she has only been with us 4 weeks, she comes once a week. I saw her this morning, I went out and by the time i got home she had finished and left. Done a pretty good job with the house, shes not brilliant but its fine. Anyway i have a big mirror in my room, on the dressing table, its huge and it had gone, she had cleaned the dressing table and i was confused looking round the house for it, checked the bins, found it eventually smashed in the garage. no note/no phone call/text nothing. Now i am not a cow and probably would of just said oh well these things happen dont worry. it is quite expensive though. I would have liked an apology and an offer to pay/replace or whatever. It has made me uneasy that it feels like she hasnt much respect for my belongings. However she could just be worried I'll go mad at her and is avoiding me. She hasnt known me long and couldnt know what my reaction would be. Still she is an adult and I think should own up and apologise, its not like i'm not going to find out!
AIBU?
Very strange behaviour! Not as if you were going to notice no mirror.
Play dumb and ask her if she has seen it 
She should have told you. Definitely. YANBU. I would speak to her before making a decision with regard to sacking or not. I used to clean houses and remember once breaking a huge fecking ornament. I glued it back together and hoped she wouldn't notice 
She will prob appear next week lugging big mirror and expensive wool dress as she was so distressed over mirror disaster that she set washing machine to wrong setting and only realised after she'd left.
So she will deserve generous reward for her conscientious behaviour....... I hope 
I'd change your lock's quick smart if I was you.
are you for real op 
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