To think this is so odd??!

(334 Posts)
curiousgeorgie Sun 11-Nov-12 17:45:47

My PIL have mentioned several times over te past 8 weeks since their 2nd grandchild was born that they would love to have a canvas of the two children (my DD and new DN) to put on the wall.

With christmas coming thought this would be a great gift so sent a message to BIL and his fiancée to ask if we could get the kids together to do this for them. DH has a brilliant camera and is quite into photography so wouldn't cost them anything and wouldn't take long.

BIL sent a message straight back saying great idea, they'll love that, lets set it up.

3 hours later and she sends me a message saying 'Im going to have to say no to the picture'.

Weird???! Please tell me this is completely off because I'm not really sure what on earth I'm supposed to respond to that!

Tweasels Sun 11-Nov-12 17:47:31

Just text back and say, "oh that's a shame, why?"

PickledFanjoCat Sun 11-Nov-12 17:47:55

Ask her why?

Maybe hello mag have exclusive rights?

PickledFanjoCat Sun 11-Nov-12 17:48:17

Teasels I just nearly said the exact same thing.

dancemom Sun 11-Nov-12 17:49:00

does SIL have any kids from a previous relationship?

I'm going to guess she's er. . besotted with her new baby and has already booked one of those Venture type sessions to give everyone a Christmas picture.

BeaWheesht Sun 11-Nov-12 17:49:03

Yes very odd - id reply 'why? Dh willing to take photo etc so no cost to you. Mil would definitely love it' grin

Only thing I can think of is if they've already done a canvas? <clutching at straws>

Text back "Why?"

McKayz Sun 11-Nov-12 17:50:01

Just ask why?

DozyDuck Sun 11-Nov-12 17:50:39

Just ask

OpheliaPayneAgain Sun 11-Nov-12 17:51:50

They have probably ordered something photographic with the new baby.

HanSolo Sun 11-Nov-12 17:52:32

Has to be because they'd think it expensive?
Or maybe SIL doesn't want limelight hogged by your DC?

Maybe they don't want a canvas (neither would I, I think they look tacky, sorry).

curiousgeorgie Sun 11-Nov-12 17:53:52

Okay, I asked why and said that PIL would love it, and she just sent back 'I'd rather not.'

I'm sort of mad about it now actually.

emsyj Sun 11-Nov-12 17:54:26

Do they have to explain themselves? What happened to the Mumsnet mantra, 'No is a complete sentence'? hmm

She doesn't want to. She can say no if she wants. There may be a good reason, there may be a crappy reason, there may be no reason at all. Just accept it and move on. Get your DH to do a lovely pic of your DD and give that to the ILs.

curiousgeorgie Sun 11-Nov-12 17:57:04

I know... It's just frustrating because I know they really want one.

PickledFanjoCat Sun 11-Nov-12 17:57:05

You'll have to leave it now but my guess is that they are doing their own.

The texts ARE a bit terse. Do you normally get on?

Yama Sun 11-Nov-12 17:57:37

Agree with Emmsyj.

RevoltingPeasant Sun 11-Nov-12 17:57:56

She sounds massively precious, but <shrug> some people are. Just do a portrait of your DC and give that to PIL - I'm sure they will love it - and next time someone wants you to do something reasonable you'd rather not, remember you are a bigger person than SIL and step up!

curiousgeorgie Sun 11-Nov-12 18:00:28

Fanjo - we do get on. We went for lunch yesterday, took the babies to rhyme time in the week, her texts are always lacking punctuation and kisses etc, its just the way they are.

I would think they were doing something like that themselves if BIL hadn't said yes right away...

Tweasels Sun 11-Nov-12 18:01:30

As a joke just text back and say "no problem, I'll get my DC photographed and I'll just draw yours in"

RuleBritannia Sun 11-Nov-12 18:02:50

What about asking BIL why she won't?

Just do one of you DC and leave it at that.

I would just do a 6ftx6ft one of your dc, as big as you can afford.
It is her decision and you can't really harass her for a reason but I would love to know what the issue is.

curiousgeorgie Sun 11-Nov-12 18:05:20

It's a group iMessage so they can see each others messages but he hasn't said anything. Texting him separately feels a bit like trying to cause trouble...

Although a lot of me now wants to take the pictures of both kids I already have (though not great) and make a giant collage of them wink

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