to hate my birthday

(56 Posts)
McChristmasPants2012 Sat 24-Nov-12 01:40:46

I am trying to do something for my birthday after many years of bitter disappointed.

My birthday is 11 days before christmas, it always have been lol, I understand that people are short of cash with christmas but I want one year to be a bit special.

I am just getting a bit sick of the only excuss that christmas is so close.

CarrotCruncher Sat 24-Nov-12 01:46:11

I hope you don't mind but i thought i would give you one present to cover both confused

My poor relative has a birthday on boxing day (it was awful for her)

Dryjuice25 Sat 24-Nov-12 01:46:15

is it a significant birthday? YANBU. Why not have a party if you can afford to, just for a change?

McChristmasPants2012 Sat 24-Nov-12 01:49:38

not a significant birthday, and trying to book any whaere for a party is a nightmare as every where is booked for christmas parties.

CarrotCruncher Sat 24-Nov-12 01:49:50

Go on a 2 week bender(drinking session) like that you can get both celebrations in at one time confused grin

In fact my relative used to have another birthday for the celebration later on in the year so you could do that and celebrate your birthday later/earlier in the year (spoil yourself and have a couple in the on coming year .

CarrotCruncher Sat 24-Nov-12 01:51:13

Pants i doubt all the places are booked i expect there is some cruddy pub somewhere thats not busy (only joking btw) grin

McChristmasPants2012 Sat 24-Nov-12 01:52:56

sounds like a plan smile I guess i am just venting.

My Uncle's birthday is Christmas Eve - he hates it.

My Gran used to do him a half birthday party in June when he was a kid - that way he didn't get the "one present for both" and didn't have to wait a whole year to get that one present.

Happy Birthday for 11 days thanks (I'd work the date out but I'm up because I've had a prowler and I'm a bit fraught).

NoSoggyBottoms Sat 24-Nov-12 02:27:32

I understand your annoyance and frustration....totally accepted in my book!

My B'day is on New Years Day. People are too hungover or skint to celebrate it. At best, I had a belated birthday "do"....but then it never felt like my birthday as it wasn't. I get joint presents, but my biggest annoyance is to get a birthday present wrapped in Christmas paper ("sorry, forgot to get some paper" is the usual excuse). In years past, a lot of places were closed on 1st Jan, so being a teenager was a nightmare (cinema closed, restaurants closed, etc). Just "bleugh".

Can't remember the last time I celebrated it. Oh, and DP never remembers to get me a cake, so been without a cake for last 10 years or so.

Don't get me wrong, cake and presents aren't important to me...but when I think of my b'day, its everything added together which makes me sad.

Selfish. I know.

I always feel sorry for people who have a birthday somewhere between a week or so either side of Christmas. Nephews is late Dec, FIL is just before Christmas.

Sorry for my little rant...think this hit a nerve!

<breathes>

I totally sympathise pants as my birthday is on the 29th. I used to get Christmas cards with "p.s. happy birthday" written on the bottom (grrr). To be honest it has never felt special as people are worn out by Christmas, and yes skint too! It doesn't matter as much now I'm an old hag but it used to really bother me years ago.
I have toyed with the idea of having a half-birthday celebration in June but have never actually done it!

ChocolateBubbleBarsmakemefat Sat 24-Nov-12 08:09:29

Totally understand, mine is 15 days before Christmas, the amount of years I got a joint present pissed me off.

With regards to going out etc, my birthday hasn't changed date in the past 30 odd nearly 40 years <sob> therefore no excuse not to budget for a night out. Poor excuse in my book.

Pascha Sat 24-Nov-12 08:14:56

DC2 is due on 30th December hmm it really wasnt planned that way and I feel terribly guilty already for all the crap birthdays to come. I was really hoping for it to arrive on about 15th/16th dec but now I'm wondering if mid January might be a better wish.

I'm christmas eve. It's never bothered me though, my mum was v strict with anyone who suggested one present, and I tended to have my parties in early January (my middle sisters birthday is early Jan so we'd have joint parties).

Noone has ever used the excuse that christmas is too close for me. I think your friends and family need a kick up the bum! angry

GrendelsMum Sat 24-Nov-12 10:30:59

TBH, you're an adult and people are unlikely to make a great deal of your birthday whatever time of year it is. There are people posting threads like this all year round.

I don't mean to say that it isn't always lovely to have a party and to enjoy being with your friends, but that you shouldn't think that you're particularly hard done by. In my experience, the people whose birthday's are made a fuss of are usually the people who organise a big do for themselves every year - people come to expect it and to look forward to it. So start holding a Christmas-free party every year, and it will become a tradition!

dawntigga Sat 24-Nov-12 14:34:41

YANBU I hate my birthday so much it colours Xmas itself, for freaking years the wastes of skin that were my parents wrapped my birthday presents in Xmas paper.

I've never had a bloody proper birthday cake either.

ChristmasIsDifferentNowWithTheCubTiggaxx

sad <wants to send tigga a cake>

At least I was never in school (and rarely even work!) on my birthday smile
<silverlining>

Empross76 Sat 24-Nov-12 18:03:32

If my maths is right, I think we share the same birthday!!! Nobody really bothers with December birthdays, in my experience. Everyone is too busy. Since I've had kids, I'm too busy to bother with my own birthday! Luckily, my husband's birthday is five days after mine so we usually just go out and have a nice meal to celebrate. Can't rely on anyone else to do anything! Maybe set a date for Feb night out with your friends to celebrate belatedly? Be long enough after Xmas for everyone to be able to afford it?

LadyKatherine Sat 24-Nov-12 18:07:59

I never understand this, yes your birthday is close to christmas but it's not as if its a surprise ffs. It's on the same date every year. Surely people can put money aside for your present/card/cake/whatever earlier in the year. In the case of non perishables, they could even buy said gift earlier in the year.

LadyKatherine Sat 24-Nov-12 18:08:38

Sorry lots of years in that rant. grin

dawntigga Sat 24-Nov-12 18:24:48

everyone who gives me '1 big present' gets 1 present at Xmas with the same line - fuck em.

WillBeMakingAFreakingBigDealAboutMyBirthdayThisYearJustBecauseTiggaxx

GrendelsMum Sat 24-Nov-12 18:42:08

We often do give each other 'one big present' in my family, whether or not the person has a birthday particularly close to Christmas. I've always thought of it as being a way to give someone something nice - but then we also tend not to spend a great deal on presents for Christmas or birthdays, so this probably makes more sense.

MushroomSoup Sat 24-Nov-12 20:59:59

I have a Christmas Day daughter who is now in her teens. We - and both our lovely families - have always done separate bday and Xmas presents. We have birthday presents with bday paper and cards and bday balloons over breakfast (the dining room is all bannered out for a bday!) then the rest of the family, including 2 more DCs, begin Christmas in the lounge, which is decorated for Christmas. Christmas dinner and birthday cake.
DD absolutely loves her birthday. Double the fun.

Groovee Sat 24-Nov-12 21:39:07

YANBU, dh is the 11th and I am the 17th. Christmas gets used as an excuse every year. One year people gave me a joint present. On their next birthday's I told them I was making their presents joint with Christmas. They never did that again. Now only the important people get an invite.

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