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newusernameplease · 15/08/2014 00:00

Hello all, long time poster but name changed.

I am adopted, was from birth and am not a young person.
My parents both died quite a few years ago but some things have taken me a long time to be able to sort.
Today I was looking through old slides my Dad took of us all when we were kids he was always taking photo's.
Lots of me and my sisters in the bath and then a whole heap of babies I had no idea who they were.
There must be about 20 and they are all only a few months old.
I hadn't looked before because I knew/thought they were my baby photo's but today I thought I might get lucky and manage to find one even earlier than the ones I had iyswim. I know that sounds a bit mad.
I can remember mum telling me that she couldn't foster children because she would be too selfish and not want to give them up, she never said that she and Dad had done and to the extent.
Its made sad that it was painful for them, it must have been. She told me it was bad enough for the first few months of adoption because she was scared stiff during the time when our bms could have changed their minds.
I am proud, shocked, and wish they had told me so I could have understood, at least had a conversation.
I just wanted to tell somebody, now I will have to tell dsis tomorrow who will be as shocked as me.
I am shell shocked really, just didn't expect it.

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FamiliesShareGerms · 15/08/2014 07:42

Didn't want to read and run

Is there any indication who the other babies are?

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newusernameplease · 15/08/2014 11:35

hello Families

Unfortunately not.
There are a couple with the name Jane, but I was told a long while ago it was a common name given by the nursery nurses when babies hadn't yet been christened. It was mine as well till I was christened.
It would be lovely if there was info as I could reunite the photos with the people, who maybe don't have a picture of them so young.

I am still in a bit of shock today and dsis can't quite believe it either.
She just took the photos that were hers and wasn't bothered with others, so I have several boxes to wade through.
I haven't found anymore so hopefully this is the last of them.

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