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ok, I'm *really* worried now about where he is...

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duchesse · 30/08/2010 10:05

My DH left on Saturday lunchtime to fly to South Korea for a three day workshop on the island of Jeju. He'd booked the journey in three legs: London-HK, HK-Seoul, Seoul-Jeju, with enough transfer time at each stage but not too much.

London-HK was delayed, meaning that he missed his connecting flight and was reassigned a flight that meant that he would miss his designated connecting flight on to Jeju.

He's usually very good at keeping in touch. The last contact I've had though was yesterday afternoon, just as his plane was taxying (late due to bad weather around HK) out of HK airport. Since then, nothing. In his mailbox were unopened emails from the conference organiser about staying in hotels and getting a taxi to the venue, and another from a Japanese colleague who would be in the same flight about linking up to share the taxi to the hotel on Jeju. I've emailed both asking if DH has arrived, but no answer yet. Does anyone out there have any local knowledge of Jeju? Is it subject to communications failures?

Please help, I'm going rapidly mad here.

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kreecherlivesupstairs · 30/08/2010 10:09

Have you checked the news for any reports? If you have and nothing to be alarmed about, I think I'd try the FCO site. Not sure how much they are able to do about a grown up TBH.
Have you contacted the airline he travelled with to see if it did actually land? Could it have been diverted to another airport/country.
Good luck.

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Isawthreeships · 30/08/2010 10:13

Check with the airline. Do you have his booking reference - if so, they should be willing to give you the details of his new arrangements.

Your DH may just be shattered and fallen asleep in his hotel room, of course so try not to worry too much.

Hope it works out OK.

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duchesse · 30/08/2010 10:13

I've looked it up on Flights stats which is usually very reliable and it said the flight landed 180 minutes late, which would have made him definitely late for the start of the meeting.

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parakeet · 30/08/2010 10:14

Hang on, if the plane had crashed you would definitely have seen it on the internet (assuming you have checked the internet for recent plane crashes). He's a grown man, and presumably has the money/credit cards to cope with any unexpected hotel stays or taxi journeys. Relax.

Sorry if this sounds unsympathetic, but I can't understand why he normally would be contacting you at every leg of his journey. If my husband was on a business trip for three days I would be quite happy to not hear a peep out of him until the sound of his key in the door three days later.

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LadyintheRadiator · 30/08/2010 10:19

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suzikettles · 30/08/2010 10:21

could he have met up with someone on the flight/at an airport also going to the meeting?

If he was going to be late then he'd have gone straight there presumably, and if he was with someone else then they wouldn't have both had to check taxi/hotel details.

I'm sure he's absolutely fine but I hope he checks in with you soon to put your mind at rest.

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Isawthreeships · 30/08/2010 10:24

Sounds like he went straight into the meeting, and then perhaps crashed out afterwards?

I hope he checks in soon but in the meantime, do try not to worry duchesse.

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ChippingIn · 30/08/2010 10:26

Duchesse - I recently flew back to the UK via Seoul and for some barmy reason my phone wouldn't do 'call roaming' from there! Weird.

Anyway, hopefully he's just been trying to catch up with himself and make up for lost time... and will be in touch later.

Can you ring the hotel to see if they have checked in?

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bellavita · 30/08/2010 10:29

I hope he makes contact soon Duchesse. Like others have said, if his planes were late etc he was probably just concentrating on getting other connections sorted and then went straight into his meeting.

FWIW Parakeet, even if my DH goes to London he normally txts or rings when he gets there and does the same on his way back.

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moondog · 30/08/2010 10:31

Hi
I've just been to Korea.
Dh's phone didn't work there either.
Remember the time difference too.
Can't yuo phone the hotel?

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chimchar · 30/08/2010 10:32

i'd be the same duch...

i'd assume that he had arrived very late for everything, was in a bit of a flap, met up with someone in an airport or taxi, is talking work with them, has gone straight into his mtg or conference and has had no opportunity to send you a quick text without looking rude iykwim...

try to calm down....no news is good news eh?

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duchesse · 30/08/2010 10:33

Hooray! He's texted. He says he couldn't work out the dialling code. Thanks for holding my virtual hand while I had an attack of the crazies.

Now off to spend the day with a friend who had a near miss on the A303 yesterday... Other driver (who caused the accident) was inexperienced and was sadly killed.

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moondog · 30/08/2010 10:35

Blimey.
Great he has phoned.

He'll have a good time.

We adored Korea and Jeju is supposed to be great (didn't manage a trip there this time.)

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bellavita · 30/08/2010 10:36

Aww that's good news for you Duchesse, you can relax now Smile

Not so good about your friends near miss though and for the other driver Sad

Have a lovely day.

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ChippingIn · 30/08/2010 10:37

Good news about DH.

Your friend must be in a bit of a state. Many years ago a friend of mine was in an accident where it was the other drivers fault and she died at the scene - my friend went grey almost overnight and still has the occasional nightmare about it - even though it was in no way his fault :(

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parakeet · 30/08/2010 21:49

Each to their own, of course.

But part of the reason I have never subscribed to the "call-me-to-say-you've got-there-safely" philosophy, is that when the call is delayed, you tend to think they HAVEN'T got there safely. As in this case.

It's much more pleasant to take the default position of assuming they haven't died in a horrific plane/car crash until you hear otherwise.

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Snobear4000 · 30/08/2010 21:59

Phew, thank goodness for all that. (wipes brow)

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duchesse · 01/09/2010 17:47

He might be stuck there for a few extra days now- typhoon heading his way...

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