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Attachment difficulty? Too early to tell? What would my next steps be?
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namesmayhavebeenchanged · 14/08/2014 19:16
I am four days into intros with a 9 mo girl. I'm a lurker but not a regular poster but have n/c anyway. I hoped people might be able to help me with something that's on my mind?
Everything is going really well. We have been mostly at FCs so far but ADD has been willing to play with us, let us feed and change her, give her her bottle etc since day 1, well minute 1 really. On day 2 we took her for a walk in the park and she was happy to be off with us away from FC for more than an hour. I carried her the whole time we were there and she didn't show any sign of being distressed. She doesn't seek out FC while we're in the house or show any signs of being uncomfortable to have all her care needs met by us when, let's face it, we're strangers really.
Which is really worrying me :( Since she's had one FC since she was just days old who took her home from hospital and we had been told her attachment was good I was pretty hopeful about it but I am now worrying that these are all signs that she is not at all securely attached.
So my questions are:
1) Is this worrying? Too early to tell?
2) If the answer to 1 is 'yes' or 'could be' what are our next steps? We are all set us to do lots of skin to skin and take care of all her primary care needs ourselves (or just me if necessary) but is there anything else we should do e.g. flag up to LA now etc?
3) what other questions should I be asking you all? What should I look out for?
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