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to think i should go put sexy underwear on before sex with my husband?

(44 Posts)
Buddhagirl Thu 06-Dec-12 23:36:43

I don't go to the toilet and slip into something sexy and fix my hair and make up before sex.

Anyone else always do this? I'm becoming paranoid that its "what proper women do".

MerryChristmasEverybody Sat 08-Dec-12 09:33:59

I don't live with my DP, I stay at his (parents) house Friday & Saturday nights most weeks. On a Friday I'll wear matching underwear, a thong maybe, don't bother with make up never have done and after travelling 2 hours by public transport my hair is a mess despite making it look nice before I leave my house. Come Saturday, sometimes I'll wear a thong, most times I don't bother.

AreYouADurtBirdOrALadyBird Sat 08-Dec-12 09:31:59

I wear a white bra with white knickers every day. I have one black and wine corset which would just about fit but is in no way flattering.

yuletopian99 Sat 08-Dec-12 08:06:18

I wear what i think looks nice/sexy/matching every day, mostly because if i don't i feel like what 's the point making an effort with your other clothes if you don't look good the whole way through the layers? This is rather to satisfy my strange ideas than a man though, and have caused much amusement to other female friends in the past...

Having had an ex-p who didn't care or notice my underwear though and(more in a lack of sex drive way than a rip-it-off way,) i must say i prefer that dh does comment favourably.

Also would be interested in the lesbian view on this, as if i was with an other woman I'd definitely prefer her to wear nice things. Maybe women are more aesthetically minded?

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Sat 08-Dec-12 08:02:12

Mrskeith grin

strumpetpumpkin Sat 08-Dec-12 07:49:20

I think its women feeling like they've got a prize that any man should be elated to receive if she should be generous enough to give it. doesn't sound like they get much out of it themself, if the idea of any preparation is a hassle.

Not4turning Sat 08-Dec-12 01:58:00

When we think of the effort we put in in the beginning, it does seem a bit cuntish to have hair round yer tits, wiry ones on yer chin and a growth that would see sigourney weaver worrying about her lot having problems?!

It takes about 30 seconds to put on a pair of sexy undies. A person who thinks that is too much effort frankly doesn't deserve to get any.

SantaisBarredfromhavingStella Fri 07-Dec-12 17:02:28

Sometimes yes as dh does like sexy undies/outfits & don't mind them myself wink, not just for a quickie though grin

Flossiechops Fri 07-Dec-12 16:40:38

No way, if dh is lucky enough to his wicked way with me then he has to take me as he finds me shock

mrskeithrichards Fri 07-Dec-12 15:24:06

I think some men do appreciate the wrapping, others don't!

SantaWearsGreen Fri 07-Dec-12 15:20:33

I tried this a few times and they were just ripped off so I thought what the hell is the point? Given up, stick with nakedness now.

mrskeithrichards Fri 07-Dec-12 15:19:30

Them not then!

catgirl1976geesealaying Fri 07-Dec-12 15:18:31

grin that's brilliant about the mum pants

mrskeithrichards Fri 07-Dec-12 15:17:38

I did put him off his stride one night when I had a nice matching set on. He complemented it and I said 'thanks, your mum bought me then, she's got the same set'.

Apparently that's not what he wanted to hear!

mrskeithrichards Fri 07-Dec-12 15:15:42

Cat girl are you me?

I sometimes even wear his boxers to bed!

In all honesty it matters not a fuck what I wear he rips it all off!

catgirl1976geesealaying Fri 07-Dec-12 15:10:46

I do remember buy a "Little red riding hood" outfit from Leg Avenue once, slinked into the bedroom and husked "My what a big..........."

DH fell on the floor crying with laughter blush

strumpetpumpkin Fri 07-Dec-12 15:08:03

i love dressing up for him. I dont do it all the time, but I do quite often. I quite like a little bit of roleplay here and there and mood setting, and have different things i will wear. He loves it and appreciates it, although hes quite happy if I dont too. Hes just as keen if im in my pyjamas, but its for both of us, not just for him. I feel extra sexy if i dress up a bit

catgirl1976geesealaying Fri 07-Dec-12 15:02:12

I do if it's a "special" night

Otherwise faded Motorhead t-shirt and greying pants it is

Doesn't seem to bother DH

No......I have some gorgeous knicks that I bought to seduce DH with but what a waste of money. God knows what I am saving them for but really what is the point?? They aint interested in our knickers, they just want to get to whats underneath em grin. I reckon if I did put them on, they would be off in about, oooh, ten seconds smile

i am on my first weekend away with DH in 8 years!!!!

I have brought matching underwear. This is what narks DH most, the mismatched undies.

And yes to answer the question he DOES wear sexy undies for me, a nice fresh white pair of tight Calvins....mmmmm mmmh!

monsterchild Fri 07-Dec-12 02:33:16

My Dh prefers me nekkid. So taking off whatever I'm wearing is part of the foreplay. Unless it's really cold, then we have snowbunny sex, exposing as little as possible, as quickly as possible!

misterwife Fri 07-Dec-12 02:02:55

What is this 'underwear' of which people speak?

It's good to wear sexy stuff if it makes you feel good/makes you and your DP feel like you're making a night of it, but realistically, men don't care and just want to get to the fleshy bit. I do realise I could have put that better...

AdoraJingleBells Fri 07-Dec-12 01:57:08

My underwear is always sexy. No, hang on - I've forgotten something. Ah yes, that's only in OH's dreams grin

CordeliaChase Fri 07-Dec-12 01:51:18

I have to admit I like dressing up for my DH. We have at least one night a month of dressing up, and sex is getting back on track after two years of me fending him off haha!

DoingItOntheRoofTopWithSanta Fri 07-Dec-12 01:30:09

In a lingerie shop a few months ago that specialized in nursing bras... All were properly covered in ruffles an tarted up.. the woman informed me how proud she was to stock it all as it is very important that women can get back to their partners so the don't feel left out and the magic doesn't die etc confused

Didn't buy anything... was hoping for stretch cotton pop a boob out bras! Can't we ever just be us? Why don't men have to sneak out an put on sexy pants?

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