Thought about putting this in relationships but its more me wanting to know if I really am being unreasonable, first time I have done a AIBU thread so I hope I don't regret it, but need honest opinions. cringe..
I namechanged as some know me on here in RL
I had a falling out more me shouting at DH this morning. We don't argue (he's way to laid back and hates arguments), we have a great relationship, cuddle up every eve bar when he does sport but don't get much time out on dates etc as money is very tight, great dad etc etc Married 7 years together for 9 and 3 DC.
We have what I think is a good active sex life however I feel like its constantly me that puts things in motion. I go out my way to dress up, have sex downstairs (hate this as although I am lucky to be slim I feel DC wrecked me..same old story) send texts etc. Just the other day I sent one and he came home 10 mins later on lunch so its not that he doesn't want me as I know he does.
Anyway yesterday I sent some kinky texts, made lovely dinner etc etc, we went to bed watched a film and he didn't even get undressed laid on bed watching film etc in the end I fell asleep. I'm so fed up of being the one to intiate anything. Had we had gone up and I had kissed him etc we would have got it on and don't get me wrong it would have been good. But I am now getting to the point where I am fed up.
I am not a big one for cuddles and kisses in the day (DH has said about this before) I do try though..
So if you are still with me I had a shouty rant basically saying the above and DH went off to work without saying much. Am I in the wrong to demand he actually comes on to me? A friend pointed out to me this morning however that has it always been me intiating, which it has so maybe he doesn't bother because of this? I go through this pretty much every month. We tend to go through motions of sex every other day one week to once a week the next.
just frustrating!
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To not to want to make the effort all the time??
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notanypixie · 09/11/2012 11:52
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