(sorry long post)
I have been friends with her for 20 years. We used to live together. She and her partner have always been slack on hygeine and cleanliness, and now they have moved to a much bigger house I can't stand it.
I hate visiting as I end up cleaning the bathroom and kitchen as soon as I walk in - I am not a clean freak by any measure - the house really is filthy (think Kim and Aggy). I have to clear a room to make a bed for me and my dd. I feel uncomfortable all weekend.
I haven't visited for almost a year after visiting regularly for years. We have met up for day trips etc which is fine, I do still enjoy her company. I don't know what to do. She is very stubborn and whilst I keep thinking I should just tell her why I am not visiting her I know it would upset her, but then my constant excuses not to visit must also be upsetting her....? Help.
Do I just keep putting her off, meet for days etc or do I bite the bullet and tell her, and risk a long friendship??
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missmoopy · 01/09/2010 18:27
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