My friend was appointed as a deputy manager of a nursery and was finding it hard to implement essential changes in line with the EYFS. The owner and manager have very little child care knowledge and basically the nursery were breaking rules left, right and centre. She was very upset about it but didn't feel she could leave the nursery because things were so bad.
A situation arose with the manager and she subsequently left (can't go into details for confidentiality reasons), so my friend was promoted to manager and asked me to help out for a "few days or until Ofsted turned up".
I agreed to do this, I am on mat leave from my job and DD2 was, at this time 4 weeks old. I was able to bring her to the nursery with me which was the reason I was able to help out. The initial agreement was that I would act as her deputy for the inspection or that the owner would employ a suitable person for the job.
As much as I was happy to help them out, I now feel that 3 months later, it's getting too much and I am being relied upon too much. I feel now like I am obliged to go in every day and actually "work" there. I was offered a full time job which I declined, I have 3 DC, one of which is in school so working full time is not do-able for me at the moment. I was then offered a part time position to start next year when I have completed my degree and EYPS qualifications. I agreed to think about it (I was offered way more money than I am getting in my current job) and then verbally agreed to the position. The job wouldn't be starting until April 2011.
However, now I have to ring in if I'm not going to be in, I've been given a key group of children which I am supposed to plan and do development files on. If I'm not there, it doesn't get done. I'm treated as though I am actually employed there and I'm not!
Anyway, to cut this long story short, I agreed to the job but I have come to realise that it is simply not do-able. I can't cope with 3DCs, the housework, making sure everything is done, plus my degree and EYPS studies on top of going to a "job" that I'm technically not employed in. DH is making noises about the state of the house, I feel exhausted all the time, to the point where I can't find the energy to do anything with the DCs. In addition, my mum recently had a heart attack and I feel she needs a bit of looking after, which, as I am on maternity leave, I could be doing.
I don't want to go back to the nursery and I'm finding myself making excuses to get out of it. I have said that as I am only helping out, I will come in if they are desperate or as and when I can but this apparently isn't good enough.
so, AIBU to not go back, explaining my reasons as I have done here, or should I suck it up and carry on?
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SecretSlattern · 29/09/2010 10:48
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