DP's just told me that a friend of his has turned down our wedding invitation because I make him feel uncomfortable and am scary. WTF?
There is a bit of backstory here.
This guy is part of a group of DP's friends who are barking mad a bit odd. When I first got to know DP he was living as a houseguest with a married couple and this guy. Now this guy had (and still has) a girlfriend, but all of them were very into bending your ear about their devotion to open relationships and how wonderfully relaxed they were about casual sex. So, having just split up with ex and being a bit of a mess, I chatted up this guy one night, and he was into it, but we didn't get further than a few kisses. A week or so later I slept with the other guy in the house, which was fairly unexciting sexually but, as far as I knew, no big deal given they were so insistent about the open relationship deal.
Since then, DP and I got together - DP had been being an absolute sweetheart and taking me out for coffee and rather shyly trying to chat me up in the middle of all of this! And for a bit he stayed living with these people, then he and I moved in together. And now we've been together about 2 years and we're getting married soon. I've not spoken to this guy in over a year, and I never felt as if I'd got to know him particularly well.
So, I'm a bit gobsmacked and not sure what to make of his reaction. I don't particularly care whether he comes to the wedding or not, but I am surprised he wouldn't make up a polite lie about being busy. Is it not rude of him to say this to DP? And do you think I'm supposed to do something about it? I have literally no idea what I've done to offend him and neither does my DP. It leaves a bit of a nasty taste in my mouth as I'm worrying if there was more to the sexual stuff than I understood at the time.
What do you reckon to it all? (If this post made any sense at all, that is!)
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Is it me or is this downright strange/rude?
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JaneS · 16/07/2010 13:26
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