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AIBU?

To consider not going to work tomorrow?

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Dramajustfollowsme · 08/11/2012 21:49

I feel terrible, have a very high temperature of 39.3, aching limbs and sinuses full of snot. I'm considering not going in tomorrow but as we have quite an important morning I don't want to let people down.
I don't want to give any horrible bugs to the children (although probably one of them passed it to me in the first place). I am a teacher.
Colleagues in the past have commented on me being off a lot, not management, just one particular co-worker.
I've been there 6 years. I had a day off with conjunctivitis, then 5 days for noro virus my first year.
2nd year my appendix ruptured and due to the surgery and the fact I was in the nursery, ie lifting I had 5 weeks off.
No days off in my 3rd year.
4th year I was put on bed rest half way through my pregnancy. My DS was still born and although I technically could have taken maternity leave I came back after a month.
I got pregnant again, and didn't have so many problems but had time off to get checked by the consultant due to my history. I then went on maternity leave for a year.
I've been back since September with no absences.
I can't make up my mind if I am being paranoid about being off too much. I feel that my record isn't too bad but she constantly bad mouths me and I know if I'm not there tomorrow, she will just have another dig at me.

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Dramajustfollowsme · 08/11/2012 21:50

Should add that the ring leader has quite a following so it ends up a wee gang. Honestly, sometimes it is hard to believe they are the adults not kids themselves.

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INeedThatForkOff · 08/11/2012 21:51

The problem is your colleague, not your sickness record. You need to stand up to her by taking it to your line manager.

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CaliforniaLeaving · 08/11/2012 21:53

Yep the colleague is the problem not your time off sick.

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ThatBintAgain · 08/11/2012 21:53

Fuck 'em, if youre ill you're ill. (thats the conclusion I've cone to as am in a similar boat to you and also taking tomorrow off!) Hope you feel better soon.

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kinkyfuckery · 08/11/2012 21:54

If you are still unwell in the morning, don't go in. It doesn't matter how often you are off/have been off previously - it wouldn't be fair to risk passing on any illness to other members of staff/pupils/etc.

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dontcallmehon · 08/11/2012 21:54

Maternity absences don't count as normal absences, as you are protected during pregnancy. Other than that you haven't been absent much. I would take the day off and rest or you'll make yourself worse and still end up getting bitched about for infecting everyone!

Hope you feel better soon.

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MamaMary · 08/11/2012 21:54

I am ill and went to work today and yesterday against my better judgement. In my case, I am worried about holding down a job :(

I now feel a lot worse :(

Sounds like you have the flu, or are getting it. Please, take the day off.

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CaptainHoratioWragge · 08/11/2012 21:54

I think for a colleague to make snipey comments about your absences when some of it was caused by a difficult pregnancy and stillbirth is deliberately hurtful and unpleasant.

She might be a ring-leader but i'll bet you anything no-one likes her or trusts her.

Go in or not tomorrow depending on how you feel in the morning, but don't let this horrible person get to you, she isn't worth it.

If she says such things in the future, I'd speak to your line manager.

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lotsofcheese · 08/11/2012 21:55

See how you feel in the morning & make a decision then. If you still have a high temperature you shouldn't be going in.

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Dramajustfollowsme · 08/11/2012 21:57

I've made official complaints about her. Other members of staff have ended up signed off with stress because of her.
Union weren't particularly helpful, possibly because she is a member too.
HT loves her, thinks she is wonderful, can't understand why people complain.Hmm
I usually just keep my head below the parapet as she has a unique talent to make you feel like shit with the opening sentence of a conversation.

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Alisvolatpropiis · 08/11/2012 21:59

YANBU and your colleague sounds like a bitch.

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Dramajustfollowsme · 08/11/2012 21:59

Mamamary, that sounds awful. Hope you feel better soon.

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maddening · 08/11/2012 21:59

Stay off and let mnetters help devise a way to take the bitch down and come out smelling of roses! Seriously hate people like your colleague - they are awful to work with!

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maddening · 08/11/2012 22:01

Ps who does the ht answer too? Surely with lots of complaints they can't just ignore it!

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Dramajustfollowsme · 08/11/2012 22:11

Ht answers only to governors (private school) the management team are ridiculously useless at the moment at dealing with most things. That could be a thread all on its own!
I'm glad you all agree with my dh. He is threatening to hide the car keys if I try to go in.
It is just really difficult when you are made out to be a slacker when it isnt the case at all. You do get paranoid. Sad

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EverybodysSpookyEyed · 08/11/2012 22:19

As a parent, I wouldn't want you around my kids! Stay at home and get better! You'll be back on Monday.

As for your colleague, you just have to ignore. I know it's hard bit it's the best way to deal with bullies!

If you go in on Monday make sure you do a big snotty sneeze all over her!

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RainbowsFriend · 08/11/2012 22:20

Teacher guilt. Stay home

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CaptainHoratioWragge · 08/11/2012 22:25

Can we help you plan your day tomorrow?

Is there a film you fancy watching under a duvet on the sofa/ a good book you want to read / can you send DP out now on a preparatory trip for throat sweets /trashy magazines/ lucozade etc........

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dolcegusto123 · 08/11/2012 22:31

I would stay off. Take it easy and I hope you feel better soon. I wouldnt worry too much about your co worker, they dont sound like a very nice person.

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blackeyedsusan · 09/11/2012 00:27

teachers are not indispensible... honest. you will not do a good job if you are pooly. you will will only infect the children an d as a caring teracher you do not want to do that...

if it were me I would be staggering into work dosed up on paacetamol, decongestants and ibupofen oh oik no use huiding it I wold be going to wok too... what is it about teachers?

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FromEsme · 09/11/2012 00:30

I agree with the others, stay off and have a word with your line manager if the ring leader continues.

It's mad how teaching so often attracts people who are so petty. Drives me mad.

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ImperialFireworksInMyKnickers · 09/11/2012 00:36

Get well soon and good luck with uber bitch. Can't offer helpful advice except that snidy bitches had a lot to do with my decision to become self-employed.

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VirginiaDare · 09/11/2012 00:42

39.3 is not a very high temp, but I hope you feel better soon anyway.

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justbogoffnow · 09/11/2012 00:45

Do not go in if you are unwell, end of. Sod this stupid woman and crap comments. You know you are a committed teacher. You can't help getting ill. Schools are germ pits! Rest up, hope you feel better soon Smile.

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Bossybritches22 · 09/11/2012 00:46

Virginia it is .

Normal is around 37 deg

Anything above 38 usually makes you feel like shite

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