He's 4.8, doesn't see his dad. Had very little contact for the first 2 years of his life (saw him a handful of times and wasn't introduced as "daddy" as I knew he would go off again) and now nothing due to several reasons. The main one being he is a prick and isn't interested. I have had one relationship in his lifetime and we split 6 months ago.
He knew my ex wasn't his dad, saw him occasionally through the week and on the odd days we all went out on the weekend together. He sometimes asks iwhy we don't see him and we talk about him but it's rare. Doesn't seem to have had a massive negative effect, it's almost like he's not even noticed. We didn't live together and he didn't 'parent' my DS.
Tonight he saw something on the tv and asked if Santa could get him it, I said we'd put it on his ever expanding list. He then said "Will you ask Santa for a new Daddy as well please?"
My heart broke, I felt it, physical pain! Why, why, why?! I'm just sooooo fucking sad that he obviously feels like he is missing out regardless of what I try to do! We talked about it and he decided he was happier it just being me and him (had a play fight, stories and quality time til bedtime so it took his mind away from it).
Guess the question is AIBU to be really sad that my beautiful, bright, confident boy just wants a daddy for christmas and to be feeling like such a shit mum?
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to be gutted DS asked me to write a New Daddy on his christmas list?
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BattlingFanjos · 12/11/2012 00:08
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