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Aibu to feel guilty that I didn't fill in a baby record book for DS2?

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M0naLisa · 24/11/2012 23:45

I'm due DS3 any day now and just thought about baby record books and thought about buying one for DS3 but I didn't do one for DS2 so thought against getting one.

DS1 has one

Now I feel guilty for not doing one for DS2 :(

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cerealqueen · 24/11/2012 23:50

No, I don't even know what they are (2 Dc).!

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nickelbabeuntiladvent · 24/11/2012 23:53

yanbu.

get your ds2 a book asap.
seriously.
my big dis had in my little sis had one. (both godparents presents) i had a scrap of paper.
it has always bothered me.

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nickelbabeuntiladvent · 24/11/2012 23:53

*sis

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nickelbabeuntiladvent · 24/11/2012 23:54

*one and

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threesocksmorgan · 24/11/2012 23:54

no one does it for number 2

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bedmonster · 24/11/2012 23:56

DD1 has it all filled in and a scrapbook where I stuck in all her cards we were sent when she was born and all the ones from her first birthday.
DD2 has a partially filled in book and a carrier bag with her cards in.
DS1 has no book and all the cards went in the recycling! I have flicked through similar stuff my mum kept for me with interest and it makes me a little sad I made no effort with DS. However, I got over it and am sure he will too!
YANBU to feel a bit guilty if you did it with your first, but having not done it for your second I wouldn't do one for DC3.
Sorry, that was no help at all!

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InNeedOfBrandy · 24/11/2012 23:57

I did a calender for dd with every milestone wrote down plus baby book box and a nursery diary and pics, ds got a few lines scribbled in his baby box and his congratulations on being born cards and thats it.

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Tweasels · 24/11/2012 23:57

I managed about 3 pages for DS, never even got started for DD. I worry about it and then I realise that I don't give a fuck when I got my first tooth so I'm hoping, neither will they.

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wonderstuff · 24/11/2012 23:59

I didn't do one for dc2. TBH I stopped filling in dc1's baby record book soon after I had her - who has time? I do really need to print out some pics of dc2 - we have so many more of dc1.

I can't even remember dc2 being a baby - I have really lovely vivid memories of dc1 - loved those first few months - but with dc2 its all a blur - found it so much harder.

Nursery did a lovely book for both of mine - which is fab I wish I was better at keeping records.

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WildWorld2004 · 25/11/2012 00:03

Im with a few of you. I started one for dd. Think i managed name & date of birth. I dont have a baby book or much photos of me but im not bothered.

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charlmarascoxo · 25/11/2012 00:05

You should try and do one for DS2.

My mum did things like that for my older sister. I only had half finished stuff.

It has stayed with me and made me feel not as special or important purely because I wasn't born first.

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M0naLisa · 25/11/2012 00:31

I may buy 2 then and have a go at filling in Ds2. It would guesstimates on timescale etc first spoke, first step (although I know kinda when it was as I had started full time work a week before and missed his first steps Sad)

I just feel guilty

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Molehillmountain · 25/11/2012 00:39

As I was panicking out loud that I couldn't remember x or y milestone for dd1 fil said "do what everyone else does-make it up". This has worked well for writing up milestones for Ds and dd2. As long as I never confess...

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wannabedomesticgoddess · 25/11/2012 00:44

I think DD2 might have more. When I look back now I think I was a bit depressed after DD1. But I filled in some of her book, kept all her cards and hospital bands etc so didnt do too bad I suppose!

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Jojoba1986 · 25/11/2012 01:09

Both my elder brother & my younger sister had them filled out but mine had my name & a scrap of paper with some of my first words scribbled on tucked inside. I discovered this as an emotionally fragile teenager & was devastated. My mum completed the book & presented it to me for my 18th which I really appreciated but it didn't undo the hurt I felt at the time.

I'm now obsessively collecting things for DS1's book which gets put in periodically, when I get the time. I plan on doing the same for DC2 when s/he arrives in June. Hopefully my children won't have the same bullying problems that I did so wouldn't be affected by something so silly but I'll avoid it being an issue if I can!

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Bogeyface · 25/11/2012 01:21

1st baby....did everything. Filled in the book. kept a lock of his hair, photographed and video'd everything the poor kid did. He thought that the camera was part of me :o

6th baby....lets just say that when I was asked her date of birth recently I got the month and the year wrong Blush

Hide the first book, and never mention it.

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lollilou · 25/11/2012 09:29

Oh thank goodnesss it's not just me. Smile

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Bearandcub · 25/11/2012 09:31

Make it up, they'll never know and it'll always make you smile Wink

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SoupDragon · 25/11/2012 09:37

I agree - make it up. I even made up chunks of my PFBs one Blush

Base any estimates on photos etc - with digital photography they all are dated so you can work out stuff from that.

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YankTeeDoodleDanTee · 25/11/2012 09:41

This is why I blog. It's on the internet forever, as opposed to in a book that will be lost.

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SKYTVADDICT · 25/11/2012 09:46

Can you do one now? I am intending to do one for my DD2 who is now 12 and has a massive chip on her shoulder about DD1 having one and then DS1 and DS2 having one (new partner, their dad did it!). I do feel for her but still never got round to doing it. She has put it on her xmas list this year! I MUST DO ONE Grin

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HappyAsASandboy · 25/11/2012 09:53

I would get a book for DC2 and DC3 now and fill in DC2s book with the dates you can remember/guess and make up the rest :) He'll never k ow you made it up (I'd just swear blind to DH that I'd been doing it all along) and there's no negative consequences for anyone :)

I agree with a previous comment that I don't care when I got my first tooth. But I would have loved to look through a baby book about me when my DCs were born. Just nice stories I guess :)

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Yama · 25/11/2012 09:54

I did one for dd. A lovely and simple book.

For ds we were given a far more complicated number and I have mixed feelings - wanting to prevent dd feeling hers is lesser and can't-be-arsed-ness. Logging twee feelings along with first is a bit ott.

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M0naLisa · 25/11/2012 10:58

Saying all this I don't actually know where ds1 book is Blush

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Panzee · 25/11/2012 11:04

I found my brother's and my books at my mum's house. I am the second child, so it was practically bare compared to my brother's. I laughed and asked my mum if this is what happens when you have a second child.

I always thought it was funny, it's not guaranteed that the second child will feel neglected. :)

My son's book was faithfully filled in till about 6 months then tailed off dramatically. :o I suppose I'd better get one in for the next one but I can see it being even worse. :o

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