Hello all, long time poster but name changed.
I am adopted, was from birth and am not a young person.
My parents both died quite a few years ago but some things have taken me a long time to be able to sort.
Today I was looking through old slides my Dad took of us all when we were kids he was always taking photo's.
Lots of me and my sisters in the bath and then a whole heap of babies I had no idea who they were.
There must be about 20 and they are all only a few months old.
I hadn't looked before because I knew/thought they were my baby photo's but today I thought I might get lucky and manage to find one even earlier than the ones I had iyswim. I know that sounds a bit mad.
I can remember mum telling me that she couldn't foster children because she would be too selfish and not want to give them up, she never said that she and Dad had done and to the extent.
Its made sad that it was painful for them, it must have been. She told me it was bad enough for the first few months of adoption because she was scared stiff during the time when our bms could have changed their minds.
I am proud, shocked, and wish they had told me so I could have understood, at least had a conversation.
I just wanted to tell somebody, now I will have to tell dsis tomorrow who will be as shocked as me.
I am shell shocked really, just didn't expect it.
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