Told I am an evil Mum AIBU to

[Buzzybb]

Agree
Evidence is
1] It is one meal if you don't want it don't eat it that is fine,
2] No if you had eaten breakfast you would not be hungry, you can have fruit but not the chocolate bar
3] Why did you go at the rose bush? you knew it would hurt you
4]Stop I have not even touched it yet so it could not have hurt you
5] I know it is raining put on your boots and your raincoat and we will go feed the ducks.
I am such an evil mean Mummy

[firsttimemum77]

Sounds like me...and I am sooooo EVIL ...

[purpleturtle]

DD was shouting "You are horrible!" at me the other evening. I had just found her out for lying and was not impressed. She's 9.

However, from the other room, DS2 (almost 4) was shouting "Mummy is not horrible!".

I think that's a neutral verdict.

(Although, actually, I think I am an evil mean mummy, too)

[sorky]

Oh God, she wasn't one of those "do as you please" mothers was she?

"He wants to eat sweets all day, I don't think I should force a healthy eating agenda on him"

FFS that's why he's so fucking fat!!

No YANBU

[Buzzybb]

I have 5 little faces looking at me as I am telling them put on rain coats and boots and we are going to feed the hungry ducks and have a picnic in the rain.
And worse as we have to walk as there are to many kiddies to fit in the car. I have told them they are not made of sugar so will not melt in the rain and if they do the will be a medical miracle and be famous

[sorky]

hahahaha enjoy the ducks

[Buzzybb]

No Sorky worse it was dp, the children and their Nana

[MrsRhettButler]

buzzy i looove you... can we come with you?

[MrsRhettButler]

are you taking nana on a wet picnic too?

[upahill]

Ha I've said and done all those things and more!! My kids think Dh and I should be on 'The worlds strictest parents EVER'

[Honeydragon]

aaah - I too was evil over walking in the rain yesterday -

DS age 7 after swimming

"Can't you phone Daddy to pick us up"

"No Daddy is busy"

"Its wet and I am tireeeed, pleeeeease?"

"Yet you still have the energy to whinge, but not to walk"

"pleeeeeease, I'm begging here"

Drags feet, plods

"I caaan't make it, I can't"

"Yes you can, and if you drop down dead from your exertions Mummy promises to have Sorry, you were right, written on your tombstone"

"Mummy, you are evil"

"Son, we're actually home now"

kids love 'em

[Buzzybb]

No she is staying at home and Dp is hiding sorting the wash basket. Ok off to see who melts in the rain

[lazarusb]

My ds told me I was very strict this morning- then told me he thought that was a good thing!

[Buzzybb]

Mrs Rhett of course ye may come but be aware it is a fruit shoots and chocolate muffin picnic

[thumbwitch]

Well if that makes you evil then I am evil too! DS is only 2.7 and I've done most of those already. Of course, he can't tell me I'm evil yet but I get swiped with his little hand and told I'm bad mummy. Just because I won't let him have a cookie when he wants one.

[DastardlyandSmugly]

This is funny. My friend the other day congratulated me as DD (22m) wouldn't eat her dinner and I refused to get her anything else or let her have a yoghurt (which is what she really wanted). About half an hour later DD came back to the table and ate her dinner. Friend thought I was amazing for standing firm - I thought it was what everyone did.

[thumbwitch]

Not everyone D&S - only the sensible and sometimes brave ones.

[lazarusb]

Surely being told you are mean is one of the most rewarding experiences of parenthood? It means you are sticking by boundaries, thus being a fab mum!

[rockermom]

Good on you Buzzybb. DH & I do the same thing and thought people like us were few & far between because most people we come across seem to let kids away with not eating a proper meal.
I usually go by one rule at meal times - if a kid wants pudding without finishing their meal they can't have it. If they have enough room in their tummies for pudding then, they must have enough room for the more of their meal. If the kids are too full then they shouldn't be asking for pudding/sweets etc. Good to hear that you're standing firm. Keep it up.

[caramelwaffle]

Evil, cackling mummy here too, if that is the case

[EldritchCleavage]

Loving your parenting style, buzzyb.

Now, can we start an arranged marriages agency so our kids marry each other and not spoiled brats with pathetic parents? I have delightful DS I can offer up, handsome, chamring, muscly, intelligent, firmly parented, available for matrimony by about 2029?

[EldritchCleavage]

sorry, charming

[lisad123isgoingcrazy]

sounds like me.

[Honeydragon]

Oooooh like the deranged arranged agency marriage idea - that way in years to come Mumsnet won't have any of the "I don't like/get my MIL threads" .

[appledumpling]

Evil mummy here too. DS has just refused to eat his pasta but apparently has room for a biscuit. I think not .

[ProfYaffle]

Lol @ melting in the rain. Reminds me of my Nan "Go on, get out, you'll not melt"