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To love my DH more after 22 years married and nearly 25 together than I could have imagined possible

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marriedinwhite · 06/12/2012 22:10

At this grumpy pre-Xmas, grumpy about families time of year, just a little note to say it can be worth it. We have survived the hard years with a big mortgage and tiny children and having to take stock of what we both expected from life. We have survived bereavements of parents and a son. We have forged our lives, our careers, our mutual and independent friends, and our home and have reasonably normal teenagers.

After almost 25 years together I love my DH, warts an' all, more than I did when we met. Just thought I would say and explain that there are ups and downs and good times and bad, but having stuck it out and worked together, I wouldn't have believed how much I could love him and how much more I love him than 20 or more years ago.

There you go then, nice thread.

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threesocksfullofchocs · 06/12/2012 22:12

aww glad I am not the only one, we have been together 29 years, married 23
and I still fancy the pants off him and we are happy.
life hasn't been easy, but we have managed it together

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magimedi88 · 06/12/2012 22:14

How lovely!!

We are not far of 30 years together & we are still amazed by the happiness each of us brings to the other despite all the vagaries of life.

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mumofthemonsters808 · 06/12/2012 22:14

Nice to hear, your post makes a welcome change.I hope the next 25 years are kind to you both.

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BellaVita · 06/12/2012 22:16

Me too Married!

Been married 25 years and together 30, went through a lot together in our early years.

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HollyDayzacummin · 06/12/2012 22:29

Me too. 22 years together, just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. I love him more now than I did when we were first together.

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EuphemiaInExcelsis · 06/12/2012 22:30

Aaw this brought a wee tear to my eye. Xmas Smile How lovely.

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SundaysGirl · 06/12/2012 22:31

Awwww nice to see it works out for some. Have a lovely Xmas. Xmas Smile

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marriedinwhite · 06/12/2012 22:31

Ooh - all positive. Hello bella I think I've met you - you didn't look old enough to be with anyone for 30 years. Smile

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WorraLorraTurkey · 06/12/2012 22:32

Leave the bastard! Xmas Grin

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marriedinwhite · 06/12/2012 22:34

worra Xmas Shock

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FivesGoldNorks · 06/12/2012 22:36

:)

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cosysocks · 06/12/2012 22:37

So nice to hear. 1year into marriage but together 6 years and I feel I love him more now then I ever have. Hope to say the same 25 year on.
Glad you found and kept each other.

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BluelightsAndSirens · 06/12/2012 22:37

very refreshing. We have been married 10 years this year and bloody hell it has been hard, real highs and lows, some my fault and some his and the DC can take some responsibility in between.

Thing is, he has stuck by me as I have him and it makes me feel stronger knowing I don't have to pretend with him as he doesn't with me.

Next year is going to be tough but I know we will work it out together with honesty and a few crossed words along the way!

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Onetwothreeoops · 06/12/2012 22:42

I really hope that I will be in a position to post a very similar thread in 15 years time. Thank you for sharing!

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Cahoootz · 06/12/2012 22:42

This is a lovely thread.

I have lived with my DH for 29 years, (since I was 18) and I still think he is Mr Wonderful except for a wee bit of snoring and I still fancy him. I know he thinks the same about me too. I look forward to spending the rest of my life with him.

He is very gentlemanly, he doesn't swear unlike me and is very clever unlike me and cultured unlike me , he is incredibly honest unlike me and always does the right thing unlike me I am still in awe of him and yet he makes me feel like I am the Queen. There is never any question that we are both equals in our relationship.

We do have rows occasionally and irritate each other from time to time but noones perfect!

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marriedandwreathedinholly · 06/12/2012 22:52

Just testing Xmas name Xmas Smile

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redbusandbigben · 06/12/2012 22:59

Only 17 years here, but he is my best friend!

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CaliforniaSucksSnowballs · 06/12/2012 23:02

Amazing isn't it? I too love my Dh of 27 years more now than I ever did. Made it through some rough patches and wondered why I bother, but now I know why.
Still says I'm pretty and the other night was staring so I asked "What?" and he said "I had no idea you'd look so good at age 50 and I still want to * you"
Cue me creased over killing myself laughing.
He tells people we have been married for 50 years Grin

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SageStuffingYourOrifice · 06/12/2012 23:06

What a lovely thread. It's nice to have the positive stories. DH and I have been together for nearly 8 years and married just over 3. We've done 'poorer, worse, sickness' rather a lot in the 3 years since we made our vows and have had some major wobbles but I reckon it's been good for us to have faced hurdles early on. We're still working away at things as circumstances are still challenging but we're growing together & communicating better and the threads that held us together in the first place are becoming stronger.

We've also recently witnessed the breakdown of a friend's short marriage and it has given us a bit of a shake up. We argue sometimes but we're learning to argue nicely in a productive and healthy way, if that makes sense.

I am full of admiration for people who go the distance and still love each other very much. Congratulations to you all!

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bassetfeet · 06/12/2012 23:07

lovely posts that have warmed the cockles of this old heart .
Married 37 years this month can I still be a mumsnetter eek and I adore my DH . more than ever . Illness now plays a leading role in our lives but those vows of sickness and in health werent made for no reason.
Worra you made me Grin.

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rocamadour · 06/12/2012 23:08

Married- how wonderful. I've been with dh a long time too, through thick and currently (very) thin. Each of us feels we're married to our very best friend. we have some challenging family issues to get through - stress, serious illness yadiyah...but we'll get there !

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notanotter · 06/12/2012 23:10

hollydazzle - am i right that you married three years BEFORE you met? Original !!!

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Sidge · 06/12/2012 23:11

Aww what a lovely thread.

My marriage broke down this year after 15 years, but I am still confident in marriage and believe that the majority of partnerships are strong and true.

I do hope that maybe I'll meet someone who will live me until I'm grey and older Smile

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marriedandwreathedinholly · 06/12/2012 23:11

Aww. Mnet at its best Xmas Smile.

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marriedandwreathedinholly · 06/12/2012 23:12

gotta run .... dh has gone up and has just texted for a hug Xmas Blush

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