to fly off the handle because I am sick of everything generally!

[mosschops30]

I know dh thinks AIBU.

We;ve had a few cross words over the last few weeks, the issue of the birthday weekend where he wanted to come bcak early to surf , he has no respect for me and if we argue in front of the kids he will be totally out of order so now I dont bother, he says things like 'you ONLY work 24 hours' (yes and we also have 3 dcs and I cook your dinner every night and look after the house etc).
Then last night BIL comes over with new head camera thing hes bought for surfing. Was just bathing kids and trying to get them to bed, then they decide to film ds1 which he loves, then I make tea for everyone and sit down and dh says 'oh lets film mosschops, come on dont be so miserable' he knows I hate having a camera in my face and Ive been up since 4.30am so would just like to sit down in peace with cuppa.
So go to bed as only place I can get some peace.
Half hour later ds2 (8 months) is still downstairs and screaming his heart out, I can hear dh and bil just talking over him doing stuff with camera on computer.
I storm down pick up ds2, get him a bottle and as I walk past bil says 'oh yes we need a title for that'
and I say 'ive got a title for you 'what a pair of cocks'
dh says 'oh youre charming'

No doubt this will be my unreasonable behaviour and not his!!!!

So AIBU to want to sit down in my own house without a camera being stuck in my face and for dh to maybe see to our youngest child or at least bring him upstairs to me?

[diamondsandtiaras]

YANBU. Your DH was being an insensitive twunt.

[mumoffourgirls]

YANBU. Sounds like a real twat who needs a good kick up the arse, to busy playing with his brother and toys to be bothered seeing to the baby...

[mosschops30]

when I came downstairs he has him on his lap just bouncing him up and down but ds2 still crying.
I was fucking livid, but I can imagine the 'your wife is a psycho' look he will have got from bil (who has no gf/dw and no kids btw)

[mumoffourgirls]

If bil thinks you are a bit of a psycho then maybe he will think twice before coming round again to show off his new toys and distracting DH from the baby

[lazarusb]

They are selfish and thoughtless. No wonder your bil is single- maybe your dh will be too soon?! Poor baby, glad his mum takes care of him

[GinaFord9]

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[Alouiseg]

Mosschops, he sounds pretty unreasonable in most of the threads that you post about him tbh.

[mosschops30]

i know, theyre becoming a bit frequent arent they, although if I bring it up he says 'i do this, i do that' la la la and a big long list of stuff that makes me think he is a good dh.
I am hoping our holiday will sort us out, we both need a break and a rest

[ChippingIn]

mosschops - I have a 'title' for your holiday video 'Heaven or Hell?'.

It's difficult, because we seldom post when the DH's do something 'good', but we post frequently when they do something 'twattish' so everyone just sees the 'twattish' side of everyone else's DH's (generally speaking). So, yes, for a while now it does seem as though your DH could get a 'Big Twat' award - yet I am sure there is some good in him or you'd have kicked him to the curb right??

When you are tired and fed up everything seems worse - so maybe, if you hadn't been tired and pissed off, what you might have seen was DH trying to sort the baby out and the baby just not settling... it's not like they'd left him in the corner of the room on his own - maybe a possibility??

As for the video - I too hate being on videos and if I'd been up since 4.30 I wouldn't have been impressed either. Maybe you need to be a little less emotional (to not give them any bait) and quietly point out that having been up since 4.30, you'd really appreciate them not doing it while you feel shite and ask which of them is making you a cup of tea. Try not to give rise to their childish baiting.

Some men are immature and if you don't want them giving you 'the look' and 'taking the piss' it really pays to be calm & make clear statements, rather than stomping around.

Do you enjoy working? If not, why not tell your DH that as you only work 24 hours and it's not really contributing to the finances (I don't think that, but it's how he makes it sound!), that you have decided for family harmony to hand in your notice, that it's all too much while the children are still so young. When he coughs and splutters and says you can't afford to do that - then you can tell him he'd better not use only in conjuction with you & work again.

If you enjoy working - then try telling him that you working 24 hours doesn't seem to be enough for him, so you are going to go back full time - ask him what nurserys are on his way to and from work, so he can do the drop offs and collections?

Is he taking turns with the children in the night? If not, why not? (working full time is not an excuse if you work part time & do everything else for the kids).

Why is he not cooking dinner some nights?

It generally sounds like he is taking the piss, taking you for granted and expecting you to 'look after' him as well... he needs putting straight!

[mosschops30]

chippingin can you move in with us for a month
youre right he is good in lots of ways, and if im honest 99% of the time he will get up in the night to either ds's as im crap in the night and he has far more patience.

[ChippingIn]

What - to give you time to read that . I didn't realise it had turned into War & Peace 2010....

I could move in with you for a month - we could do a 'wife' swap - that would have him begging for you to go home

[mosschops30]

lol
you make some good points though I never come on here and say 'dh got up 4 times in the night to see to ds2' or 'dh said bugger dinner lets all go to nandos'
so he does have some good qualities

[IFancyKevinELevin]

Is it just having BIL round?

When DH has BIL or BF's round he turns into a right old bouncy billy big balls....

He is alright for the majority of the time, but when this happens he gets all alpha male gobby and if you stand up to him yes, you just get the "are you a pre-menstrual psycho?" look from his friends.

Tell them to pee off to the shed.

His bessie mate is coming over from Canada tomorrow, and he is already "practicing some X-box game" in preparation ...