To tell Dsis (9) that if she "won't sit at a table where people are eating non free range turky" that she can eat her christmas dinner alone on the balcony.

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honeytea Sat 01-Dec-12 17:55:10

My lovely adorable and slightly precocious little sister is 9 and has been a self declared vegetarian since she was about 4.

My family are coming to stay with us for Christmas and my mum has kindly offered to cook Christmas dinner which is fab as I am due to give birth on the 8th (but feel like the baby is happy in my tummy and won't be here till much closer to Christmas.) I was talking to my mum and sister today about what I should buy for dinner, they fly to us on the 23rd and we have a christmas day celebration with my DP's family on the 24th so I need to get prepared. I went trough all the vegies and stuff for a nut roast, then I said maybe I will get a big chicken instead of a turky and my little sister said well you had better make sure it is free range as I won't sit at a table where there meat that is not free range, I said to her that is fine she can sit on the balcony and eat her dinner.

AIBU and a nasty big sister, I will look for a free range chicken but I don't often buy meat and I have no idea if you can even buy free range chickens in the country we live in.

PessaryPam Sun 16-Dec-12 20:02:49

He he strike me from the babysitting list too.

PessaryPam Sun 16-Dec-12 19:58:23

FFS just lie to the little shit, every one happy. You can torment her with the truth later xxxx

honeytea Sun 16-Dec-12 19:50:04

Thank you! I hope the day goes well, I am overdue by 8 days and will be induced on friday if there is still no baby so I might not even be here to worry about the dinner!

ReallyNotTotallyStupidPromise Sun 16-Dec-12 19:47:21

I hope you have a good day grin I still think she sounds lovely.

WorraLorraTurkey Sun 16-Dec-12 19:37:07

God I've just read this thread with my mouth hanging open shock

She's Lisa Simpson isn't she? grin

Sorry but I'm leaning towards Bupcakes idea here....

honeytea Sun 16-Dec-12 19:26:45

Just a little update, we bought some beef today (nice organic beef) so we are all set for Christmas.

grin

LaQueen Tue 04-Dec-12 20:15:24

As always exotic and I are in perfect accord when it comes to child-rearing wink

I would be totally nonplussed by the child, and just wouldn't be able to take her seriously. I would be inclined to pat her on the head, smile and say 'Yeah, right, whatever you want darling, sit where you like...now, where did I put those plates?'

merrymouse Tue 04-Dec-12 18:13:30

raised ethically to improve the quality of the meat

I think its like non free range chickens, but they get to listen to

The Moral Maze on Radio 4

exoticfruits Tue 04-Dec-12 07:30:03

A good word 'whatever'.(smile)
She has just made her statement. I would just say 'OK' in a vague manner and not discuss it further. Do your own thing, set her a place at the table, without comment. If she says anything, just say in a bored, vague tone, ' well, see where you can find a space to take it' and ignore.

Punkatheart Mon 03-Dec-12 21:23:19

All children are generally the centre of attention. It goes with being a child,

honeytea Mon 03-Dec-12 20:19:18

No there has been no tantrum, I don't think she would tantrum with me, my family are amazed at how well behaved she is when we are together but I think that is because i am strict but also we are often doing fun things.

Punkatheart Mon 03-Dec-12 20:16:52

Talking to one's sister? Honestly. Saying what you mean? Hardly inappropriate. Stamping and making a scene at the table might be.....but it really is important to make a distinction here. There has been no tantrum at the table, has there?

You can't go wrong with beef, honeytea. Cows run wild and free....

JustFabulous Mon 03-Dec-12 20:14:43

If she is always the centre of attention maybe it is time that changed a little..

honeytea Mon 03-Dec-12 19:58:20

free range chicken update, we went to the shop today and all the eggs are free range (inomhus which means inside house which is probably kindest as it is -16 today) but non of the chickens said free range on them, lots said raised ethically to improve the quality of the meat maybe that means free range.

I am still leaning towards beaf we will see what my parents think smile

LaQueen Mon 03-Dec-12 19:11:24

This is a classic example of short term pain, for long term gain...it is encumbent on parents/older siblings to teach children how to behave in a socially acceptable manner that is appropriate to the situation they are in.

It makes the young child's life infinitely smoother through life, if they can acquire these vital life skills at a young age.

diddl Mon 03-Dec-12 16:10:57

"Don't see why her dad can't be the more mature person and eat something different"

She´s getting what she wants to eat-why shouldn´t her father?

If she demands that they all become vegetarian-should they do that too??

BupcakesAndCunting Mon 03-Dec-12 16:08:35

wink

Punkatheart Mon 03-Dec-12 16:07:51

Blimey, Bupcakes.

(makes mental note to strike Bupcakes from babysitting list)

BupcakesAndCunting Mon 03-Dec-12 16:06:43

I would punt her off the balcony like a rugby ball, she would be closely followed by her nut roast.

Punkatheart Mon 03-Dec-12 15:25:19

A 9 year old IS a child - so they are bound to be childish. Stamping on them in a Victorian manner is not the answer. However, I do agree that she can be taught to be more tactful rather than blunt...but then again, she is speaking to her sister and they know and love one another well. My sister and I are very blunt with one another. There is no harm in that. We have never ever fallen out.

QuacksForDoughnuts Mon 03-Dec-12 14:40:29

How do people know the child isn't making any practical contribution? She could be peeling all the veg and making dessert for all we know, the OP hasn't said either way. Don't see why her dad can't be the more mature person and eat something different (vegetarian food or moose/elk - a creature where the fight would be a bit fairer!) for the sake of harmony between the rest of the family...

MrsBethel Mon 03-Dec-12 14:28:04

+3

A 9 year old is being childish. Deal with it.

BelleDameSousMistletoe Mon 03-Dec-12 12:20:18

I love the sound of your sister.

You know you just need to explain about the inclusive/manners bit and let her make her own mind up (although I'd go for the beef myself - much nicer).

valiumredhead Mon 03-Dec-12 12:10:50

+2

Mu1berries Mon 03-Dec-12 12:04:17

+1

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