So is this bum sex malarky any good?

[GagaOlala]

Saw a previous headline and I want to know? Does it hurt like the first time and is it any good? Can a woman get an orgasm from it alone, or is it only good for the guys? And then there is the question of stools and I don't mean the three-legged kind.

Educate me please!

[TastesLikePanda]

But - it's Monday?!

[TastesLikePanda]

-lurking innocently-

[bibbitybobbityhat]

Are you 12?

[TitsalinaBumSquash]

Have i missed a few days??

[GagaOlala]

No I have kids and ave always been very precious about keeping that area of my life well sealed iykwim but am intrigued. Do most couples do it, are we weird that we don't?

[Marjee]

I don't think you are weird, I've been married 2 years, living together 8 years and have never taken it up the arse! If you don't want to do it then don't

[PurpleLostPrincess]

My xh (for a good reason!) talked me into trying it when we were on honeymoon in Paris, many many years ago. It was absolutely awful, I didn't enjoy it AT ALL and will never try it again. Thankfully, I've remarried and my DH isn't in the least bit interested in it, and even if he was, he would never put me under any pressure.

There must be people out there who enjoy it, and I've got the impression it's certainly more for the guys than the girls. I wouldn't recommend it though

[Poshwellies]

Wouldn't say it's one thing you have to try in life.

Feels like taking a shit backwards,hardly orgasmic.

Think it's the lack of prostrate that hinders the enjoyment.

HTH.

[funnysinthegarden]

s'alright. Tried it once or twice. You have to be VERY relaxed for it not to hurt. Tis all a bit urrrrggggghhhh though and gives ones DH thrush generally speaking.

Have to say though can be more stimulating than ordinary shagging...........

[scanty]

not with my piles and bum problems, no didley way!

[StableButDeluded]

Ooh no way, don't fancy it at all. Thankfully DH not interested either.

[funnysinthegarden]

ohhh no, not now obv after 2 children. Even the midwives were sniggering about my piles after I had DS2.

'You have a VERY large protrusion mrs funny, I have told all the other MW's and we are sniggering about it over our coffee'

[Fontella]

I've never fancied it and luckily I've never met a bloke who has fancied it (and there have been a few down the years - blokes that is). Don't think it's ever even come up in conversation?

[TheLadyEvenstar]

[Cheepz]

dh never asked to take that route, some previous bf's showed some interest but was clear in taking that option off the table...

you could always try it out in private with a vibe and a large tub of vaseline - if you are curious ...

[jendaisy]

I was always dead against it until I had a boyfriend about 5 years ago who was slightly obsessed with it...he was determined to train me to like it and I have to say it worked. he was kind of 'average' to put it nicely in the downstairs department, and I had to be really bloody turned on to feel like I was up for it. But if I was in the right mood it was really good. Since we broke up I have tried it again, DP has a bit of a fixation with it but he is hung like a bloody donkey and any attempts he has made have been painful. So yes, worth trying I would say, but only if you are feeling particularly filthy and very relaxed, and preferably drunk too.

[BaronessBomburst]

Finally! A bumsex thread! I keep hearing about them on other threads but have never actually found one before.

[Geocentric]

A well lubed condom helps as well, and keeps you from feeling about any possible debris...

[diamondsandtiaras]

debris?? There would be debris?? I've just gone right off my branflakes.

[EricNorthmansmistress]

hth

[queenofthecapitalwasteland]

coughing up morning coffee

This isn't something I thought I'd see on mn! I have tried, my OH is quite interested but never pressured. He's a bit 'average' as well so it wasn't painful or anything.

It does help to be very relaxed and I've never noticed debris but like poshwellies says, you have to get over the feeling of taking a crap (especially when he withdraws ). I never been that stimulated by it tbh but it doesn't bother me too much so it's something special for him, when I'm in the mood.

[stainesmassif]

one way street for me, much to dh's disappointment.

[BouncingTurtle]

Good grief I thought we were meant to be saving these for Friday night?

DH told me he has a g/f when at university who was always up for bum sex. Think he would like it again, but not me, not with my dodgy bowels!

Has anyone tried posting about it on Dadsnet?

[goodnightmoon]

it's terrible. an old boyfriend was keen and I stupidly went along with it. It took many attempts, all of which were painful and not sexy.

Then, years later, when we were merely friends, he boasted to one of my friends (in front of his friend and apropos of nothing) about how he'd f-d me up the a. That pretty much ended our "friendship." So maybe it is some kind of point scoring for certain men.

Fortunately DH has never expressed any interest and I would never encourage any interest.

[GagaOlala]

Well I am totally put of now. I went and googled it and nearly gagged at every bit of info. No, my anus was meant for one thing only and I aint going there, but each to their own......