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AIBU?

to find fellow campers selfish and noisy

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ledkr · 11/07/2010 18:12

Not sure if im just an old intolerant misery but we just got back from a weekend camping and last night a family of two women one guy and a teen daughter were playin loud rave music until 2 am. They had seen us during the day and saw we had a small child and i am pregnant. I would normally say something but they looked a bit nasty and i was a bit wary. I used earplugs and slept ok but dh was awake most of the night but didnt say anything cos he thought hed wake up me and dd. Some people said something in the end and as i predicted got a mouthfull,i did look before i used the plugs to see if there was a number we could call but there wasnt. The point is you pay them to provide you with a service the same as any accomodation so why should you be the one to have to complian and cause bad feeling. People were actually leaving a day early as they were tired and couldnt face another night. I like to think i am a seasoned camper but do find people very oblivious to other people. What do you think shall i just remember to pack my plugs every time i go haha

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sethstarkaddersmum · 11/07/2010 18:16

you should complain to the campsite. Some sites have more of a zero tolerance policy and are tougher about asking people to leave if they make a noise, others just ignore it.

you're not an intolerant misery - camping is never going to be completely quiet but music till 2 is ridiculous.

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BeerTricksPotter · 11/07/2010 18:16

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expatinscotland · 11/07/2010 18:17

I answered on your other thread.

There are sites that have quiet time after 11PM and ones that are much better managed than this one you were in.

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thrifty · 11/07/2010 18:18

yanbu, did you log a complaint with the site itself? most sites dont allow loud noise/music after 10 or 11pm. check on ukcampsite.co.uk for site reviews it normally states whether music or groups (which tend to be noisier are allowed.

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ledkr · 11/07/2010 18:26

dh just told me that on the other side of the site was a load of kids having a noisy party and swearing loads and people were shouting at them to be quiet. He said that the music next to us was more preferable!! amazing. I think i may start to avoid the big sites with pools and play areas even tho my dd loves them. seems to attract fools. I just dnt se why us the clients should have to be the ones to say something..get into a row upste kids etc etc. i was up at six with morning sickness and did debate putting on some loud music but then not fair on the other people around us. On another similar point, i also feel abit annoyed when people talk at the tops of their voices late at night one bloke had a voice like a fog horn and if he slid his van door open and shut once he did it a thousand times. I have taken 4 kids camping on my own and i used to just hush them up a bit if we got back late...now i am moaning but i can highly recommend the ear plugs for any fellow intoleranced like me.

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LuluF · 11/07/2010 18:36

No YANBU - we normally camp. DH is considerate and when the kids wake up at 6, he takes them to the play park for an hour or more as they are incapable of being really quiet. I argue that they're not actually being noisy just making a normal amount of noise for 3 kids, 5 and under and it's OK - but he still takes them off. But then I get really irritated when you get people right next to you drinking, playing music and talking loudly until the early hours (the same people DH is desperate for the kids not to wake up). It gets right on my nerves.

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kreecherlivesupstairs · 11/07/2010 18:44

YADNBU, me DH and DD went to Lake Como at half term, we ended up camping on a small site with mainly static caravans (probably about 30) there were 6 tents in the camping part. We put our tent up as far away as possible from the others (being Britisih you understand. We went into town to get some food and it started raining (biblicallY). By the time we got back to our site it was monsoonlike rain so we ran into our tent. I had clocked the fact that mostof the campers were back and three cars had French plates on them. Well, the French people thought it was acceptable to chat, shout, sing, play games, run around in the rain at top volume. I couldn't understand what they were saying but clever clogs DH speaks French and told me it wasn't nice. It went on until about 12.30 and I ran out of patience. I kneeled at the front of our tent and shouted at them to shut the fuck up. When I went to settle up the next morning the owners said they'd complained. Cheeky twats. I was sorely tempted to let their tyres downs. YANBU.

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SpringHeeledJack · 11/07/2010 18:52

trouble is if you do the ones with the pools and clubhouses etc there's a lot of rowdy behaviour at night

but if you go for the old field-with-a-bog it tends to attract the Vocal Middle Classes- so not only do you get free range undisciplined children you also get loud parenting at 6 am: eg "Oh Tabitha what a lovely caterpillar! shall we put it on the Nature Table?" or: "I know let's all make some bunting!"

