I keep seeing it mentioned on different threads on here that if one partner earns significantly more than the other, it?s unfair to split bills 50:50. (This isn?t a thread about a thread I promise, but neither did I want to hijack another thread!)
He earns 1.75 times what I do, almost double. We have separate accounts that our salaries get paid into, then a joint account that we transfer a set amount into at the end of the month ready for all our direct debits to come out (rent, council tax, water, elec, gas, tv licence, tv, broadband and phone). There is supposed to be enough in there as well for food and sometimes petrol as well, but there never is. We?ve only lived together for about 4-5 months, so the amount we put in is still a learning curve.
I?ve suggested before that we should pay a total amount that gets split between us in the same ratio as our salaries. But he thinks that because we both use half of all the bills, the fairest way is to just pay half each. When I brought it up he even suggested that he would ask his dad what he thinks about it ? I dont know whether he thinks his dad would agree with him, but I thought that sounded a bit unnecessary so told him not to and we haven?t discussed it since.
He is otherwise fine with money ? he knows I have less to spend overall because of the bills, so for instance if we go out to dinner he will just pay. But lately we keep having to just increase the amount we put in the joint account (already up from £1000 to £1150) and to me it?s just taking more and more of my salary whereas £75 matters much less to him.
Would I be unreasonable to suggest this to him again and what could I say? What do other people in our situation do?
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BlairWaldorfsHairband · 13/07/2010 12:49
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