23:29:59

These are all shocking

I had an appointment with a dermatologist to get a dodgy mole checked out.

I sat down and explained to her why I'd been referred. She then said something along the lines of "oh I thought you were here about those spots on your face"

I thought my skin wasn't looking too bad that day.

louistheseventeenth Mon 10-Dec-12 23:46:47

My mother, when telling her I was being induced after my first PG ended in MC at 5 months:

"Well at least you will be all stretched out for a proper baby after this"

My mother, after my third consecutive MC this year:

"When I think of you I just get so upset I pretend in my head you don't exist"

I am not looking forward to going home for Christmas.......

vladthedisorganised Mon 10-Dec-12 23:56:12

Glittery, if it's any consolation I was part of a very small tribe of Goths in my very non-rock-and-roll home town as a teenager, and was probably the only girl in a ten-mile radius who didn't wear Lycra miniskirts.

One night we were sloping off to the pub and were surrounded by a group of lads who seemed to be spoiling for a fight. "Oi, freakoids," said one, "do you think it's fucking Halloween or summink?"
We were quite gleeful in telling him that it was, in fact, Halloween grin

GlitterySparklyBaublesOfDoom Tue 11-Dec-12 00:09:16

Haha vlad wish I'd had such a comeback! I just pretended I hadn't heard and slunked off. Makes me smile now though grin

CuriousMama Tue 11-Dec-12 00:26:25

louistheseventeenth why do you go home? She sounds awful.

misterwife Tue 11-Dec-12 01:10:41

OK - teenage, in McDonald's, visible mobility difficulties, some clueless woman knocks into me with her handbag and sends me and my milkshake flying. I look up with tears in my eyes, only to have this ratty, bald beardo say "Well it wasn't me!!" as if that would make it all better.

Also: at university, dating using the internet, still visible mobility difficulties, go on date with apparently pleasant woman and have pleasant if chemistry-free time, arrange another date about a month later with another woman from the same college, get stood up, check e-mail when I get back to college... to find a long screed saying "Oh yeah my friend * said she went on a date with you a few weeks ago and you were really f***ing weird so I didn't think I'd bother but now I'm having a guilt trip about it - I hope you don't mind but I feel awful!!". No, the honesty did not make me feel good.

aquashiv Tue 11-Dec-12 10:32:03

One of my beloved children clocked my lovely post waxed lip and asked me was Movember over now? I was kind of impressed that he knew about such things

SeasonallySnowyPeasant Tue 11-Dec-12 10:42:42

louis I wouldn't bother. She sounds horrible.

iamwhaticallpregnant Tue 11-Dec-12 11:45:28

At first I couldn't think of anything that anyone had ever said to me that was rude, then they all came flooding back!

1 / A Czech adult male student said to me in heavy Czech accent "You should go to gym, you are a little fat" I was so shell shocked I could say nothing but 'pardon?' thinking it was the language barrier. He just repeated it whilst pointing at his stomach. I could only say 'thanks'. He said it in front of the class but just in a matter of fact way - not aggressive in anyway. At the time I was a size 12 and about 8 weeks pregnant. I wept all the way home.

2/ when I was in my early 20s I was good friends with a tall beautiful girl. We were a little twosome. One night she brought out her tall beautiful friend and her short, fat, plain friend. So there were 4 of us. The plain fat short friend said to me "We can bond over being 'the ugly one' ".

3/ A massively large work colleague put her arm around me once and said "oh I am glad someone curvy like you work here so that I am not alone!" I was a quarter of her.

4/ My mum looking at a photo of me in early 20s said "Oh I do miss the figure you had then and your curves". What am I now?!!! Just a ball of lard?!

For a woman - I think weight is where it hurts. I am soon to become a mother and I think if anyone insulted my child I would rip their face off.

Sometimesiwonder Tue 11-Dec-12 11:54:02

I've got a belter!

When I was about 20 there were a number of tramps living in the town centre where I lived, they were always about and usually quite chatty.

One day one called to me from the other side of the road, something that I didn't hear. So I cheerily waved and said 'hello! what did you say' This was repeated several times, each time more loudly. Turns out he was (by now) shouting 'I bet your husband kisses your vagina for you' blush

crescentmoon Tue 11-Dec-12 11:54:50

After u had ds1 DHs aunt said to me 'with all the weight you gained we expected twins!'. I laughed pretended I thought it was funny then went and sat in the car and cried! DH was so apologetic and she's said so many offensive things to him as well. But when I lost all my baby weight - 15kg - that same aunt was really com

crescentmoon Tue 11-Dec-12 11:56:20

*complimentary. I can see it was the kick up the bun i needed but I still can't forget it 7years on!

SamuelWestsMistress Tue 11-Dec-12 11:58:12

I had a wild time at uni, really good fun and absolutely loved my time there.

I did a lot of science stuff which was bloody hard and really struggled with it. On graduating I remember feeling delighted to discover despite my struggling and socialising I got a 2nd class honours degree. I was so pleased (and still am many years later!)

Me to my friends: "Oh wow a 2nd, I can't believe I got a 2nd!"

HOD - who looked like Ming the mercilous from Flash Gordon and had stinky breath - walking past, shaking his head: "neither can we, neither can we"

Roseformeplease Tue 11-Dec-12 18:08:32

My mother, on us visiting to show us me pregnant with her first grandchild (about 6 months) she said, "With an arse the size off yours it is hard to see if you are carrying the baby round the back or round the front."

CalamityJ Sun 16-Dec-12 22:04:30

A couple of new ones spring to mind. And old boyfriend told me I had a nice back and that I looked better from the back (I am flat chested but really?)

And in a bar a bloke who'd been staring at me with his friend for a while came over and said "My friend and I thought you were fit until we saw your nails. They're disgusting" (I bit them at the time) I wasn't asking for his opinion and he wasn't exactly an oil painting, nice nails or not!

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