I've just received an invitation to my sister's wedding. We have not spoken in three years after our always difficult relationship spectaculary broke down and I broke off all contact.
Incidentally, the estrangement is a decison that has been very positive for me, though of course it is difficult for our parents - which I regret - and it's a shame that our children can't have a relationship. I also wish that she wasn't such a poisonous bitch both of us were able to behave better and get along, but that seems to be impossible, so the current situation is the best scenario for a happy life for me.
So, the invitation. What I received was the invitation alone, no note enclosed or anything.
Why? Why the fuck has she sent this? I can't believe she actually wants me there - your wedding day is not the time or place for a tense meeting with your estranged sibling.
My personal opinion is that she knows full well that there is no way I will attend, so if she invites me she will be able to make a big drama out of the fact that her nasty selfish sister has marred her big day by not coming or even acknowledging her generous invitation. (For the record, I realise I sound like a paranoid loon, but this is based on years of dealing with her).
I doubt it, but I concede it could be an olive branch. It's a bloody dumb ass one if it is, though. Surely an olive branch that had half a chance of being accepted would involve a letter or a note acknowledging that we've not spoken in years but saying that it's important to her that I attend her wedding etc etc. Not just an inviation telling me to turn up at some bloody hotel and a here's-what-I-want-you-to-buy-me-from-John-Lewis-as-a-gift card.
I don't want anything to do with her. I have stated this clearly and unequivocally (though politely) in writing. I find her refusal to respect this actually an enormous act of aggression.
So what do you think? Is just binning it and ignoring the whole thing the way forward (I think so)? Or should I RSVP declining the invitation? Or should I double-bluff her and accept and turn up like the bad fairy (only joking)?
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notanumber · 05/08/2010 15:48
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