Sorry this is long and rambling! But I?m doubting myself after this morning :(
Since day one we?ve been pretty rigid but loving. Set bed times, routine etc and discipline is something we discussed before little one arrived. Baby is 14 months and does try it on quite often ? throwing things, little tantrums, grabbing at faces etc and is pulled up firmly but fairly when these occasions occur.
DH usually gets home when I?m getting tired and cranky ? and same for baby! I do shout a little and teach baby to pick up items that have been thrown in anger etc ? so he mainly sees me disciplining, and sticks by my decisions. When he comes in baby turns back into angel child and just wants cuddles with daddy ? rarely with me.
This morning DH was in a bad mood. Baby was playing up and he shouted when there was the usual highchair tantrum (doesn?t want to go in and pushes legs on the top so you have to struggle to push in!) ? I said he didn?t need to shout so loud, baby has just woken up etc etc to which he shouts at me that it?s not my place to stop his disciplining as he sticks up for mine. I just thought he was taking his bad mood out on baby ... but I also know what a pain it is trying to cram baby into the highchair for breakfast!
I?m just wondering if I?m being too hard ... and if DH seeing my disciplining makes him think that?s what we should do all the time? He doesn?t get to see the daft games we play in the daytime when baby is giggling and the nice times we have reading books together.
Don?t get me wrong ? he?s a fantastic dad, and is great at being the ?fun? one, but I?ve seen both sets of Grandparents roll their eyes slightly when I tell baby off for doing something I think is wrong/dangerous.
I just believe if I set rules now, it will pay off in the long run.
I struggled to bond at first and the rule setting/routines were easy for me as I felt slightly detached ? but now I?m head over heels ... and wondering if my reaction to stick up for baby over DH?s discipline means I?m going a bit soft without realising it?
Is 14 months too young to discipline so much or is it a good thing?
And yes ... 1st baby! :)
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to be doubting my parenting skills? Too much discipline/going soft?
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newmummytobe79 · 23/11/2012 09:29
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