To wonder why people are on MN that arent parents

(122 Posts)
TraineeBabyCatcher Sun 18-Nov-12 22:44:59

Parents of some variation, ie grandparents, step, those TTC etc
Or say, nannys and jobs such as those.

Not that they shouldn't be, just intrigued why you might be?

Mrsjay Mon 19-Nov-12 10:39:41

TBF my children are older 1 an adult sometimes i give out old wives tales adivce and i get this face confused grin

MulledWineOnTheBusLady Mon 19-Nov-12 10:41:50

I think I googled how to get mould out of something. Those were the mouldy years.

Trainee I always wonder that too. Doesn't bother me either way, and I know that MN covers everything, not just motherhood. But I don't think it ever would have occurred to me to look and find that out, until I had children.

Mould clearly brings the childless flocking to MN. I find MN brilliant for that stuff too.

At some point all my childless mates will realize the reason I know all this stuff isn't that I'm a domestic genius, it's that I ask the hive mind all the time.

Pandemoniaa Mon 19-Nov-12 10:46:40

It hadn't occurred to me that I'd become a "parent of some variation". Oddly enough, when I had my dcs, I'd assumed it was a permanent connection. No matter how old they, or I became.

But to answer your question, I am here precisely because you are not determined by being a parent or indeed judged unwanted if you aren't. Discussions are too wide ranging for that to be the case.

As it happens, I'm also a grandmother and find it really helpful to keep up with current thinking and ideas because I'm fortunate enough to have a very close relationship with her and, of course, her parents.

Not that I should have to justify myself to you, OP, anymore than I expect you to face an interrogation as to your suitability to participate on MN.

fraktion Mon 19-Nov-12 10:49:08

Zebra you sound/write an awful lot like a (Guidey and something else involving books and guide camping locations) person I know... I may accidentally mention MN the next time I see you and watch closely.

The days of getting flamed off for not having DC are gone... And it never really worked anyway. I got told to Go Away in 2004 and whoops I'm still here. Although I do now have a Small to prevent me from MNing give me done legitimacy.

Mrsjay Mon 19-Nov-12 10:49:45

If you google something mumsnet often comes up with answers so as had been said people find it that way, My friend is a single primary teacher no kids and she reads mumsnet andnetmums other parenting forums she even has a 'like' to a forum for children with special needs

JugglingWithPossibilities Mon 19-Nov-12 10:50:38

I think the OP asked her question in straight-forward innocence too - and it's been interesting to read the answers. Hopefully makes us all appreciate the place more and re-affirm that everyone is welcome. Think it definitely could be womensnet for example, where visiting men also welcome as long as they behave themselves wink

ZebraOwl Mon 19-Nov-12 11:31:55

fraktion

<practises poker face>

I suppose I miiiiiiight be. But then again, maybe I'm not. Bwahahahahahaha...

<swirls cape & strides away>

laughtergoodmedicine Mon 19-Nov-12 11:40:55

Who knows who is or is not a parent? Some people probably regard that as
private.

Mick Jagger might say ...well, to be honest, I dont remember how many children I have.

Seriously mumsnet needs high numbers of all kinds of people.

Casserole Mon 19-Nov-12 12:00:23

OP I think it was a perfectly reasonable question that you tried to phrase as openly as possible to include people and not offend, FWIW.

Personally, I like to come here every so often so reaffirm my belief that some people can take offence at absolutely bloody anything.

I haven't made that Nigella stick ribs thing in AAAAAAGES...

TraineeBabyCatcher Mon 19-Nov-12 12:36:16

Thank you Casserole, I posted out of interest, not because I felt people had to justify themselves to me. I tried to word it in a manner that made it clearly that I was genuinely unsure, not because I was trying to make people feel as though they or I have mote right to be here.

Pande- I was just trying to get across that I realised you may come on here for parenting related things, ie about your children and/or your grandchildren and/or your step children etc but I didn't know what other reasons there would be and I was just interested how you might come across mumsnet.

Slumberparty Mon 19-Nov-12 12:45:50

My DS and DM talked about it a lot, as they got hooked when DS had a DD - I took the mickey...finally looked for myself, got hooked on AIBU.
A lot of threads on here, relationships and chat are not related to children or parenting so is relevant / interesting to all.

Slumberparty Mon 19-Nov-12 12:46:13

Meant DSis not DS.....

MrsTwankey Mon 19-Nov-12 12:53:28

I found it by accident when looking for a receipe or something. Started reading AIBU in my lunch hour and then found other topics. It wasn't until yesterday I actually went on a parenting thread for the 1st time and I've got 3DC.

ErrorError Mon 19-Nov-12 12:53:58

I think I like others, I googled something random and a Mumsnet thread popped up with the answer, so that's how I started lurking in the first place. To be honest, before I realised about the variety of topics available here, I wouldn't have considered signing up if I'd only just heard of it and not read on. I'd have thought "But I'm not a Mum, would anyone value my opinion at all?" Guess I thought being a Mum was like an exclusive club. When I hear my mum friends talk about parenting issues I just smile, nod and say "oh yeah absolutely/of course you must feel that way." but I don't know the feeling do I. Then I dash home to MN as I'm a little bit clueless! So I do think you have a legitimate point OP, and not offensive at all.

I'm more attracted to the non-parenting threads of course, but have contributed to parenting related things, if I can relate from an 'I have experienced this as a child myself' sort of way, e.g. bullying/falling out with friends/embarrassing things kids say/how to talk about sensitive topics with kids etc.

ErrorError Mon 19-Nov-12 12:55:02

Oops far too many I's in my post! Haha!

101handbags Mon 19-Nov-12 14:06:11

I don't look at the conversations that are about children but still find plenty to interest me here.

TheSmallClanger Mon 19-Nov-12 14:14:31

I go ages only mentioning DD tangentially.

I like MN because it is one of the rare online discussion forums that does not revolve around the "needs" of teenage boys and young men. I like being able to chat with knowledgeable, funny women about all sorts of stuff, serious and silly, without being bombarded with irritating memes and endless sexist prattle. I know others don't agree with me on this point, but I like the level of moderation too.

SaskiaRembrandtVampireHunter Mon 19-Nov-12 14:48:00

I do have children, but mine were all in their teens when I started to use MN, and the appeal was that this is one of the few parenting sites that cater for parents of older children/teens/young adults. Most seem to focus on babies/toddlers/primary school age kids.

Saying that, most threads I read or post on aren't related to parenting at all. (I seem to post about zombies a lot) As others have said, this is a great place to have interesting, informative, and often very entertaining conversations about a huge range of subjects, and it's nice that all comers are welcome, you get a great range of views and experiences.

Mrsjay Mon 19-Nov-12 16:25:44

this is one of the few parenting sites that cater for parents of older children/teens/young adults.

that is why i came here initially as another site i used they were all younger children and wasn't really what i was looking for ,

exoticfruits Mon 19-Nov-12 17:10:04

Because it's like the biggest and most engrossing set of problem pages and coffee shop gossip you've ever seen in your life

I agree-that is why it is addictive. Where else do you get to give people your advice on any subject?

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