to tell DH to sort his own dinner out?

[Stuckey]

Ok, so back story first:

We're relocating in 3 weeks. To my hometown and away from DH's. However he did live in my hometown for quite a few years and has alot of good friends there.

For the past few weeks he has been spending alot of time out with his brother/friends/cousins because we'll be gone soon. Last week both his days off were mostly spent playing golf with friends, with only one afternoon spare that was spent sorting stuff in the house. It feels like yonks since we did something as a family (we have 2 DC)

I've been ill, practically housebound and having to entertain a 2yr old and a 4yr old all week. Each day he comes home to collect his lunch (that I have made, today we made sausage rolls and muffins so he took some for him and his mates at work) and gets home to a homemade dinner when he gets in. He's not lifted a finger in the house and I'm shattered. I feel like his Mum. Last night he was late back after seeing friends so we didn't eat as a family and he heated his meal up. I bathed and got the kids to bed on my own, like every other night this week.

I've just rung to see what time he's back for dinner tonight, and he's going to be late again. 'I'll just heat it up' he says. Great so I'll spend 2 hours cooking, sit on my own with the kids (again), wash up, bath the kids, and you can swan in to a clean, quiet house and heat your dinner up.

I'm going to order pizza for me and the kids and leave none for him. AIBU?

[pontypandy]

No YANBU! when you say hes gonna be l8 tonight ,is he working l8 or going out with m8s again??

Also u say u are relcating, how far are you going?

[Colliecross]

YANBU
He is spoilt by all your wonderfulness.
However, no need to spend 2 hours cooking? Especially as you are not well. A quick pasta dish or veg chowder with cheese would surely suffice, especially after all that baking.

[Stuckey]

Playing golf

moving 300 miles away.

[Stuckey]

Colliecross... to be fair the sausage rolls etc were to keep DC1 entertained! Unfortunatley I meal plan and have saved the worst (cooking time wise) till last this week, and apparently a meal isn't a meal without meat

[baskingseals]

YANBU at all
get garlic bread as well

[Stuckey]

Might even push the boat out and get a chicken side...

[iamamug]

Tell him to Sod Off!! he can make himself something when he gets in. You've made a rod for you own back IMO!
Enjoy the pizza and have a glass of wine with it..

[pontypandy]

Well as your moving so far away i wouldnt mind my dh seeing friends before we went, but it seems that ur DH is taking the Piss !

If you didn't want to cause a big argument by not making him anything, then get some micro chips and something that u can just bung in the oven for his tea, if he complains just tell him that if he wanted a proper meal or some of the takeaway you and DC are having then he should of come home at dinner time .

[Stuckey]

At least the past few weeks has given me experience of living with teenagers I suppose

[Colliecross]

Hmm, well I think you are much too kind.
Enjoy the pizza and leave the boxes so the smell lingers...I hope you feel better soon.

[colditz]

YANBU

[Stuckey]

Maybe I should feed the kids and get them to bed then me and DH could eat a take away together later and spend some time? Do you think tht would be The Right Thing to do, or should I go with my orignal thought...?

[Colliecross]

I would have eaten first and be relaxing in the bath when he arrived hungry :)

[Stuckey]

[sapphireblue]

YANBU!!!!! I'm sending a virtual kick in the b*ks in his direction! what a selfish twunt.

[msrisotto]

A meal isn't a meal without meat

RRRAARGH!! This makes me angry because it's so fecking easy to be choosy about what you eat when someone else is making it isn't it?! Tell him to feck off and make the FAMILY's dinner (not just his own!) if he wants something with meat in, when you're making it, he can like it or lump it.

[Ephiny]

YANBU. Unless you've said you're going to make him dinner, he's got no right to expect it to be waiting for him when he comes home! And if you have said you're making dinner, then the least he can do is have the courtesy to turn up in time to eat it - exceptions if he got delayed at work or something, but playing golf with mates . Sounds like he's treating you as his personal domestic servant (or his Mum!).


Maybe leave him a couple of slices of pizza to heat up later, if you're feeling generous :)

[Stuckey]

msrisotto - unfortunaltely I'm a bit of a 'feeder' and like satisfied tummies after a meal I've made

We had pizza. Just one (cheeseless thanks to DC2) slice left. Sent a text suggesting he gets his own dinner whilst out, got a 'no probs' back.

He's just come in. He didn't have his wallet and is stomping about the kitchen like an hormonal teenager.

My work here is done, off to have a bath

[msrisotto]

I totally get that, I'd hate to make something that wasn't loved liked but that comment would piss me off so much!!

[Flisspaps]

Enjoy your bath Stuckey

What's the betting he'll have had a bowl of cereal or something and will have a whinge about there being nothing in the house to eat