Help me become a big sister to my gorgeous new brother!

[MultipleMama]

I thought this would be the best place to ask.

My dad is close to bringing him home for good (currently in the visiting/meeting sibling stage). His SS recommended felt it would be good for him to get to know us before he meets us (my brother and I) as not to overwhelming - we live in different countries.

However, I feel out of depth, which is weird because I'm mama with toddlers the same age DB (2yo). He's painfully shy and doesn't initiate conversations on his own, when answering questions he's hesitant and looks to my dad for reassurance. He never let's go of his stuffed Lion; he's had it since he was born.

Anyway, I was talking with him this morning and asking him questions about his trip to the zoo, and it went very well, he actually giggled, as I made animal noises but other times it can be very awkward and I have no idea what to do to change that.

My brother and I get to meet him officially in a couple of weeks, and I'm so nervous and have no idea how I should act. I'm scared that I'll end up acting mother-like and not only scare him but make my dad feel bad. I don't want the SW thinking that things are going to work... it means so much to my dad for us all to get on well and for DB to like and get to know us.

What can I do to make my gorgeous DB feel more comfortable talking to me (he actually gets on very well with my older brother who is also a man of few words) and how do I know what boundaries I shouldn't overstep?

Help! Tips and advice are very welcome.

[MerryInthechelseahotel]

I would be guided by him. Take it gently and quietly. If you are a mum to a child at similar age you might find you are intuitive when the time comes. He sounds gorgeous and you sound like you will be a lovely big sister.

[MultipleMama]

Thanks :)

I skyped with him last night to say goodnight and he blew me a kiss :)

Thank you for your advice.

[Italiangreyhound]

Sounds lovely.