Here's the outburst...
DH and I and our DDs aged 4 and 1 were out walking in Hurtwood with a friend and his two DDs aged 4 and 2. It's a managed forest and is popular with hikers, dog-walkers, mountain-bikers etc. We've only known this family a few years but because they lived close by and our daughters are similar ages we beacme close very quickly. Anyway, we were all straggling along the track - DH and I up ahead with the younger girls, our friend behind with the two 4-year-olds - when 5 young lads on mountain bikes came toward us. DH and I stepped aside, they thanked us, I called back down the track that bikes were coming through. Our DD jumped on to the verge, his 4 year old DD stopped walking in the middle of the path. As they passed by she gave an almighty scream - eveyone believed one of them had hit her. The lads on bikes stopped to check if she was okay but before this could be ascertained, our friend, her father, grabbed one of them by the scruff, fist raised, screaming obscenities at him, threatening to kill him. The lads were terrified, the daughter still screaming. I established that she wasn't hurt 'just frightened' but still he ranted, screaming at them all to fuck off again and again, until they all did, visibly shaken. And then our friend said to his daughter 'it's alright darling, you know Daddy will always protect you'
DH and I were stunned that a grown man could be so aggressive towards teenagers in front of small children, who were visibly shaken. If it hadn't been so horrible it would almost have been funny.
He later apologised to me for swearing but frankly it's not the language that bothered me - I'm sure they've heard the word 'fuck' before - it's the complete loss of control and subsequent justification of it to his daughter.
DH thinks I'm being a bit PFB about the whole business so I thought I'd check with MN. Am I being unreasonable to not want my children spending time with this man? Or should I give him the benefit of the doubt and put it down to a bad day?
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EmmalinaC · 31/08/2010 13:13
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