Hello all,
Not sure how to start as I am new both to mumsnet and to this topic... but I guess I'll just give it a go :-)
I'm in my early 40s and have a 6 year old biological child. Unfortunately, we have secondary infertility and aren't able to have more children, so we have been thinking about adoption. We are just in the thinking, discussing, reading phase and I must confess it all seems a little overwhelming.
One of the issues that worried me was that I read a couple of articles from people who had some really bad experiences with their adopted children. On both cases the children apparently had severe mental and behaviour problems and the adopting family could not cope, especially as the social services failed to provide adequate support. Moreover, they claimed that the social workers lied and failed to disclose the full extent of the children’s issues before the adoption went ahead.
I wonder if anyone here has had similar experiences, where they felt the social workers were not totally honest with them in regards to the health/background/mental issues of the children. Of course I know that, sadly, a large number of children waiting to be adopted have problems due to neglect and abuse, and we as prospective adoptive parents have to be prepared to deal with those problems. But I feel a little uncomfortable thinking that I might be lied to and not be fully informed of the severity of the issues my child might have.
Thank you :-)
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mynameisLuka16 · 19/08/2014 22:25
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