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To love my DH more after 22 years married and nearly 25 together than I could have imagined possible

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marriedinwhite Thu 06-Dec-12 22:10:53

At this grumpy pre-Xmas, grumpy about families time of year, just a little note to say it can be worth it. We have survived the hard years with a big mortgage and tiny children and having to take stock of what we both expected from life. We have survived bereavements of parents and a son. We have forged our lives, our careers, our mutual and independent friends, and our home and have reasonably normal teenagers.

After almost 25 years together I love my DH, warts an' all, more than I did when we met. Just thought I would say and explain that there are ups and downs and good times and bad, but having stuck it out and worked together, I wouldn't have believed how much I could love him and how much more I love him than 20 or more years ago.

There you go then, nice thread.

threesocksfullofchocs Thu 06-Dec-12 22:12:52

aww glad I am not the only one, we have been together 29 years, married 23
and I still fancy the pants off him and we are happy.
life hasn't been easy, but we have managed it together

magimedi88 Thu 06-Dec-12 22:14:13

How lovely!!

We are not far of 30 years together & we are still amazed by the happiness each of us brings to the other despite all the vagaries of life.

mumofthemonsters808 Thu 06-Dec-12 22:14:14

Nice to hear, your post makes a welcome change.I hope the next 25 years are kind to you both.

BellaVita Thu 06-Dec-12 22:16:19

Me too Married!

Been married 25 years and together 30, went through a lot together in our early years.

HollyDayzacummin Thu 06-Dec-12 22:29:18

Me too. 22 years together, just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. I love him more now than I did when we were first together.

EuphemiaInExcelsis Thu 06-Dec-12 22:30:25

Aaw this brought a wee tear to my eye. smile How lovely.

SundaysGirl Thu 06-Dec-12 22:31:32

Awwww nice to see it works out for some. Have a lovely Xmas. smile

marriedinwhite Thu 06-Dec-12 22:31:45

Ooh - all positive. Hello bella I think I've met you - you didn't look old enough to be with anyone for 30 years. smile

WorraLorraTurkey Thu 06-Dec-12 22:32:39

Leave the bastard! grin

marriedinwhite Thu 06-Dec-12 22:34:36

worra shock

FivesGoldNorks Thu 06-Dec-12 22:36:23

smile

cosysocks Thu 06-Dec-12 22:37:01

So nice to hear. 1year into marriage but together 6 years and I feel I love him more now then I ever have. Hope to say the same 25 year on.
Glad you found and kept each other.

BluelightsAndSirens Thu 06-Dec-12 22:37:17

very refreshing. We have been married 10 years this year and bloody hell it has been hard, real highs and lows, some my fault and some his and the DC can take some responsibility in between.

Thing is, he has stuck by me as I have him and it makes me feel stronger knowing I don't have to pretend with him as he doesn't with me.

Next year is going to be tough but I know we will work it out together with honesty and a few crossed words along the way!

Onetwothreeoops Thu 06-Dec-12 22:42:31

I really hope that I will be in a position to post a very similar thread in 15 years time. Thank you for sharing!

Cahoootz Thu 06-Dec-12 22:42:35

This is a lovely thread.

I have lived with my DH for 29 years, (since I was 18) and I still think he is Mr Wonderful except for a wee bit of snoring and I still fancy him. I know he thinks the same about me too. I look forward to spending the rest of my life with him.

He is very gentlemanly, he doesn't swear unlike me and is very clever unlike me and cultured unlike me , he is incredibly honest unlike me and always does the right thing unlike me I am still in awe of him and yet he makes me feel like I am the Queen. There is never any question that we are both equals in our relationship.

We do have rows occasionally and irritate each other from time to time but noones perfect!

marriedandwreathedinholly Thu 06-Dec-12 22:52:40

Just testing Xmas name smile

redbusandbigben Thu 06-Dec-12 22:59:01

Only 17 years here, but he is my best friend!

CaliforniaSucksSnowballs Thu 06-Dec-12 23:02:31

Amazing isn't it? I too love my Dh of 27 years more now than I ever did. Made it through some rough patches and wondered why I bother, but now I know why.
Still says I'm pretty and the other night was staring so I asked "What?" and he said "I had no idea you'd look so good at age 50 and I still want to * you"
Cue me creased over killing myself laughing.
He tells people we have been married for 50 years grin

SageStuffingYourOrifice Thu 06-Dec-12 23:06:31

What a lovely thread. It's nice to have the positive stories. DH and I have been together for nearly 8 years and married just over 3. We've done 'poorer, worse, sickness' rather a lot in the 3 years since we made our vows and have had some major wobbles but I reckon it's been good for us to have faced hurdles early on. We're still working away at things as circumstances are still challenging but we're growing together & communicating better and the threads that held us together in the first place are becoming stronger.

We've also recently witnessed the breakdown of a friend's short marriage and it has given us a bit of a shake up. We argue sometimes but we're learning to argue nicely in a productive and healthy way, if that makes sense.

I am full of admiration for people who go the distance and still love each other very much. Congratulations to you all!

bassetfeet Thu 06-Dec-12 23:07:24

lovely posts that have warmed the cockles of this old heart .
Married 37 years this month can I still be a mumsnetter eek and I adore my DH . more than ever . Illness now plays a leading role in our lives but those vows of sickness and in health werent made for no reason.
Worra you made me grin.

rocamadour Thu 06-Dec-12 23:08:14

Married- how wonderful. I've been with dh a long time too, through thick and currently (very) thin. Each of us feels we're married to our very best friend. we have some challenging family issues to get through - stress, serious illness yadiyah...but we'll get there !

notanotter Thu 06-Dec-12 23:10:06

hollydazzle - am i right that you married three years BEFORE you met? Original !!!

Sidge Thu 06-Dec-12 23:11:00

Aww what a lovely thread.

My marriage broke down this year after 15 years, but I am still confident in marriage and believe that the majority of partnerships are strong and true.

I do hope that maybe I'll meet someone who will live me until I'm grey and older smile

marriedandwreathedinholly Thu 06-Dec-12 23:11:08

Aww. Mnet at its best smile.

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