to think I should only be held responsible for my own failings,

[xstitch]

not those of others?

[larks35]

well it depends... care to clarify???

[xstitch]

ok if some does something wrong and I have no control over that person. I shouldn't have to take the flack just because I do the same job.

[ChippingIn]

xstitch - are you a GP?

If not, it sounds like YABU, but if you want an actual discussion you really are going to have to elaborate

[xstitch]

No I'm not a GP but I do work in the NHS. I hate bad HCPs as much as the next person but there is only so much I can do to make up for what others have done. I am only one person. I just feel that every time I pick up the papers they are making sweeping generalisations blaming whole professions. I really should hide some mumsnet threads too.

[AnyFucker]

Hide the threads, love

I do, and I feel much better for it

[FlorenceDaphne]

Teachers are frequently held accountable for the failings of others. People seem to forget that, at the end of the day, no matter how much work YOU put in, ultimately, it is up to the child to make a bit of an effort.

[larks35]

xstitch just ignore bad press and crap threads, I'm a teacher and have to ignore what I'm told is public opinion. I know my worth through the people I work with and for, daily. As do you, you know how much you do for people, don't let ignorant, opionated fuckers people get you down.

[xstitch]

I really should after the grief I have had a work lately I feel so low I don't think I can face getting up in the morning. Just before anyone wants to tell me off for that I do get up, I am not expecting loads of gratitude but going a whole week without being threatened would be really nice (unlikely though). Oh and a week without being sworn at would be nice too (I know that's impossible)

[larks35]

I don't know what HCP is, but regardless of that you shouldn't have to put up with being verbally abused on a daily basis. It is your human right not to have to deal with that. I did think the NHS were getting better at supporting their staff in this way. If you are being abused in this way, would it be worth speaking to your union?

[Vallhala]

Agreed. Which is why, when a customer services person apologises for a mistake/bad service on the part of their company and does their best to help me, I always thank them and say that it's very kind but there's no need, because I know it's not their fault.

Hopefully you meet some like me as well as the less forgiving types.

[xstitch]

I do meet people like you val, unfortunately there is always someone who comes along and spoils it.

Florence, I know its not much consolation but I completely agree that there is only so much a teacher can do and all you can ask is they do their best.

[ChippingIn]

(larks - HCP - Health Care Professional)

xstitch - sorry you are going through this. Can 'work' not do something about the threats/abusive behaviour you are being subjected to?? Sounds bloody awful and I, for one, would not blame you for taking a 'duvet day'. I am sure that if you are a HCP there are lots of people who do appreciate you.

[xstitch]

chippingin thank you that's a lovely thing to say. There's not much they can do tbh other than ask the patient not to do it again. Some have been threatened with the police before but that's an absolute last resort.

[ChippingIn]

xstitch - do you have repeat patients (like the Dr's) or are they only there the once (A&E type thing)?

Would it make a difference if they did call the police a couple of times - could they build a reputation of meaning what they say??

OBTW - of course YANBU, you are only responsible for your own actions. However, a certain group of people will always see you as 'one of them' and 'all of them' are incompetent. Try not to take it personally and take the insults/threats/crap off when you take your work clothes off - leave it at work as best you can x