A parent of one of my DD's friends constantly projects her own negative views onto her child, encouraging her child to worry and be upset about the smallest thing. It is quite upsetting to watch, and happens quite regularly but one recent incident went as follows:
Child gets randomly splashed by passing classmate jumping in puddle nearby. Child gets small splash of muddy water on socks.
To me the correct response to this is 'oh dear, bit of a wet sock, nevermind!'.
This parent responds with the following:
'Oh no, X are you ok? Are you totally soaking ? You must be freezing, you poor poor thing! Oh what a horrible little boy to be mean to you like that. I don't know why he picked on you like that, how spiteful. This is always happening. Oh dear, don't cry X. Oh look how upset you are now.'
Cue parent looking round at surrounding parents, saying loudly in front of X 'Wasn't that awful to pick on X like that. SHe is utterly heartbroken aren't you X? You'll probably be upset all evening now won't you, you poor thing' etc etc
So the kid goes from thinking there's no problem apart from a little splash, to thinking she needs to be very upset as a result of being deliberately singled out in an act of extreme malice. By the end of all this she's in floods of tears and inconsolable, while we all stood round baffled!
AIBU to think this parent is making her DD miserable by more or less encouraging her to feel bad?
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undercovamutha · 29/09/2010 18:15
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