As I do not currently 'work' (for an income), I can't get adoption leave. Therefore DP will be taking adoption leave and his work is quite generous, he can basically have the same as if he'd be taking maternity leave. Or in other words, he can have that bit of adoption leave that the main carer gets (frequently the mum), rather than the adoption 'paternity' leave that the other person (frequently the dad) gets. Despite me being 'at home' anyway and thus when DP returns to work, me being the main carer. Thanks DP's work! We're very grateful.
The question is, when does this adoption leave (for the main carer) start? Must it be at placement (at the latest), or can it begin, say, 2 months AFTER placement?
HR was (understandably!) a bit confused with this question. The thing is, I will be at home anyway, and for various reasons it would make more sense for us, if DP would take e.g. 2 weeks of annual leave at placement, then go back to work, then start adoption leave proper a couple of months later. The reasons are to do on the one hand with how his work works (think e.g. teachers, coordinating leave with term times and such), and on the other hand with when we predict really being able to make the most of both of us being at home for a while. We think it would make sense to promote attachment to one of us (me) initially, and only later widen it to both; it would be a bit silly if we were both around at home at first, but promoting attachment to just me, then wanting to promote attachment to him as well just when he would be due to return to work. (But we might make a big turnaround on this once the reality of placement kicks in! To which we are open to.)
Does anybody know how this works - is it possible to start adoption leave at a later point, if the other parent is at home in the mean time?
I do realise we are very privileged to even be wondering about this question. Nevertheless I would appreciate any help or pointers!
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64x32x24 · 21/07/2014 14:56
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