My Dp asks for a lift twice a week to the pub,aibu in saying make your own way as

[ilikewine]

I have two children to get ready for bed,he said well you can stop asking me to pick up shopping as you are at home allday.

[ilikewine]

Bump anyone?

[OhCobblers]

No YANBU
he's an arse (my own DH does not go down the pub x 2 in a week - do you 2 have a social life together?)

have just typed out more but then deleted it all - my first 2 line say everything that needs to be said!

[BaggyCoconut]

YANBU

I hope you get to go out a couple of times a week too!

The children being settled is far more important. tell him to have a beer or two less and fork out for a cab, or just walk!

[ilikewine]

Im bloody mad and I got a second job today,oh well cheers.

[OhCobblers]

so is it that you got a 2nd job and you wanted him to celebrate with you?

or did you get the 2nd job 'cos you both need the money but he's swanning off to the pub for the 2nd time this week?

do you go out in the week on your own with friends?

do you go out together?

i'm always a bit stunned by these threads because if my husband and i go out separately, its arranged quite far in advance, doesn't happen too often and we go out fairly frequently together. He wouldn't ever come home and then say he's off to the pub for a few with his mates? i've never understood that way of thinking i'm afraid.

[ilikewine]

Yes it would of been nice to have celebrated.

I got the job because the money would be great as we are saving,and I need to get out of the house as I have been a sahm,the kids are at school etc.

No I dont go out, not really very sociable prever my own company most of the time or Im to tired.

Very rarely we go out to much hard work?.

[OhCobblers]

Very rarely we go out to much hard work?.
only if you think like that.

right, do you have a babysitter, friend or anyone who will look after the kids one evening?
Book a restaurant (i agree it would be nice if he'd had that thought first!) and go out TOGETHER!!
You never know, you might just enjoy yourself. I really don't believe that staying at home, preferring your own company and saying you're too tired (which i can well believe by the way as have 2 of my own!) is very healthy for anyone.

by the way, you're concentrating on saving, is he? because going to the pub twice a week doesn't sound like it?

[ilikewine]

Ohcobblers im down at the moment sorry,my youngest has gone of to preschool,I have now increased my hours starting new job soon.

I feel guilty as she will be in preschool all day for three days whilst I work.

[OhCobblers]

i'm really sorry to hear that you're down.

i can appreciate you feel guilty but does your DP know how you feel?
Have you spoken to him about it?
Is your youngest enjoying pre-school thus far?
Can you try and do a little something to lift your mood? maybe my "night out" idea isn't right for you for now, but something else? hopefully someone else will come along and make a good suggestion. i love going out for dinner so that one always works for me!!

hope you're feeling better about it all very soon.

[ilikewine]

A meal would be perfect tbh,no he does not know how I feel,I have not told him.

I will arrange a babysitter and book a meal,we need some us time.


Thank youx.

[OhCobblers]

perfect plan!
hope you have a lovely night out

[ilikewine]

Thanks x