[inserts earplugs violently]

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JaynieB · 11/07/2010 18:57

YANBU - its a real pain, we've been scouring the internet looking for sites that have rules about noise before we booked. I'd contact the site and complain and also make comments on any feedback sites - its fair enough if you know its going to be like that, and some people want to go to places where they can and fair play to them. But like you, I don't.
DP even contemplating joining CCC...but is scared this means he is turning into his Dad.

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lalalonglegs · 11/07/2010 19:50

First camping trip last year, idyllic site in Kent, perfect, fish-stocked lake in the middle, very laid back atmosphere, kids had fantastic time until the group in our area decided to have a party until 4am. Refused to stop even though campsite advertised itself as family-friendly. Since then, I make it a priority to ring in advance and check what a site's policy is on night-time noise and how they enforce it .

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JGBMum · 11/07/2010 20:00

Have you considered joining the C&CC, no swimming pools (i think), but most have play areas, and we have always found that with both C&CC and CC there is much less poor/selfish behaviour than at other sites.

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ledkr · 11/07/2010 20:04

it bizarre isnt it? Yes lulu i am the same shushing and hissing at dd in the morning quietly unzipping tent.I am so glad its not just me cos i actually love camping but feel a bit grumpy with the noise.Spring h j yes i can imagine that. Mr fog horn van door slammer was on a slightly field/bog site and the kids obviously had friends with them and very posh voices "oh ya ya" you know the type and i thought that is the shape of things to come. Kreecher in as we are sharing; i did actually shout "can you open and close your fucking door a few more times please mate" in my best fog horn and from the comfort of my sleeping bag. Dh was not too impressed!

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HousewifeOfOrangeCounty · 11/07/2010 20:05

As someone said earlier you have to avoid the sites with a clubhouse and or pool. Having said that we did once have a bit of a nightmare with some other people on a forestry commission site and they're all carrot cake and organic malarky in the shop.

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ledkr · 11/07/2010 20:14

haha yes why dont they p off to the south of france or something. Sit outside their tents guffawing and drinking wine from real glass glasses and slamming their 4x4 doors there is no happy medium really is there as long as people continue to be selfish. I was going to put the radio on in the car this am and then i noticed an elderly couple behind us enjoying some toast and reading the sunday papers so i didnt, surely that is a normal state of mind.

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loubielou31 · 11/07/2010 21:23

YANBU. Things like that can really spoil a holiday. I think you were right not to confont them that night if you thought they were going to be abusive but you should definitely have complained to the site managers in the morning if not to them directly, people are usually a bit more sheepish when they're not tanked up. They would probably still have thought you were a middle aged killjoy just trying to spoil their fun but it might have meant a better nights sleep the following night.
Clubs like the Camping and Caravanning club do have strict policies on noise but still need someone to enforce them. The best site I know is a small municipal on the west coast of France and the lady who runs it is VERY strict on noise, I got told off for closing the loo door too loudly at 11.30pm!

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lazylula · 11/07/2010 21:41

So far we have chosen sites that have no pool, clubhouse ect to avoid the noise. Also the 3 we have used have 11pm no noise rules and everyon has respected that. I got a little cross when the owner of one site we stayed on was mowing the lawn directly opposite our tent at 9pm one night, he was literally 6ft from our tent and I had just put the children to bed and it seemed a very odd time to be doing it!

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ledkr · 11/07/2010 22:10

Looby I laughed at your post. yes u would imagine they were young but actually older than us! They were tattoed and one had pink hair. music they played was hard core dance. grow up I felt like saying

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SiriusStar · 11/07/2010 22:16

ledkr- were you camping in swanage by chance?
We were there with some other families and you described our night. Loud music and shouting/talking, then people shouting at them to be quiet.

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ledkr · 11/07/2010 22:26

no sirus woolacome. Did you have ear plugs? I am in my bed now clean white sheets mmm. Love camping but love coming home too

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ledkr · 11/07/2010 22:29

btw thanks for all suggestions to complain. I have head office address and will write to them tomorrow

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SiriusStar · 11/07/2010 22:41

No ear plugs.
It was a particularly noisy site. All night long.

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