To not want to buy back things I gave away for free?

(128 Posts)
DinosaursOnASpaceship Fri 09-Nov-12 18:28:50

A few months ago I gave all of ds3s baby stuff away to a relative of exps (we were still together at the time). There was £100s worth of clothes and equipment (pram, swinging chair, moses basket, baby moniters, steriliser, all clothes up to 6 months) and it was all barely used. I gave it away because I didn't think I would be needing it again and I knew the person I gave it to would be grateful and get good use out of it.

About 4 weeks after giving it all away I found out I was unexpectantly pregnant.

I gave the stuff away not wanting it back, I wouldn't expect or ask for it back either. Once it's gone, it's gone. I've been on eBay and been saving up to replace everything.

It's up to her what she does with the stuff now she has finished with it but I really resent getting an email asking me if I want to buy some of it back from her.

I don't mind her selling it, it's coming up to Christmas and we all want to make some money but surely trying to sell things back to the person that gave thence to you is a bit off?

I wouldn't say anything to her - she's a lovely person, but won't be buying them back. I'd rather buy them from eBay etc than pay for the same thing twice.

ENormaSnob Fri 09-Nov-12 18:30:00

She is a cheeky fucker.

Coconutty Fri 09-Nov-12 18:30:20

I would have to say something - they are your things that you gave her, why the fuck would you buy them back from her?

Say that you want them for the same price she paid you.

Hesterton Fri 09-Nov-12 18:31:00

How VERY rude of her. Cheeky mare! I'd tell her what I thought of her! And I wouldn't give her a penny.

AThingInYourLife Fri 09-Nov-12 18:31:10

She's not a lovely person.

A lovely person would have given it all back to you the minute they found out you were pregnant.

Mintyy Fri 09-Nov-12 18:32:30

You absolutely definitely must say something to her:

"You want me to buy back the things I gave to you? Are you sure??"

Don't let her take the p, no matter how lovely she is.

GhostShip Fri 09-Nov-12 18:33:28

OP PLEASE say what Mintyy said

tutu100 Fri 09-Nov-12 18:35:48

Does she remember that you gave them to her? If she does then I have never heard of such cheek! Ask for your stuff back if she's finished with it.

FayeKinitt Fri 09-Nov-12 18:35:50

She's not really lovely though, is she?

Snog Fri 09-Nov-12 18:35:53

Minty is right
Maybe she forgot you gave her all this stuff?

EuroShagmore Fri 09-Nov-12 18:35:59

The cheeky mare!

Jsa1980 Fri 09-Nov-12 18:37:39

I don't even know how she summons the bottle to even ask. She must be mad as bagers, she should be giving it straight back along with any other baby stuff she no longer needs

Passmethecrisps Fri 09-Nov-12 18:37:53

Cheeky moose and grasping wench.

You gave, she wants to profit. Profit from you thanks to your generosity.

Say something. Say what mintyy said.

TwitchyTail Fri 09-Nov-12 18:38:07

Because I'm feeling generous in spirit today... do you think it's possible that she was inundated with stuff and has genuinely forgotten you gave the things to her in the first place?

If not, she is being incredibly cheeky and definitely NOT a lovely person.

I would reply innocently saying no thanks to buying anything, but could you please take back the things you gave her when she's done with them? As if it's not even crossed your mind she would charge you for things that you gave her for free?

DinosaursOnASpaceship Fri 09-Nov-12 18:38:26

It's difficult as one part of me is reacting like everyone who has posted but the other part of me knows she could really use the money and probably didn't think about what she was saying before sending it. Without generalising, or stereotyping, she is very young and finding everything a challenge at the moment I think. I don't want to offend her.

I am very soft though.

DewDr0p Fri 09-Nov-12 18:38:32

Wow that's cheeky! love Minty's response grin

Bobyan Fri 09-Nov-12 18:39:05

Send her a list of what you gave her and tell her you want it returned ASAP.
What a bitch.

DinosaursOnASpaceship Fri 09-Nov-12 18:40:28

She definately hasn't forgotten I gave it all to her. It was only 4/5 months ago and we had to do three journeys to get it there.

LFCisTarkaDahl Fri 09-Nov-12 18:40:32

Agree with Twitchy - you must send a totally straight email saying:

"no thanks to buying anything extra as I can't really afford it but yes to having some of the stuff back I gave you as that would be helpful"

ImperialBlether Fri 09-Nov-12 18:40:40

You don't want to offend her but she's really happy to offend you, isn't she?

BerthaTheBogBurglar Fri 09-Nov-12 18:41:01

She has to have forgotten, surely? Really dreadful major baby brain?

How about You're going to be really embarassed when I tell you this - actually I gave you all that stuff for free! It's amazing what we forget in the baby fog isn't it? But yes, I'd love to have all my stuff back, thanks.

Or if you're sure she is a cheeky mare - Oh ok. I'll buy it all back at the same price I charged you for it, shall I?

Cheeky fucker!!!

Mollydoggerson Fri 09-Nov-12 18:41:48

I think you should go with Twitchy Tail's suggestion.

She needs a nudge in the right direction.

BerthaTheBogBurglar Fri 09-Nov-12 18:42:22

Ah, x-posted. What Twitchy said.

bigTillyMint Fri 09-Nov-12 18:42:39

WTFshock I seriously hope it is a case of baby brain. You HAVE to do what Mintyy says!

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