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AIBU?

to think i should go put sexy underwear on before sex with my husband?

43 replies

Buddhagirl · 06/12/2012 23:36

I don't go to the toilet and slip into something sexy and fix my hair and make up before sex.

Anyone else always do this? I'm becoming paranoid that its "what proper women do".

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NagooHoHoHo · 06/12/2012 23:39

You should be sexy and beautiful AT ALL TIMES you terrible slattern. It should be unnecesaary to make any adjustments to your attire or appearance. All that should be done before he gets in from his hard day at work.

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MrsTerryPratchett · 06/12/2012 23:39

DH doesn't care and neither do I. He hates kissing make up though.

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Binfullofgibletsonthe26th · 06/12/2012 23:41

Don't put lipstick on your Fanjo then.

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SoleSource · 06/12/2012 23:41

Make him wear it. Hth.

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MrsTerryPratchett · 06/12/2012 23:43
Xmas Grin
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doyouwantfrieswiththat · 06/12/2012 23:43

Is that after you've polished your children to perfection to greet their daddy and sat him down in a comfy chair with a nice glass of whiskey to ask about his trying day?

I do at least brush my teeth, it's only polite. I can't imagine where the magic went....

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LRDtheFeministDude · 06/12/2012 23:46

Confused

No, I don't.

How would you work the timing? Would it not spoil the mood a tiny bit?

I've been known to check we've got condoms beforehand, if that helps you.

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FaffTastic · 06/12/2012 23:47

If I'm making a night of it then, yes, I sometimes do put stockings and sexy underwear on etc

If it's an impromptu quickie or shag before bed then no, my knickers don't tend to stay on long enough for it to be noticed what I'm wearing.

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Buddhagirl · 06/12/2012 23:48

Thank feck for that...I thought i was going crazy there for a bit.

I probably should stop wearing trackie bottoms most days im in the house. God ive only been married 5 months, paranoia much??

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LRDtheFeministDude · 06/12/2012 23:50

Wear what the fuck you like. Just probably best not to talk about it on the net in the small hours as some pervert who can't get it up will probably home in on it.

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ravenAK · 06/12/2012 23:50

I've been known to check I'm wearing laydeez pants, since apparently this is important in Keeping The Magic Alive.

Apparently a faded Motorhead t-shirt teamed with a pair of boxers he rejected from his own pants drawer some years ago does not = the siren he vaguely recalls marrying.

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SHoHoHodan · 06/12/2012 23:55

My DH appears to find trackie bottoms most alluring, I have to say.

Ditto fluffy dressing gowns worn with thick socks and mis-matched pyjamas, especially when worn while dancing to a delightful rendition of 'If you think I'm sexy'.

You could try adding that to your repertoire?

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TenPercenter · 06/12/2012 23:55

Does he primp about and put sexy undies on for you? If the answer is no, you have your own answer. My (d)p doesn't even bother to shower, which is probably why I reject his advances.

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Witchety · 06/12/2012 23:56

Sounds alright to me
raven !!

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Themumsnotroastingonanopenfire · 07/12/2012 00:01

DH is lucky if I remember to take my socks off first.

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McChristmasPants2012 · 07/12/2012 00:11

DH once bought me crotchless underwear sexy and easy access :)

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whois · 07/12/2012 00:27

Depends.

If I've come back from playing a match and showered anyway then I might change into some sexy undies for later. Wouldn't bother If we were just having a quickie before bed tho!

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SinisterBuggyMonth · 07/12/2012 01:15

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DoingItOntheRoofTopWithSanta · 07/12/2012 01:30

In a lingerie shop a few months ago that specialized in nursing bras... All were properly covered in ruffles an tarted up.. the woman informed me how proud she was to stock it all as it is very important that women can get back to their partners so the don't feel left out and the magic doesn't die etc Confused


Didn't buy anything... was hoping for stretch cotton pop a boob out bras! Can't we ever just be us? Why don't men have to sneak out an put on sexy pants?

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CordeliaChase · 07/12/2012 01:51

I have to admit I like dressing up for my DH. We have at least one night a month of dressing up, and sex is getting back on track after two years of me fending him off haha!

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AdoraJingleBells · 07/12/2012 01:57

My underwear is always sexy. No, hang on - I've forgotten something. Ah yes, that's only in OH's dreams Xmas Grin

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misterwife · 07/12/2012 02:02

What is this 'underwear' of which people speak?

It's good to wear sexy stuff if it makes you feel good/makes you and your DP feel like you're making a night of it, but realistically, men don't care and just want to get to the fleshy bit. I do realise I could have put that better...

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monsterchild · 07/12/2012 02:33

My Dh prefers me nekkid. So taking off whatever I'm wearing is part of the foreplay. Unless it's really cold, then we have snowbunny sex, exposing as little as possible, as quickly as possible!

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Binfullofgibletsonthe26th · 07/12/2012 14:52

i am on my first weekend away with DH in 8 years!!!!

I have brought matching underwear. This is what narks DH most, the mismatched undies.

And yes to answer the question he DOES wear sexy undies for me, a nice fresh white pair of tight Calvins....mmmmm mmmh!

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BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 07/12/2012 14:56

No......I have some gorgeous knicks that I bought to seduce DH with but what a waste of money. God knows what I am saving them for but really what is the point?? They aint interested in our knickers, they just want to get to whats underneath em Grin. I reckon if I did put them on, they would be off in about, oooh, ten seconds :)

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